The only thing that you would use to defend your logic is some claim that a deity says this is how it is.
That turns out not to be the case.
Catholicism is a religion of both faith and reason. The teaching of the Church is not arbitrary, random or simple assertion. It has a basis in reason.
So, yes, there is a reasoned argument for not using ABC. That reasoning is, however, holistic, and can’t be understood by anyone who refuses to address the whole of what it means to be married, or who does not understand that Church teaching applies to the whole of a human life.
The reasoned argument against ABC is not just something that Catholics propound, by the way. Protestants do too, though with more than 30,000 different sects, that fact gets lost in the noise.
Consider, as a starting point, the effect that a woman unilaterally choosing to have her tubes tied would have, NOT on her fertility, but on her MARRIAGE! Her husband wants children, she denies them to him. And permanently so.
Or, if sexism is problem for you, reverse the situtation. A husband unilaterally decides to have a vasectomy. While not as long term or as high an impact, the use of ABC shares in the negative aspects of this scenario.
The point you are missing is that marital sex is not just a generative act, but a unitative act as well. That sex is not just about pleasure, but bonding. That it isn’t just about the moment, but a statement about the desire and willingness to join two into one. It is about re-iterating a sacrament, not just treating it as a physical, momentary, here-and-gone act that is essentially selfish and ultimately lonely.
When you really, truly GET this, then you can see and understand how fornication, adultery and serial monogamy are all covered, in part, by this same act of reason. To truly and properly bond with your marital partner, you must have sex only with them, ever, through out your life time, and that the act must not be a kind of mutual masturabtion, but must in fact be a unitative act . . . that two must work together towards forming and maintaining that unique, special and sacaramental bond.
Physically, this “two beome one” obviously occurs in the child. Two parents DNA join into one child. But emotionally and spiritually, the joining of two into one occurs in a properly ordered and executed marriage. NFP does not act against this, because neither partner can effect a decision about this multi-faceted act unilaterally. The acts required to effect NFP are “two acting in concert, as a corporate unified entity.” IOW, two must act as one.
Oh, and as for the charges of sexim and self-interest: the pill has negative effects on a woman’s receptivity and ability to enjoy the act, not just her health. It isn’t as clear cut as you make it out to be. One can make similar arguments about every single kind of ABC extant.
