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Like many women, I have a condition called Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome {PCOS} which causes fertility and cycle problems. I found out at 14 years old that due to the hormone levels I was infertile and would never have a child and I’ve had a number of years to get ok with that idea. I’m 33 now. Three years ago the condition became far worse with non-stop bleeding, pain and it was making me very ill.

I couldn’t be treated with hormones due to them causing side effects, so I was left with only one option and that was 2 procedures that would re-enforce my chemical infertility by destroying the womb lining and ligation.

The MEA destroyed the womb lining and thus stopped the never ending bleeding. The Ligation is done to prevent ectopic pregnancy and is done here in Australia as standard procedure after an MEA is done.

I spoke about this in depth with my then confessor and was given full permission to have the operations as they wouldn’t change my infertility, nothing can fix that, they would just restore my health.

Twelve months post operations and I fell great now, yet I do not understand why some Catholics have such a problem with what I had done.
  1. I was already infertile and had been through extensive testing.
  2. I can’t take hormones due to side effects.
  3. there was no other option left, all other options were exhausted.
So what ground, if any, do people have to be upset with what I had done?

I ask as some people I know who are Catholic are upset, have rejected me…
 
You had surgery to repair a diseased organ. Thank God that you were able to live in a time and place that such is available.

Prayers for your speedy recovery.
 
*Dear Mad,
I am sorry to hear some Catholics were against you having your surgery.( I can only hope they just didn’t understand the whole situation.)

It does not change your infidelity position, so others should be so grateful you were able to have the surgery for stabilizing your health!
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 I am happy to hear you are doing well!
God Bless You,
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Mad_Theologian said:
Like many women, I have a condition called Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome {PCOS} which causes fertility and cycle problems. I found out at 14 years old that due to the hormone levels I was infertile and would never have a child and I’ve had a number of years to get ok with that idea. I’m 33 now. Three years ago the condition became far worse with non-stop bleeding, pain and it was making me very ill.

I couldn’t be treated with hormones due to them causing side effects, so I was left with only one option and that was 2 procedures that would re-enforce my chemical infertility by destroying the womb lining and ligation.

The MEA destroyed the womb lining and thus stopped the never ending bleeding. The Ligation is done to prevent ectopic pregnancy and is done here in Australia as standard procedure after an MEA is done.

I spoke about this in depth with my then confessor and was given full permission to have the operations as they wouldn’t change my infertility, nothing can fix that, they would just restore my health.

Twelve months post operations and I fell great now, yet I do not understand why some Catholics have such a problem with what I had done.
  1. I was already infertile and had been through extensive testing.
  2. I can’t take hormones due to side effects.
  3. there was no other option left, all other options were exhausted.
So what ground, if any, do people have to be upset with what I had done?

I ask as some people I know who are Catholic are upset, have rejected me…
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Short answer is that they have no grounds whatsoever.

The Bolded section above is the clincher. Regardless of what others may think, you have done everything “By The book”. You took the matter to your confessor ane discussed it “…In Depth…”. If others do not accept this, then there is little you can do other than to pray for them.

Peace
James
 
I heartily agree with the thoughts expressed by the other posters here. Perhaps these people misunderstand what has been done? At 33, you have had to carry a rather heavy and sorrowful burden that no woman should have to bear. The judgmentalism of these people has only added to your burden, not lightened it. The sin is theirs, not yours.

You treated a diseased organ. The complications from not treating would have progressed and become debilitating. Your priest gave you wise counsel. If these people will no longer speak with you, perhaps your priest could approach them and assuage them of their error. If they remain recalcitrant, you are better off without them in your life.

People who love you help to shoulder your burdens, not add to them. My prayers for your ongoing healing in body and spirit. :console:

God Bless

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You had a necessary medical procedure, so don’t mind those who think they know better. I know it’s hard to ignore, but it’s their problem, not yours.

I went through a complete hysterectomy in March 2003. Everything went, even the Ovaries. On that point, the doctor gave me the option on if they were to go or not. At first, I was against it. But, as time went by, I realized that the only reason I was against it was because of the “instant” menopause. I knew that I’d have to go through that eventually anyway, so I agreed to have them taken out. I thought I might as well get it over with.

I also had PCOS, but I don’t think that was the cause of the problems I had. Whatever the problem, the surgery was necessary. One thing did get to me. When the hormone/emotional stuff started, I had a male nurse try to “comfort” me. He started by saying that he understood, that he knew I was upset over not being able to have more children (I have only one), and all that. I finally asked him if his wife hand PMS. He said yess. So I told him, this was sort of the same thing, only worse. Later another nurse came by . An older woman nurse. She knew where I was at. Apprently she had gone through, or was going through, menopause herself.

I’ll have to admit, though, that my attitude came out to be not so nice. Any talk about women becoming witchs after going through that is fairly accurate. I find myself less tolerant now that I was before. But that’s something I’m working on.
 
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