Contraception is just like bulemia!

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Sorry Palamite,

Diarrhea is not a conditon indicative of a healthy human body. Infertile times during the month ARE a part of a normal healthy woman’s cycle.

Your analogy falls to pieces because it implies that women are always fertile except when ill health brings an infertile time. In reality, God demonstrably equipped the woman’s body such that it is NOT fertile MOST of the time. As noted by others, the human woman, unlike most animals, is often interested in sexual activity even when NOT fertile. From this, it is reasonable to conclude that God has no problem with married couples enjoying the unitive aspect of sex even though it WON’T result in a baby every time.

Since the physical evidence supports this view, it is NOT reasonable to suppose that married couples must always TRY to ensure that their sex is fertile. For the record, the Catholic Church makes no such claim. (But you argue that this is the logical outcome of Catholic teaching) Catholic teaching on NFP is simply that observing the way God created woman’s fertility and making disciplined decisions about sometimes abstaining from a wholesome act is enourmously different from engaging in the act, but artificially intervening in the outcome.

You do a darn good rationalization, but you throw out all your credibility when you claim that Catholic teaching on contraception is something new foisted on mankind in the 20th century. Any literate person with a computer or a library can easily find out that ALL significant christian groups considered contraception sinful until the Anglicans created your prized rationalization circa 1920 at Lambeth. It is the contraceptive-permissive position that is the new invention foisted on unsuspecting people, not the Catholic position.

Additionally, your facts don’t add up. I’m no biology expert, but the fact that conception is the union of sperm and egg was hardly a new and exciting discovery when the Anglicans became the first to cave on contraception. Nor are condoms an invention of the 1900’s. Science has certainly advanced since the early fathers, but it is NOT necessary to discard the insights of early fathers simply because their vocabulary was limited by their knowledge. YOU assume they would agree with you today, but what I have read does not support this position at all. The only new idea on this issue is that one can attempt to artificially remove the procreative nature from sex and still enjoy (undamaged) the full benefits of sex in a healthy marriage. That idea would have been laughed off as silly 100 years ago in serious christian circles and it is no coincidence that our society has embraced the natural outcome of contraceptive thinking: that sex is merely a pleasurable recreational activity with no serious moral or religious meaning.

P.S. Sneering about a dearth of patristic support for current Catholic teaching on contraception is a bit akin to claiming human cloning is OK since neither the bible nor the fathers condemn it. It simply wasn’t the same sort of issue when the fathers wrote. No pill, no IUD, condoms would have been obnoxiously intrusive animal intestines. Furthermore, it was an easy case to make back then since there was no massive movement pushing contraceptive acceptance. As always, it takes controversy to force clarification and detailed explanation of issues that were taken for granted when everybody more or less agreed.
 
Nohome said:
cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg.htm

I think it is in the link called “use of contraception”, but I just scanned it and could not find the table that would be most useful for this discussion. It is 46 pages long and I can’t take time in the day to find this, perhaps tonight.

Be sure to look at how low the numbers (of users) are for both rythmn and NFP. Even if they are combined for failure rates, NFP is obviously not getting nowhere near 99% in practice. The 99% is always qualified with “perfect use” and let’s face it, nobody is perfect.

The number I repeatedly see is 87% for “typical use”, which I believe is far more realistic than “perfect use”. Actually, considering how few use NFP, I suppose the effectiveness is really a moot point. If “it doesn’t work” doesn’t scare people away, “nobody uses it” certainly will.

Nohome

Can’t find it, don’t have time either. Maybe you could post the direct link. Perfect use of the pill is not always easy either, and neither is the condom, because no one is perfect. My friend has 3 children, 2 of which she conceived on the pill.
 
luvmykids,

I think we’re spinning our wheels now. Besides this, I think I may be at the point of annoying the moderators here, so I think I’ll just say we don’t see eye to eye on this (duh).

As a parting note, what I will say is that the heart of this issue (for me) is intentions, not methodologies. As far as I’m concerned, any sort of “family planning” is in some wise a failure - it is a failure to be in total mastery of one’s self, and often a failure to trust God. Those Fathers who would have spoke poorly on this matter, would have had nothing good to say about either method (esp. someone like Bl.Augustine of Hippo.)

But this is the thing about the Church - I don’t believe it’s a society of the already perfected. It’s often a society of the barely tolerable. The question is never “am I worthy” of going to the Chalice. That’ll never happen. The question is “would doing this do me more harm than good”. In Orthodox prayer life, there is really no sense that we can stand with a totally clean conscience before God - we are never justified in our own right. In every prayer rule I’ve seen that’s pretty clear - practically every prayer is prefaced by an acknowledgement of our frailty and ongoing failures.

This is, as I perceive it, something which separates the Orthodox anthropology from that of the RCC. Perhaps this is why we have a hard time seeing eye to eye on something like this, or on other issues like divorce. Perhaps sin has a different significance for us, as does forgiveness and maybe even salvation itself.

Hence, why I (perhaps seemingly stubbornly) can’t get over the “intentions” stuff. For me, it’s like the man who looks at the woman lustfully - he may not have done anything about it, but his heart is still an ocean of adultery and that he “didn’t do anything” probably has very little to do with himself as it does circumstances. These are the kind of things Orthodox Christians look at when considering matters like this. IMHO it is where genuine repentence comes from - not offering any sanitization of just what it is we’re doing. It seems to me the RC “NFP - good; ABC - bad” position is all about sanitization/pretense.
 
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Georgette:
Yet, this is exactly what those who practice contraception are doing! They are focusing on the pleasure as the end itself, while denying the actual end the pleasure is only intended as being a means to, namely the creation of children and the strengthening of the bond of husband and wife. And just as gorging and vomiting reduces the dignity of the person doing it, so too does contraception reduce the dignity of the people involved, as they become willful partners in the mockery of the intended purpose and beauty of the marital act.

URL: chronicleofameanderingtraveller.blogspot.com
so unity of the spouses only occurs when they focus on the creation of children? Isn’t this typical of some morbid moralisation - contracepting couples are only interested in pleasure - as in a physical sensation. If the ‘means to an wnd’ argument is taken to it’s conclusion, then a couple should only have sex when they intend to make a baby.
 
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cynic:
so unity of the spouses only occurs when they focus on the creation of children? Isn’t this typical of some morbid moralisation - contracepting couples are only interested in pleasure - as in a physical sensation. If the ‘means to an wnd’ argument is taken to it’s conclusion, then a couple should only have sex when they intend to make a baby.
The problem is that things keep getting taken out of context, and parts of the reasoning are missing here. The unity of the spouses is for the unity AND procreation. The 2 are both required. It’s not only about getting pregnant. If it were, then God would have made women continually fertile as manualman said above. Take the whole explanation, not just bits and pieces. The NFP couple is doing nothing to manipulate the body.
 
maybe not but the nfp practicing couple are having sex KNOWING that it will not result in a child. This separates the procreative from the ‘unitive’ in the mind.

The goal of the sexual expression is not procreative but for gratification, which is exactly the same argument made against contracepting couples (?).
 
I’ve said it everywhere else today, might as well add it here too.

I can’t believe anybody who has ever tried NFP can claim it is morally the same as a barrier method. NFP requires that the couple with a serious reason to avoid further kids abstain from sex when the woman is fertile. Oh by the way, that’s when she’s friskiest. Trust me, you think hard MONTHLY about whether your reason is serious or not. I know at least one couple who realized in a romantic moment that their reason to avoid was spurious. Those who survey contraceptive methods would call this a failure. I suspect God calls it success.

Those using barriers sever the God given instinct we all have towards having more kids and the practice of it can go on indefinately without the practitioners being presented with any obstacles that require contemplation.
 
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manualman:
I’ve said it everywhere else today, might as well add it here too.

I can’t believe anybody who has ever tried NFP can claim it is morally the same as a barrier method. NFP requires that the couple with a serious reason to avoid further kids abstain from sex when the woman is fertile. Oh by the way, that’s when she’s friskiest. Trust me, you think hard MONTHLY about whether your reason is serious or not. I know at least one couple who realized in a romantic moment that their reason to avoid was spurious. Those who survey contraceptive methods would call this a failure. I suspect God calls it success.

Those using barriers sever the God given instinct we all have towards having more kids and the practice of it can go on indefinately without the practitioners being presented with any obstacles that require contemplation.
Great post!
 
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cynic:
maybe not but the nfp practicing couple are having sex KNOWING that it will not result in a child. This separates the procreative from the ‘unitive’ in the mind.

The goal of the sexual expression is not procreative but for gratification, which is exactly the same argument made against contracepting couples (?).
Here’s another spin that I doubt has been considered.
Today, the researchers reported they have found that the lost fetuses tend to be those that implant late. (NEJM, June 10.) The implantation of the fertilized egg in the wall of the uterus is necessary for the nourishment and growth of the fetus. Surviving pregnancies implanted only about one day earlier, on average, than the non-survivors: 10.5 days v. 9.1 days from fertilization to implantation. But the day-by-day trend was clear. If a fertilized egg implanted by the ninth day, it had only a 13 percent chance of loss. The risk rose to 26 percent if the implantation was on the tenth day, 52 percent on the eleventh day, and 82 percent thereafter. All three implantations after day 12 ended in early loss.
niehs.nih.gov/oc/news/embryos.htm

When does NFP allow a couple to have sex? Late in the woman’s cycle. Based on the linked research, could this mean that one of the ways NFP avoids pregnancy is spotaneous abortion? Think about it, NFP by its timing could be an abortifcant, not unlike the pill. I doubt the RCC would ever research this to see if there were a link, but it is probable that NFP could rely, at least as a secondary mechanism on spontaneous abortion brought on by fertilization late in the woman’s cycle.

Nohome
 
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Nohome:
Here’s another spin that I doubt has been considered.

niehs.nih.gov/oc/news/embryos.htm

When does NFP allow a couple to have sex? Late in the woman’s cycle. Based on the linked research, could this mean that one of the ways NFP avoids pregnancy is spotaneous abortion? Think about it, NFP by its timing could be an abortifcant, not unlike the pill. I doubt the RCC would ever research this to see if there were a link, but it is probable that NFP could rely, at least as a secondary mechanism on spontaneous abortion brought on by fertilization late in the woman’s cycle.

Nohome
You really are digging for something to try to discredit NFP. I know this, but what it is really showing me is that you truly don’t understand a woman’s cycle, and if you would learn NFP and how it works, it might give you a little more insight into the human body.

Here is some basic biology of the human body here: There is no possible way NFP could effect this, as the implantation of the embryo in no way shape or form has anything to do with the timing of sex. The implantation occurs AFTER the egg has already been fertilized. Fertilization occurs at ovulation no matter when you have sex. If you have sex 4 days before ovulation, the sperm just wait for the egg. If they survive the egg gets ferilized. If you have sex 1 day before, same thing. After the egg gets fertilized it travels down the fallopian tube and takes about 3 days to reach the uterus where it then looks for a place to implant. This is where it depends on when it can find a place to implant as to when it will implant. Having nothing to do with the couples sex life at this point. But if the woman is on the pill, her uterus is not conducive to implantation due to the hormones, (something of which an NFP’er is not using) and the embryo cannot find a place to implant, therefore dying.

NFP is NOTHING like the pill. Not even close, but nice try. 👍
 
To clarify the above poster, NFP researchers have indeed done tremendous research on the fertility cycle. It is know quite conclusively that sperm can live in fertile mucus for up to three days. It is also known that the woman’s egg can no longer be fertilized beyond three days after she ovulates. Thus, NFP practitioners trying to avoid abstain when cervical mucus is present before ovulation and for three days after peak mucus signals ovulation (This is the Billing method, BTW). Thus if no sperm is ever present when an egg is available… no fertilization.
 
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manualman:
To clarify the above poster, NFP researchers have indeed done tremendous research on the fertility cycle. It is know quite conclusively that sperm can live in fertile mucus for up to three days. It is also known that the woman’s egg can no longer be fertilized beyond three days after she ovulates. Thus, NFP practitioners trying to avoid abstain when cervical mucus is present before ovulation and for three days after peak mucus signals ovulation (This is the Billing method, BTW). Thus if no sperm is ever present when an egg is available… no fertilization.
This was exactly what I was saying. And actually, I think sperm can live longer than 3 days. Speaking from my own experience with one of my pregnancies.
 
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luvmykids:
You really are digging for something to try to discredit NFP.
I really don’t need to discredit NFP, why bother when such an tiny minority of the population uses it (Catholic or not)?

Thank you for the biology lesson, I see now that the study has to do with the timing of IMPLANTATION rather than fertilization, my bad.

Nohome
 
Well I sure missed a lot! Baby goes to the hospital for four days “and all thread breaks loose!” It was fun reading and catching up.

Manualman: I like your analogies. I am rethinking using this ‘contraception like bulemia’ discussion. Especially by adding the part about the early Roman parties. I like it. Please keep them coming. I am interested.

Gardenswithkids and Luvmykids: My heart was with you during my prayers in the hospital. I knew you were going to be facing some opposition and would have a lot of lone defending to do from the female perspective. Sometimes being in the minority can be fun, but a whole lot of work!

I will state again. Bulemia and contraception are both control issues. Those we are debating are mixing arguments and trying to make one fall by using another. Since they see no difference between NFP and contraception, we lose our credibility with them. That’s ok with me. Our credibility rests on authentic Truth. NFP is information. Contraceptives are not.

I think I am really starting to like the contraception-bulemia argument even more after reading this thread while missing out on posting. I read through it with the thought, “Are all of these rationalizations for using contraception similar to the rationalizations I have heard from bulemics?” The answer was a consistent “yes!”

“Who says its wrong?” “who does it harm?” “who are you to judge?” “How do you know my life is not fulfilling?” “What’s wrong with pleasure?” “Why do you say one action is tied to another and cannot be separated?”

My dear friend is a recovering bulemic and contraception user. We have had both discussions. I have held her hand as she had rotted teeth pulled from years of bulemia. I have also been a shoulder to cry on that her marriage bed is anything but the “great” that she and her husband portray it to be.

Sorry this is so long. I had a lot of thoughts to catch up on.
 
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LittleDeb:
I think I am really starting to like the contraception-bulemia argument even more after reading this thread while missing out on posting. I read through it with the thought, “Are all of these rationalizations for using contraception similar to the rationalizations I have heard from bulemics?” The answer was a consistent “yes!”

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yes, just like chewing gum is no different than bulemia because it thwarts the natural end of eating. The fact that most couples use abc and yet every one is them is considered to have a sick, dysfuntional sex life because of it, well how rational that is really depends on our point of view…
 
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cynic:
yes, just like chewing gum is no different than bulemia because it thwarts the natural end of eating. The fact that most couples use abc and yet every one is them is considered to have a sick, dysfuntional sex life because of it, well how rational that is really depends on our point of view…
And lets not forget about those who drink diet soda, they want the pleasure of drinking a sweet, bubbly beverage but they choose to fill their bodies with chemicals to avoid the calories! Truly a silly analogy, but maybe not to the NFP cult.

Nohome
 
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cynic:
yes, just like chewing gum is no different than bulemia because it thwarts the natural end of eating. The fact that most couples use abc and yet every one is them is considered to have a sick, dysfuntional sex life because of it, well how rational that is really depends on our point of view…
This keeps coming up, and it is not the same thing. Chewing gum is for CHEWING. It does not thwart the natural end of eating. People who chew gum, still eat and chewing gum is also used for freshening breath. It is not the same thing as eating food and then throwing it up.
 
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Nohome:
And lets not forget about those who drink diet soda, they want the pleasure of drinking a sweet, bubbly beverage but they choose to fill their bodies with chemicals to avoid the calories! Truly a silly analogy, but maybe not to the NFP cult.

Nohome
Drinking diet soda is still meeting it’s natural end. Down the esophagus and out your urethra. The person getting the pleasure of drinking the soda is still getting the effects of the soda, even some of the hydration. Granted it is not the best form of hydration, but it still is none the less. You are thirsty, you drink soda, you don’t throw it up!
 
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Nohome:
And lets not forget about those who drink diet soda, they want the pleasure of drinking a sweet, bubbly beverage but they choose to fill their bodies with chemicals to avoid the calories! Truly a silly analogy, but maybe not to the NFP cult.

Nohome
How can you compare soda to sex? Soda isn’t natural, anyway. There is no “natural purpose” to soda. What would it be? Nutrition, hydration, caffiene? Not to mention there is nothing sacred about gaining weight - it really can’t be compared to the creation of human life, unless you to not veiw human life as having any innate value more than a fat cell does.
 
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cynic:
yes, just like chewing gum is no different than bulemia because it thwarts the natural end of eating. The fact that most couples use abc and yet every one is them is considered to have a sick, dysfuntional sex life because of it, well how rational that is really depends on our point of view…
Do people chew gum to avoid being nourished? C’mon.
And you also seem to be arguing that if the majority does something at one time, it must not be unhealthy. I don’t think I even need to point out why that statement is illogical.
 
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