Could psychological reasons constitute 'grave cause' to not attend Mass

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The Catechism of the Catholic Church states:

“If because of lack of a sacred minister or for other grave cause participation in the celebration of the Eucharist is impossible, it is specially recommended that the faithful take part in the Liturgy of the Word if it is celebrated in the parish church or in another sacred place according to the prescriptions of the diocesan bishop, or engage in praer for an appripriate amount of time personally or in a family or, as occasion offers, in groups of families.” CCC 2183

In my work, I have occasionally encountered people who suffered so badly at the hands of the Church’s representatives, priests or religious, that they just can’t bring themselves to attend Mass. They would like to come back, but they just can’t, they can’t trust the priest or believe in the holiness of his ministry.

I know of people who, because of psychological factors, such as extreme scrupulosity, have been told not to take part in the sacrament of reconciliation. Confession is just too much of an obstacle for them, psychologically, so they have been told not to go, or only to go and say “Father forgive me, for I am a sinner” and not try to examine their conscience.

Clearly both of these are cases of psychological damage, and it would be better to be healed. But sometimes healing is slow when such deep damage has been done.

My question is, could such a psychological barrier constitute a legitimate reason, in the same way that physical distance from a church, or the absence of a priest, would be a legitimate reason to miss Mass?
 
The Catechism of the Catholic Church states:

“If because of lack of a sacred minister or for other grave cause participation in the celebration of the Eucharist is impossible, it is specially recommended that the faithful take part in the Liturgy of the Word if it is celebrated in the parish church or in another sacred place according to the prescriptions of the diocesan bishop, or engage in praer for an appripriate amount of time personally or in a family or, as occasion offers, in groups of families.” CCC 2183

In my work, I have occasionally encountered people who suffered so badly at the hands of the Church’s representatives, priests or religious, that they just can’t bring themselves to attend Mass. They would like to come back, but they just can’t, they can’t trust the priest or believe in the holiness of his ministry.

I know of people who, because of psychological factors, such as extreme scrupulosity, have been told not to take part in the sacrament of reconciliation. Confession is just too much of an obstacle for them, psychologically, so they have been told not to go, or only to go and say “Father forgive me, for I am a sinner” and not try to examine their conscience.

Clearly both of these are cases of psychological damage, and it would be better to be healed. But sometimes healing is slow when such deep damage has been done.

My question is, could such a psychological barrier constitute a legitimate reason, in the same way that physical distance from a church, or the absence of a priest, would be a legitimate reason to miss Mass?
I am so excited to have read this message as it has a direct message for my own psychological distress that I have bore all of my life. My scrupulosity has robbed me of great joy within my experiences as a practicing Catholic. When you mentioned that, in extreme cases of scrupulosity, in respect to the Sacrament of Reconciliation, one may have the option of just going in and saying “I am a sinner” and not go through the examination of conscience which is such a great agony for me.

Does the Church allow this? Would I be able to do this and the priest who I am confessing to would understand my sufferings as a scrupulous person? I felt a great relief just reading what you posted. It would make my remaining years on this earth a joyous experience as I love my Lord and Blessed Virgin so much!

I would welcome any additional feedback on this subject. Thank you so much!
 
I am so excited to have read this message as it has a direct message for my own psychological distress that I have bore all of my life. My scrupulosity has robbed me of great joy within my experiences as a practicing Catholic. When you mentioned that, in extreme cases of scrupulosity, in respect to the Sacrament of Reconciliation, one may have the option of just going in and saying “I am a sinner” and not go through the examination of conscience which is such a great agony for me.

Does the Church allow this? Would I be able to do this and the priest who I am confessing to would understand my sufferings as a scrupulous person? I felt a great relief just reading what you posted. It would make my remaining years on this earth a joyous experience as I love my Lord and Blessed Virgin so much!

I would welcome any additional feedback on this subject. Thank you so much!
The only reference to this I have is a letter Fr Santos publishes in his book Understanding Scrupulosity, where a subscriber to his newsletter was advised by his regular confessor to do something like that, though I think this was a very extreme case.
 
I am so excited to have read this message as it has a direct message for my own psychological distress that I have bore all of my life. My scrupulosity has robbed me of great joy within my experiences as a practicing Catholic. When you mentioned that, in extreme cases of scrupulosity, in respect to the Sacrament of Reconciliation, one may have the option of just going in and saying “I am a sinner” and not go through the examination of conscience which is such a great agony for me.

Does the Church allow this? Would I be able to do this and the priest who I am confessing to would understand my sufferings as a scrupulous person? I felt a great relief just reading what you posted. It would make my remaining years on this earth a joyous experience as I love my Lord and Blessed Virgin so much!

I would welcome any additional feedback on this subject. Thank you so much!
As a scrupulous person, you should have a regular confessor who helps you with matters of conscience. If you don’t have one, get one, and obey him in everything pertaining to conscience and sin and confession. You should find relief in doing so.

Betsy
 
I am so excited to have read this message as it has a direct message for my own psychological distress that I have bore all of my life. My scrupulosity has robbed me of great joy within my experiences as a practicing Catholic. When you mentioned that, in extreme cases of scrupulosity, in respect to the Sacrament of Reconciliation, one may have the option of just going in and saying “I am a sinner” and not go through the examination of conscience which is such a great agony for me.

Does the Church allow this? Would I be able to do this and the priest who I am confessing to would understand my sufferings as a scrupulous person? I felt a great relief just reading what you posted. It would make my remaining years on this earth a joyous experience as I love my Lord and Blessed Virgin so much!

I would welcome any additional feedback on this subject. Thank you so much!
The best thing for you would be to get a regular confessor who can help you with your scrupulosity…

Know too that Jesus the Good Shepherd loves you …it is he who forgives you through the Priest in the Sacrament…

as does Our Lady…
 
The best thing for you would be to get a regular confessor who can help you with your scrupulosity…
This is by far the best advice for the circumstances. I have a regular confessor and I can’t begin to enumerate the many positive benefits of having one. It is truly a gift to be able to confess to the same person all the time.

I don’t know how possible that is in parish life these days with priest strung out very thinly and not always the same priest at Mass each Sunday. If that’s not possible, a local religious community may be able to help; in my case a local Benedictine abbey that uses the same confessor 1/2 before Sunday Mass.
 
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