Contraception, Sex out side marriage

[guynevard]

I Have a 17 year old friend, (I am 18) she goes to my school, and she wants to become, Catholic, she is going through the motions with the Parish Priest.
However she Persists on practicing Contraception outside marriage with her supposedly Catholic Boyfriend. I am her sponsor and have told her that it is a mortal sin and she will not be able to receive Holy Communion, if you be become received, until she has been to confession with contrition and firm resolution not to do it again.

What else can I say to her?
Should I stop being her sponsor?
Should I talk to the Priest?

Thanks

Guy

 

[eelpis]

Talk to the priest.

Pray for her.

 

[newbetx]

I Have a 17 year old friend, (I am 18) she goes to my school, and she wants to become, Catholic, she is going through the motions with the Parish Priest.
However she Persists on practicing Contraception outside marriage with her supposedly Catholic Boyfriend. I am her sponsor and have told her that it is a mortal sin and she will not be able to receive Holy Communion, if you be become received, until she has been to confession with contrition and firm resolution not to do it again.

What else can I say to her?
Should I stop being her sponsor?
Should I talk to the Priest?

Thanks

Guy

You need to have some patience and some help. I would say that most converts think of the Church’s position on ABC and premarital sex as, well, old fashioned stuffy attitudes. I think if she really wants to understand and her bf wants to respect her, they will need understand the implications of premarital sex. Contraception is just a side issue with them. A form of protection they think that makes the behavior ‘OK’.

I would speak with the priest about this for help and guidance. This woman needs to be introduced to the Truth. Theology of the Body covers the value of sex from a very different and proper perspective. Right now she is having “fun”. She needs to know the Truth. I think you may be a good person to help her.

Maybe the parish has a program about chastity. Maybe they can get a copy of one of Evert’s TOB for teens DVD’s.

Telling anyone it’s wrong won’t do any good as long as the majority say it’s OK. To counteract the culture, the person has to understand what they get out of proper relationships. Your friend needs to get an education, not a lecture, if you understand what I mean.

Peace and keep us posted!

 

[thistle]

I Have a 17 year old friend, (I am 18) she goes to my school, and she wants to become, Catholic, she is going through the motions with the Parish Priest.
However she Persists on practicing Contraception outside marriage with her supposedly Catholic Boyfriend. I am her sponsor and have told her that it is a mortal sin and she will not be able to receive Holy Communion, if you be become received, until she has been to confession with contrition and firm resolution not to do it again.

What else can I say to her?
Should I stop being her sponsor?
Should I talk to the Priest?

Thanks

Guy

You should also remind her that contraception within marriage is also a grave sin.

 

[puzzleannie]

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What else can I say to her?
Should I stop being her sponsor?
Should I talk to the Priest?

Thanks

Guy

talk to the priest who is conducting the confirmation classes (I assume that is what you mean by going thru the motions). tell him why you will no longer serve as her sponsor. Make it simple. One sentence is enough. after that, not your problem and noyb. You do owe her the courtesey of telling her why you will not be a sponsor. one sentence will do it, not a sermon. But do leave the door open for her if she decides to change her mind and become sincere about this.

 

[tm30]

I Have a 17 year old friend, (I am 18) she goes to my school, and she wants to become, Catholic, she is going through the motions with the Parish Priest.
However she Persists on practicing Contraception outside marriage with her supposedly Catholic Boyfriend. I am her sponsor and have told her that it is a mortal sin and she will not be able to receive Holy Communion, if you be become received, until she has been to confession with contrition and firm resolution not to do it again.

What else can I say to her?
Should I stop being her sponsor?
Should I talk to the Priest?

Thanks

Guy

What a painful situation for you. If it were me, I would make another attempt to explain the situation to your friend, and that she needs to explain this to the priest, who, hopefully, will inform her that she cannot enter into the Church while disagreeing in conscience and action with a teaching that involves mortal sin.

If she refuses to talk to the priest, then I would state that you have no choice but to step aside as her sponsor. That’s some tough love, but agreeing to become a Catholic and openly defying her teachings is a mockery to God. Whether or not other people do as she’s doing and get away with it is irrelevant.