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jasminepetal
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I’m 24 yrs old and I started speaking to my father again after awhile of not being in contact. We’ve been in contact for several months now.
(Background info: My parents divorced when I was 5, but I still had to visit him weekly, even though I never really wanted to see him. He has never lived with me and we never formed a father-daughter bond.)
I decided to talk to him on the phone to keep in touch (months ago) and do what I felt was the right thing. Even though I want to forgive him and move on from the past, I’ve felt very uncomfortable when we speak. I am an introverted/introspective/gentle type of person and he’s very outgoing and aggressive. He is pushy with a lot of things and when I say I’m not interested in something, he will continue on anyway. I’ve told him plenty of times that I feel pressured by him and try my best to tell him when I don’t feel comfortable in the conversation, but it happens again and again - often a different subject, same pushiness.
He is a persistent person, which has its benefits in some aspects of life, but in this situation, it just makes things worse. I feel that his intentions are good though.
He calls to speak to me almost everyday and leaves long voice-mail messages when I don’t pick up the phone, whereas I intended to only talk to him a little bit once in awhile when I first contacted him again.
I find myself getting very frustrated and irritable when he calls.
My sister stopped speaking to him entirely a few years ago. I wish I could do this, but I feel God might not be happy with me and it might be the wrong thing to do.
My question is: What would you advice someone in this situation? Is it morally wrong if I don’t speak to him much at all?
Thanks!
(Background info: My parents divorced when I was 5, but I still had to visit him weekly, even though I never really wanted to see him. He has never lived with me and we never formed a father-daughter bond.)
I decided to talk to him on the phone to keep in touch (months ago) and do what I felt was the right thing. Even though I want to forgive him and move on from the past, I’ve felt very uncomfortable when we speak. I am an introverted/introspective/gentle type of person and he’s very outgoing and aggressive. He is pushy with a lot of things and when I say I’m not interested in something, he will continue on anyway. I’ve told him plenty of times that I feel pressured by him and try my best to tell him when I don’t feel comfortable in the conversation, but it happens again and again - often a different subject, same pushiness.
He is a persistent person, which has its benefits in some aspects of life, but in this situation, it just makes things worse. I feel that his intentions are good though.
He calls to speak to me almost everyday and leaves long voice-mail messages when I don’t pick up the phone, whereas I intended to only talk to him a little bit once in awhile when I first contacted him again.
I find myself getting very frustrated and irritable when he calls.
My sister stopped speaking to him entirely a few years ago. I wish I could do this, but I feel God might not be happy with me and it might be the wrong thing to do.
My question is: What would you advice someone in this situation? Is it morally wrong if I don’t speak to him much at all?
Thanks!