Cooperation in evil of Cohabitation?

[mgeerling]

My husband has been asked to help his sister and her daughter move in with her boyfriend this weekend. They already have a strained relationship and he is one of the only positive influences in her life, so we don’t want to cause a bigger rift, but he is worried that helping her move could be cooperating in evil.

Their dad is the one who asked and he is helping, but he is not in good physical shape and my husband doesn’t want him to do more than he should.

Question: Would helping his sister move be cooperating in her sin of cohabitation?

Please only answer if you are sure (ie you have been in a similar situation or have heard a solid answer to this situation before).

Thanks!

 

[Corey333]

I believe you have answered your question with your instinctive concern. If a loved one is going to do something that is not in cooperation with God’s Will for their lives. Then it is our obligation to charitably inform the person or persons of the reasons why this act of living together is wrong. I understand the “rift” this may cause but, truth can never be covered or explained away because feelings might be hurt. Just as you would not let a blind man walk off a cliff. This couple is walking in a dangerous direction. Remember to be charitable. Especially if they allow their emotions to flare up. I would recommend time in prayer before the Blessed Sacrament prior to your visit. God Bless you and be with you in this endeavor.

Corey333

 

[Truly_Beloved]

Question: Would helping his sister move be cooperating in her sin of cohabitation?

I asked my priest last year, if it was okay that I: (1) avoided visiting the homes of cohabiting unmarried couples, (2) refused to help them move in together, and (3) did not offer to give them any of my gently used furniture that I was looking to get rid of.

He was surprised that I came to him with this scenario, and he encouraged me to keep doing what I am doing. I explained that I still met with these couples at public places, invited them over to my home for dinner, shared phone conversations, etc., I just didn’t want to do anything that would imply that I approved of their living arrangement.

Both of my siblings are currently cohabiting with significant others, and both know where I stand. My sister was especially upset with my decision, and it definitely strained our relationship, but I feel even more compelled to stick to my principles because my parents are not standing with me on this.