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On Thursday morning, I am going to approach my main coordinator (Let’s call him Alex) in charge of a ministry that visits the sick and elderly in about 5 hospitals and care centers.
NOTE: WILL BE IN DETAIL, SO IT WILL BE LONG.
I am in a prayer group part of the Catholic Charismatic Renewal. A year ago, we had a retreat. At these retreats, we have many people live them. Couples, single parents, wives (because according to the father, those are female things), husbands (because according to the wife, it isn’t their time or for them), and young adults. This certain married couple lived this retreat. After the retreat was over, the husband, in front of everyone gave his testimony about his marriage before the retreat. He, along with his wife, made the decision to be better for one another. One of our servers (let’s call her Norma) of our prayer group, began to have a close relationship with (let’s call him George). Then began rumors of them going out. Then with more time passing, rumors began of them living together. (And this is with them still attending the prayer group.) My mother, found herself with George’s wife. And she told him about him leaving her for someone else and how her kids would tell her that he would take them to his new apartment with Norma being there and sleeping over. My mother told my coordinator and sub-coordinator of my prayer group about this after my mom had imprudently (she said this herself) asked Norma if she was with George. To which Norma replied, “I am not living with him or sleeping with him! I don’t know where these rumors are coming from!” My mom just stayed quiet and said to herself, and I never asked you for that information.They took her as being gossipy and to stop listening to rumors. Then my mother, along with witnesses, went to the deaneries which are the leaders of the prayer groups coordinators. They took it seriously and brought them all together. George, who had been attending the growth classes and prayer group on Monday nights, was not portraying a life of testimony and conversion. I think that’s how you say it. >.< In the meeting he and Norma began to call my mom a gossiper and a liar. That she had been the one who started the rumors. One of the deans stood up and shut them up and told them that if they continued to portray that kind of behavior that they were going to have to leave. The witnesses began to say that the wife had also spoke to them and how they had seen them together also. The deans made the decision that for half a year, Norma and George would remain seated and not be able to serve. And after six months, they would then have another meeting and see if things have progressed with them or not, spiritually and maturely. And my mother also had to sit but for only three months. Due to it “being fair” for Norma and George. Through this process, before them being sat down in the prayer group. They began attending the ministry of visiting the sick and elderly. For some time, it had come to the surface that Norma was not with George anymore. But after 3 months, he began attending again. As of last month, she is the sub-coordinator of the ministry in one hospital. George is the coordinator of events.
The reason I want to speak with Alex is this:
Does he know about George being married?
Does he know that George left his wife to be with Norma?
Is it right for them to be there openly? Especially in charge of something?
Some people had left because of George and Norma. (Not portraying good leadership, both maturely and spiritually, often times making immature jokes and speaking bad words and I know this also because whenever my parents are around, they do not say hello or even turn to them. Even to some of the people of the prayer group. That portrays unforgiveness. In which one time George preached about it about how were supposed to be right with our brothers and sisters in Christ and forgive them… O_O WHAT???)
Is it right for them to be able to preach?
Is it fair for them to be leaders of something when there have been others who have been going for years and are not leaders now?
I need help in how to approach Alex with this. I am trying to grow in being a mature leader and being able to approach people without giving them wrong hints. THANK YOU!
NOTE: WILL BE IN DETAIL, SO IT WILL BE LONG.
I am in a prayer group part of the Catholic Charismatic Renewal. A year ago, we had a retreat. At these retreats, we have many people live them. Couples, single parents, wives (because according to the father, those are female things), husbands (because according to the wife, it isn’t their time or for them), and young adults. This certain married couple lived this retreat. After the retreat was over, the husband, in front of everyone gave his testimony about his marriage before the retreat. He, along with his wife, made the decision to be better for one another. One of our servers (let’s call her Norma) of our prayer group, began to have a close relationship with (let’s call him George). Then began rumors of them going out. Then with more time passing, rumors began of them living together. (And this is with them still attending the prayer group.) My mother, found herself with George’s wife. And she told him about him leaving her for someone else and how her kids would tell her that he would take them to his new apartment with Norma being there and sleeping over. My mother told my coordinator and sub-coordinator of my prayer group about this after my mom had imprudently (she said this herself) asked Norma if she was with George. To which Norma replied, “I am not living with him or sleeping with him! I don’t know where these rumors are coming from!” My mom just stayed quiet and said to herself, and I never asked you for that information.They took her as being gossipy and to stop listening to rumors. Then my mother, along with witnesses, went to the deaneries which are the leaders of the prayer groups coordinators. They took it seriously and brought them all together. George, who had been attending the growth classes and prayer group on Monday nights, was not portraying a life of testimony and conversion. I think that’s how you say it. >.< In the meeting he and Norma began to call my mom a gossiper and a liar. That she had been the one who started the rumors. One of the deans stood up and shut them up and told them that if they continued to portray that kind of behavior that they were going to have to leave. The witnesses began to say that the wife had also spoke to them and how they had seen them together also. The deans made the decision that for half a year, Norma and George would remain seated and not be able to serve. And after six months, they would then have another meeting and see if things have progressed with them or not, spiritually and maturely. And my mother also had to sit but for only three months. Due to it “being fair” for Norma and George. Through this process, before them being sat down in the prayer group. They began attending the ministry of visiting the sick and elderly. For some time, it had come to the surface that Norma was not with George anymore. But after 3 months, he began attending again. As of last month, she is the sub-coordinator of the ministry in one hospital. George is the coordinator of events.
The reason I want to speak with Alex is this:
Does he know about George being married?
Does he know that George left his wife to be with Norma?
Is it right for them to be there openly? Especially in charge of something?
Some people had left because of George and Norma. (Not portraying good leadership, both maturely and spiritually, often times making immature jokes and speaking bad words and I know this also because whenever my parents are around, they do not say hello or even turn to them. Even to some of the people of the prayer group. That portrays unforgiveness. In which one time George preached about it about how were supposed to be right with our brothers and sisters in Christ and forgive them… O_O WHAT???)
Is it right for them to be able to preach?
Is it fair for them to be leaders of something when there have been others who have been going for years and are not leaders now?
I need help in how to approach Alex with this. I am trying to grow in being a mature leader and being able to approach people without giving them wrong hints. THANK YOU!