Can this realistically be achieved? Does the couple need to split? Prior to marriage, when engaged, with the advice of any sensible Catholic, to be able to avoid sex, I only met my boyfriend in PUBLIC places such as parks, ice cream parlours, etc. I found this the only realistic way to avoid sex when young and very attracted to each other.Don’t have sex, at all. Ever. If she really is risking death if she gets pregnant she ought to abstain from all sexual activity. I know that sounds radical to post 1960’s Americans, but she won’t die from not having sex, and might from having it. Using contraception will result in mortal sin, which kills the soul (and thus is worse than physical death), but abstaining from all sexual activity is morally licit. Remember, we are not obligated to have sex, even if we are married, especially if it might lead to death.
Nope. Not true. No such exception.Forgive my ignorance, but I had always been led to believe there was an exception to the use of ABC for a mother who has had three emergency c-sections, as the risks of complications increase with each c-section. Does anyone know for certain regarding this specific matter if there actually is an exception?
Thanks for clearing that up!Nope. Not true. No such exception.
Were you in danger of death if you had sex? No? If so I bet you would have been able to abstain. If pregnancy is as dangerous as the OP says for this woman then she shouldn’t be having sex at all. If she can’t abstain totally, she’ll have to use NFP. Using contraception is worse than dying as it leads to eternal spiritual death.Can this realistically be achieved? Does the couple need to split? Prior to marriage, when engaged, with the advice of any sensible Catholic, to be able to avoid sex, I only met my boyfriend in PUBLIC places such as parks, ice cream parlours, etc. I found this the only realistic way to avoid sex when young and very attracted to each other.
How is a couple with those type of circumstances be able to totally abstain whe attracted to each other and in love?
Ummmmm… I’m wondering how you could’ve had a Catholic wedding and gone to Pre-Cana instructions in a 3.5 month period of time from meeting to marriage? Can you explain?Original poster here.
Yes, we will be abstaining. She really wants to get the depo shot, me, I* have had experience with celibacy before. Complete celibacy as in not even alone. Its not a chain to wear, its really not.
I could write 10000 words trying to explain how deeply we are in love but it would be a waste b/c that’s not enough to explain all of it. There’s a reason we were engaged 1 month after we met and married 2.5 months later.
“Would you have sex even if you could die?” Umm. Yea. Probably. Heard of the AIDS virus? People do it all the time. That bit of the brain is quite willing to risk itself sometimes. We aren’t taking the chance, but there are many who would.
A good EWTN article: ewtn.com/library/MARRIAGE/CCLBC.TXT
The law only requires instruction. It does not require Pre-Cana classes, nor does it specify any timeframe. vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P3W.HTMUmmmmm… I’m wondering how you could’ve had a Catholic wedding and gone to Pre-Cana instructions in a 3.5 month period of time from meeting to marriage? Can you explain?
There is no elephant in the room. The OP stated that the problem is with the kidneys, not the uterus. Depo Provera does not treat kidney disease.The real elephant in the room is that we really don’t know the intent of the doctor who wants to give the depo shot. I assume it must be depo provera. Please correct me if I’m wrong.
God’s law is the Truth, not dependent upon Man. It has nothing to do with whether or not men can get pregnant.Maybe I shouldn’t say this, but I think that if men could get pregnant, the Church would have something called “just” birth control or maybe “birth control in self defense.”