Converts, what was it about the way that Catholics lived their life that attracted you to the faith?

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Real Juliane,
I made the mistake of posting from my heart with very limited time. Was your response intended to be helpful,…or hurtful?
Certainly not meant to be hurtful. But now that you are a Catholic, you must know better than thinking that some Catholics are not Christian, surely? At the time, did you think that the Charismatic movement were the “true” Catholics?

Your wording, “believing Catholics,” seems to imply that the Charismatics are the “believing Catholics.”
 
Ultimately, it comes down to consistency.

The teachings of the church are consistent and the people who I know in the Catholic community try to integrate their faith into every aspect of their lives. It’s not just a Sunday am thing. It doesn’t matter what side of the political spectrum they are on.

Also, seeking knowledge and intellectual growth aren’t frowned upon.
 
Honestly, whenever someone Catholic asks me, why did you convert, my answer is - because that’s where God wanted me and told me to go. Aside from one very nice woman last week, this answer is usually not sufficient for people and met with more odd looks and questions.

Sadly, although I had an interest even as young as twelve and as an adult, no one was helpful or welcoming. Sorry. 😦

Every time I expressed an interest in learning or going to mass with someone I knew who was a practicing Catholic, etc. the replies were quaint and even those who lived in the same area never even told me where the nearest parish was unless I asked for directions. ( much less invited me )This was a huge departure from dealing with Protestants.

Sadly, even a very good friend of mine who was one of the only two or three Catholics I knew, laughed at me when I spoke to him regarding my intent and interest. He laughed and replied, " do you even know what day it IS? It was a holy day I was unfamiliar with coming from a Baptist background. End of conversation. This was someone who knew very well my belief in God, past extensive involvement in my church and that I had given a very precious rosary of mine from France when he was sick…

Finally, like a scared child, I went on my own one night. The sweetest lady asked me if I was okay because I was near tears due to other things. Even though there was a small language barrier - I went on the night for Hispanic services and my Spanish isn’t what it once was- she was so kind and so in love with Christ and Mother Mary. We talked for some time, I went and joined her with their rosary group and stayed for mass. She made arrangements for me to meet the priest the following day. 🙂

I take these experiences with me and pray I can be half the evangelist and representative of our Church that she was to me.

Small side note- this woman was so very sweet and continued to call me and sit with me if I ever ran into her at the church. Months later, I tried to give her a fairly nice watch ( I don’t believe she owns one and can’t buy much that isn’t a necessity) I told her the time she spent with me meant so much , etc - she said she couldn’t accept it as all gifts were Mary’s. 🙂 so, I guess I finally need to donate it for a parish auction Or something because she isn’t changing her mind!
 
Real Juliane,
I made the mistake of posting from my heart with very limited time. Was your response intended to be helpful,…or hurtful?
don’t worry about, you did nothing wrong and were sharing from the heart and shouldn’t have been jumped on.
 
Months later, I tried to give her a fairly nice watch ( I don’t believe she owns one and can’t buy much that isn’t a necessity) I told her the time she spent with me meant so much , etc - she said she couldn’t accept it as all gifts were Mary’s. 🙂 so, I guess I finally need to donate it for a parish auction Or something because she isn’t changing her mind!
So sweet! 😃

OP, by the title of the thread, it seems like the intended audience was people who converted after being attracted to the lives of Catholics, but since others have posted to the contrary, I guess I will too.

I wanted to become Catholic because I was in love with the Church, but it felt like a different, alien religion than the Christianity that I had been raised with. Even though personal objections to Christianity were answered in Catholicism that did not seem to be answered in any other church, I was still afraid. I had made mistakes before and felt that this might be a private ‘fad’. I told God how attractive Catholicism was and asked that He remove this love if it was wrong; instead the love grew and grew, and with it came confidence.
I had found out by accident that a couple of acquaintances were Catholic. They were very nice people, but almost everyone in my area seems nice. Those whose lives might have singularly impacted me are the private, quiet people that hardly anyone seems to see; I didn’t meet them until much later, and I still don’t know them very well. Some things are clearer from inside, but if I was still coming in from outside and looking mainly for attractive lives, I don’t think I could tell the difference between Catholic and non-Catholic Christians.
 
I had a Catholic friend I met in Girl Scout camp, and after that since we lived in different towns, I would visit her for weekends a couple times a year, and she would visit me for weekends. My parent were divorced – and tho my mom was somewhat religious, they had seemed more focused on worldly things. Her family was intact, they seemed more humble, and less focused on worldly things, except her mom wrongly admired my mom.

Also my mom wondered why I had picked a friend from a lower class, and I hadn’t seen that, and I think that actually made her family more dear to me.

My friend is a very soft-hearted person, with a soft spot for injured animals, etc. Still in old age she is meek and unassuming, sweet and gentle.

Later when I met my husband-to-be, a Catholic from India, I was quite ready to convert…I think bec of my friend and her in-tact, humble family. Also a couple of years earlier I had a dream about the Eucharist as God radiating love and power from the tabernacle, even though I didn’t have much knowledge about it and didn’t really understand the Catholic beliefs re it.

However…45 years later after conversion I’m getting pretty turned off of some Catholics here at CAF who are just the opposite of my friend. They have Catholic listed as their religion, so I take them at their word, but they seem arrogant and intolerant, and especially hate environmentalists like me, calling us all sorts of names like Earth worshippers and baby-killing population controllers, refusing to accept that most environmentalists are in it for pro-life issues, concerned about the harm and killing of people thru environmental harms, as well as others of God’s creation. They refuse to believe there are any environmental problems that harm and kill people or that we need to mitigate them. Some even suggest they’ll be driving their SUVs and Hummers the long way home, etc, just to emit more pollution. They are probably just making mean jokes, but if they are rich enough to have SUVs and Hummers, they are certainly rich enough to waste gasoline.

I have always been anti-abortion; but that is not my only pro-life concern, just a very important one, and it seems to me that people who say they are anti-abortion, but refuse to acknowledge that we are killing people in other ways, such as thru environmental harms, to me those people don’t come across as being genuinely anti-abortion…it seems just more a follow-the-leader fad for them, or something.

In 2007 we finally got cable TV and I eagerly awaited watching EWTN – of which I’d heard so many good things. I was soon surprised and dismayed that they failed to speak about the environmentalism expressed BXVI’s Loretto homily in their commentary, then later shocked by their snarky remarks against environmentalism and disgusting mis-portrayals of environmentalists, and lack of knowledge and concern about pro-life environmental issues, and their hosting of speaker priests with ties to big oil who cast doubt on climate change and lobbing serious ad hominems against environmentalists, while spouting a vague (damning by faint praise) notion that of course we should be stewards of creation.

And my own parish – when I asked the priest some 8 years ago if he could say something about global warming, he said he was afraid of the Rush Limbaugh Catholics in the parish (and I think he may have been a Rush Limbaugh Catholic himself).

And my own Carmelite 3rd order also seems have some anti-environmentalists, tho I rarely discuss it there. I was even thinking at one point of leaving the order and becoming a Franciscan (who is supposedly the environmentalist saint), but then I got to thinking about my Carmelite roots and one thing that attracted me to Carmel was its focus on detachment from worldly things (nada, nada, nada), and that is precisely what is needed to solve environmental problems, and besides the EWTN anti-environmental folks are Franciscan.

If it were not for JPII, BXVI, and our new Pope Francis, and their high degree of environmentalism, I’d be pretty much turned off of Catholicism at this point. Much of the rest of the Catholic Church is demoralizing to me, as is the anti-environmentalism expressed here at CAF. I cling to Jesus, Mary, and our holy fathers, and pray for the Church.
 
The problem is that environmentalism has turned into a political ideology.

It’s not about preserving the Earth, but (for some, not all) about power/controlling people.

It’s also become very “black/white”. If you don’t support the specific agenda of environmentalists, then you want bad air and dirty water. That’s not true, but that’s the propaganda.

Since we live in a free society, it’s fair that we’d argue about these ideas. Most people aren’t extremely one way or the other, but that’s how politics is presented these days.

It’s not helpful.
 
Thank you all who have replied. I really enjoy reading this, and every story of a conversion is so powerful, regardless whether it was (somewhat) inspired by other people and how they live.
 
, **and their hosting of speaker priests with ties to big oil **who cast doubt on climate change and lobbing serious ad hominems against environmentalists, while spouting a vague (damning by faint praise) notion that of course we should be stewards of creation.

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What the heck. You have GOT to be kidding. Now you’re smearing PRIESTS with this ridiculous “ties to big oil” garbage? You really go too far. Your blind spot is as big as the Gulf of Mexico which contains many safely-drilled deepwater oil wells.
 
The problem is that environmentalism has turned into a political ideology.

It’s not about preserving the Earth, but (for some, not all) about power/controlling people.

It’s also become very “black/white”. If you don’t support the specific agenda of environmentalists, then you want bad air and dirty water. That’s not true, but that’s the propaganda.

Since we live in a free society, it’s fair that we’d argue about these ideas. Most people aren’t extremely one way or the other, but that’s how politics is presented these days.

It’s not helpful.
Just what I mean – anti-environmentalism – very demoralizing to me and harmful to the Catholic Church, making it ugly.

If a person were concerned about a few bad eggs in the environmental movement – that would be no reason at all not to be a strong and vigorous enviornmentalist.

Just as despite the many many bad eggs in the Catholic Church, I am still committed Catholic. I just have to look past the gargoyles who neither themselve go in nor allow others to go in, but scare them away instead.
 
Certainly not meant to be hurtful. But now that you are a Catholic, you must know better than thinking that some Catholics are not Christian, surely? At the time, did you think that the Charismatic movement were the “true” Catholics?

Your wording, “believing Catholics,” seems to imply that the Charismatics are the “believing Catholics.”
I received 1st communion in India, which was not at all into the charismatic movement or any other kind of movement. I received it from a very saintly priest – my husband’s uncle – who was vicar general of his diocese and also spiritual director of the Carmelite convent there. He was my best instructor in the faith by his words and by his life. At his funeral we understood how holy and beloved he had been – in attendance were some 10 bishops, 100s of priests, 1000s of nuns, but the person who impressed me the most was a raggedy old lady, extremely poor, who came and was crying, giving her final respects; when we enquired, they told us she had been a Hindu whom he had converted to Catholicism.

Also, when we first married, even tho we were students, we actually avoided the campus church (where they had folk Masses & guitars), and went instead to a traditional church with organ music, etc. That actually resonated better with my Protestant upbringing and type of music, more staid and sober, with beautiful organ music.

I think the charismatic movement arose some years after I started going to Mass in 1969 (at least I was unaware of it until then), but my husband and I always disliked the movement – the way they are expected to hug and kiss each other, which we think is highly inappropriate. I remember going to a New Year’s party in his brother’s parish in upstate NY that was sort of into the charismatic movement, and when it was getting closer to midnight, my husband and I slipped away upstairs to the church and prayed there, partly so we could avoid the rampant hugging and kissing. Luckily none of our own parishes were ever into the charismatic movement.

But these are only side issues, different styles, different strokes for different folks. We don’t like it bec we feel it could lead to sexual sins, divorce, etc.-- and there were some divorces and also apostasies among those upstate NY charismatics we met.

As long as they can hug and kiss other people’s spouses without falling into sin or making their hugging/kissing partners fall into sin, then no problem…it is just a very ripe occasion for sin.
 
Mother Angelica seemed so happy on her TV show. I thought, “there has to be something there if a nun is that happy.” Of course, I didn’t really know anything about being a nun, and thought it was probably a depressing way to live. I quickly learned that was not true at all.

I wanted to be filled with that kind of joy.
 
Mother Angelica seemed so happy on her TV show. I thought, “there has to be something there if a nun is that happy.” Of course, I didn’t really know anything about being a nun, and thought it was probably a depressing way to live. I quickly learned that was not true at all.

I wanted to be filled with that kind of joy.
I think she has attracted many people to the faith. She is so wise and shines with love for Jesus.

People have such ‘interesting’ ideas about nuns and monks. Have you seen the film No Greater Love, about Carmelite nuns in London? A few years ago at a film festival I asked the director if he was surprised by what he found in that convent. (He wasn’t catholic and didn’t have a clue about nuns before he got the idea to make the film). He said he was amazed and even shocked by how human and down to earth and happy they were. 🙂
 
Mother Angelica seemed so happy on her TV show. I thought, “there has to be something there if a nun is that happy.” Of course, I didn’t really know anything about being a nun, and thought it was probably a depressing way to live. I quickly learned that was not true at all.

I wanted to be filled with that kind of joy.
Before converting, I also used to watch Mother Angelica sometimes. I thought it was funny because I barely accepted Christianity, but there I was watching a Catholic shopping channel…😃 I didn’t care for the material being advertised, but it was fascinating to watch the nun trying to sell it. She is so practical and has a good sense of humor.
 
Really to begin with it was not a Catholic who caused me to begin investiagating the faith. But it was months and months of hateful and negative talk in my old church against the Catholic faith that got me curious and seeking answers to questions. Some of what was being said did not seem right. Thinking back to when I was a young child I vaguely remembered my grandmother and grandfather praying and being active in a Catholic church. I was confused when things that I remembered did not match up to what I was being taught. So began my journey

Then I met a wonderful man, now my husband 🙂 and he lived his faith in a way that really got me thinking of learning even more. He had such a deep faith, such a charitable spirit and character that I knew he was really connected to God.
 
I came to the Church through what can only be called a hook up!
He felt so guilty about it the next day because he was Catholic. I had never encountered anyone who felt that way about it. I still liked him a lot and wanted more of him…
So when he asked me to go to Mass with him I went. I had never been before. I was 19.

The moment I stepped into that chapel, at the nunnery in Bangor, Wales on a cold blustery dark winter’s evening I knew I was home. I just had to be a part of it. I was mesmerised.

He and I never did get together agin, but I didn’t mind because I had something else. He agreed to sponsor me too. I was baptised the next spring.

I’ve been practising and lapsed the years following. I wish I could say I have never lapsed.
But I always consider myself a Catholic and proudly so.
 
I came to the Church through what can only be called a hook up!

I’ve been practising and lapsed the years following. I wish I could say I have never lapsed.
But I always consider myself a Catholic and proudly so.
Well, is seems that God really works in mysterious ways LOL

We all fall and pick ourselves up. Practice makes perfect I guess. Glad you found your way home 👍
 
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