Contacting ex-spouse for annulment..I'm worried

[JoyfulOne]

Don’t worry too much–most people do not even open the letter from the Tribunal.

My husband contacted his ex-wife, hoping to get copies of her first marriage license/divorce decree–or at least the name of her first husband. At first, she was agreeable, but he had just caught her off guard. After a week, he called her back and she said not only would she not give him any information, but that she would fight the anullment.

The Tribunal sent her notification and gave her several weeks to respond. She never did.

Just pray and leave it in God’s hands.

 

[Nordar]

rm, try not to worry about it, put it in God’s hands~ You are in my prayers,

 

[johntkd]

I am starting the annulment process as part of RCIA. My only concern is the contact with my ex-wife. We were married young, had a horrible divorce, and have had no contact in the past 8 years. We were married for 18 months before she filed for divorce.

We had no children, so there is no need for contact. I am scared of her getting something in the mail from the Tribunal and opening all sorts of old wounds. I was told that she will be contacted, but can choose not to cooperate.

It took me years to get over all the hurt, and I don’t want it dug up again.

She was physically abusive to me, and once when I tried to leave, I had to push her out of the way. She filed a police report telling everyone that I was the physical one. Come to find out she had all sorts of mental health issues that were not treated. I am worried that she would make the same accusations today.

I don’t know if I can take the pain of this again.

Any suggestions on how to get through this? I am tearing up just thinking about it.

well for one thing you dont have to deal with her at all if ou dont want to the tribunal will send her a questioaire and she iether responds or she dont.once you send in paperwork you really have nothing to do but sit and wait for them