No no no . . . don’t sell the laity short.
There have been many great contemplatives among the laity. I think the problem is that too often people describe contemplation as something that it’s not. They end up associating it with the monastic life.
The truth is that most Catholics are not monastics (monks or nuns). Most Catholics are involved in the activities of the secular world in one way or another, whether you’re a priest, deacon, religious, mom, dad or single person. We’re all involved in the secular world from the moment we wake up to the time we go to bed. Yet, if you observe, many men and women are people who have deep life of prayer. They take their prayer into their daily activity and they bring their daily activity to prayer.
All of those wonderful things that we read in spirituality books about contemplative prayer are analyses. The truth is that we don’t realize that we’re going through the movements of prayer. The writers put into words what is happening in the life of prayer, which most of us don’t notice.
If you take people like Bl. Teresa of Calcutta, you will not find a busier person than she was. The woman spent hours working and yet, we you examine her life very carefully, you find that everything she did, prayed through it. She was a true contemplative who lived a very hectic life; but she was very much in touch with God.
She would sit before him in the Blessed Sacrament and talk to him about her life, her work, the poor, her sisters and the things that were on her mind and God. At other times, she would just sit and ask him to lead her and to come be her light. She felt nothing except darkness. She had no clue that she was growing in prayer. The Holy Spirit was leading her each step of the way and she was going higher and higher.
Just begin to pray. As I always say, the most noble and most perfect form of prayer is the combination of the Liturgy of the Eucharist and the Liturgy of the Hours. Many people underestimate the Liturgy of the Hours, because their looking for something that feels more transcendent. The fact is that you can’t get much more transcendent that praying to God with his own words. The psalms themselves speak to us. That’s why they have been part of our Judeo - Christian tradition since the time of David.
Don’t think that a lay person cannot be a contemplative. Look at Catherine of Siena. She was a lay woman, not a religious. She had no clue that she was a contemplative or a mystic. She just went through the daily motions of praying and working. She would speak to her spiritual director about what she experienced. It was her spiritual director who realized that she was having mystical experiences. Catherine didn’t have a clue what it was all about. She knew that she loved God and he loved her and they spoke to each other. It all began with the Eucharist and the Office of the Paters, because she did not learn to read until she was in her 20s. I believe late 20s. She made the effort to learn to read, because she wanted to use the breviary.
So, if you have not started praying the LOTH, begin with that and daily mass. God will lead from there.
The Cloud of Unknowing is a wonderful spiritual work. We did a lot of work with it in post graduate theology. For me, the greatest part of that work is the title. In prayer, you enter into a relationship with a friend whom you thought you knew very well and with a self whom you think you know. As you go along, you realize that you don’t know as much as you think You don’t really know God as he truly is. You don’t even know yourself too well. Things become clearer as we pray. Yet, at the same time, we seem to go deeper and deeper into a cloud without knowing where we’re going. However, we simply trust God and we follow along.
I repeat, the high level of interior prayer are not reserved for religious. Look at Catherine, Thomas More, Elizabeth of Hungary, King Louis IX, Catherine de Hueck Doherty and many other laymen and women. These folks reach great heights in prayer. One of the wonderful books that I read in my younger years was written by Catherine de Hueck Doherty, Journey to the Lonely Christ.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF