Convalidating Filipino marriages in Singapore

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I’ve read about this on other Catholic sites as well, so it seems like it’s somewhat of a common problem in the Philippines. I’m glad many eventually get their marriages convalidated but am sad that many chose not to have a Church wedding because of the expenses. I pray that all Catholics in the Philippines will have an opportunity to marry in the Catholic Church regardless of their financial situation or the pressures from others to have a fancy reception. I also agree with much of what Fr. Luciano says in the article.
 
Good for couples doing this.
I live in the Philippines and know some Catholic couples have only a civil ceremony. This was the case of my wife’s niece who was had a civil marriage a year ago and spoke vaguely then of “convalidating” her marriage later on… Unfortunately, such couples aren’t married at all.
A woman who worked for us got married a month ago in the Church. They were married at the same time with some other couples. They aren’t well-off, but when they married in the Church with other couples in a simple ceremony, the expenses were little or nothing. The cost of a wedding in such a case here in the Philippines was no factor in keeping them from being married in the Church.
 
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Good for couples doing this.
I live in the Philippines and know some Catholic couples have only a civil ceremony. This was the case of my wife’s niece who was had a civil marriage a year ago and spoke vaguely then of “convalidating” her marriage later on… Unfortunately, such couples aren’t married at all.
A woman who worked for us got married a month ago in the Church. They were married at the same time with some other couples. They aren’t well-off, but when they married in the Church with other couples in a simple ceremony, the expenses were little or nothing. The cost of a wedding in such a case here in the Philippines was no factor in keeping them from being married in the Church.
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Yeah, I think some of them misunderstand the Church’s teachings on marriage and perceive their convalidations as merely a “blessing” of their marriage.

I did read about those single Church ceremonies with several couples marrying at a time-- I think it’s a good way to keep costs down. 👍
 
This is becoming an issue everywhere

Couples can’t afford the fancy wedding reception so they get civically married instead to avoid inviting anyone.

I believe parishes need to recognize this and start advertising to their parishenors what I call “Rectory Weddings.”

Small little weddings in a chapel or in the Rectory with just a priest or deacon, bride & groom, and two witnesses.

And they can also offer what I call the “parish wedding” option where they get married during a regular parish mass (either a daily mass or a Sunday Mass)
 
I would suspect that a significant part of the problem is catechesis, and money is used as a partial excuse.

But then, I have been accused of being a cynic…:rolleyes:
 
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I would suspect that a significant part of the problem is catechesis, and money is used as a partial excuse.

But then, I have been accused of being a cynic…:rolleyes:
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Oh, I agree. However, I also believe that people don’t realize there is a “church version” of “getting married in city hall.”
 
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