Could this girl like me as more than a friend?

[FanofB16]

Hey.

It’be good to get your opinions on this.

I’ve been friends with one girl for a few years now. We see each other at Church-things and sometimes dont get much of a chance to talk. There is no indication of anything romantic, but it’s just we seem to get on really well and we’ve had some great conversations and I’m wondering if something could develop between us.

It’s not like im madly in love with her or even have an infatuation with her. For about 2 years being friends, i just thought of her as a friend but now looking around (very unsuccessfully) for a girlfriend and potential wife, I think of her as someone I would like to court and be my girlfriend.

The thing is she’s now away to college and although shell be back a few times in the next few months, i’ll probably not get to see her much.

this is a really random post i guess, but I’d just like your thoughts.

It’s also not that I think she is the one etc. it’s just i think we could be good together.

I suppose if God wants to bring the two of us together, He will do that.

 

[chevalier]

It’s also not that I think she is the one etc. it’s just i think we could be good together.

I suppose if God wants to bring the two of us together, He will do that.

Yeah. Especially if you don’t think she’s the one but just that you could be good together. You don’t know whom you’ll meet tomorrow. There’s no need to pretend things that aren’t there and I don’t think a marriage of convenience is the best you can get.

 

[ack]

In general, the answer is “no”…if you’ve been friends with this girl for 2 years, she probably would have been giving you hints by now that she could possibly like you as more than a friend.

I know that there are some exceptions, but in general, a girl will not want to date you if she’s been your friend for so long.

If you don’t even have any strong feelings for her at this point, and if there’s “no indication of anything romantic”, then now is not the time to try anything.

 

[KCT]

In general, the answer is “no”…if you’ve been friends with this girl for 2 years, she probably would have been giving you hints by now that she could possibly like you as more than a friend.

I know that there are some exceptions, but in general, a girl will not want to date you if she’s been your friend for so long.

I disagree. If the parties involved have, up to now, been too young to marry, the girl may not have wanted to lead him on.

Personally, I think it’s good to be friends before deciding there’s anything romantic going on. Too many people get caught up in romance and by pass friendship. —KCT

 

[Liberanosamalo]

A friendship is a wonderful place to start.

But if your attitude is “I don’t see anyone else, you’ll do…” Well… just do the poor girl a favor and leave it at friends. She deserves better than that.

Really, I would only pursue it if after two years of being friends and getting to know her, you have become so attracted to her that she has set your heart on fire.

 

[FanofB16]

Hi.

Thanks for your replies.

It’s definitely not a feeling of “oh, this girl might just do”.

It’s me thinking all of a sudden , this girl is amazing, we’ve been friends for a while, I think she is wonderful and it would be super to start dating/courting. I love spending time with her and would love her to be my girlfriend. I definitely have strong feelings for her

Anyway, I doubt anything will happen, it never does with me. life is strange, it is so difficult to find someone.

I’ll contact her before she goes to college to wish her well.

 

[chevalier]

Careful, careful. Sometimes we just pick someone to fall in love with because there’s no one else and then we convince ourselves to think we’re in love and then… troubles come.

Then again, even marriages of convenience have worked for people.

If you really decide to pursue her, then I could try and help you figure out how she’s receiving you. You can’t really without either showing your own interest, or asking her directly what she feels for you and hoping she’ll tell you.

 

[Liberanosamalo]

If you really are becoming interested in her, get her email addy. Tell her you miss her. Let her know you want to keep in contact. Maybe she’s on Facebook or MySpace, so you can get in contact with her that way.

Use your correspondence to get to know her more. You will be able to guess by her level of replying and her answers whether she is starting to feel the same way.

Good luck!

 

[Mirdath]

I suppose if God wants to bring the two of us together, He will do that.

‘The gods help those who help themselves’

Anyway, I wouldn’t worry at all about having been her friend for a while – Nepenthe and I knew each other for years before we admitted ‘yeah, okay, we’re perfect for each other’, and it’s working out great! And really, there isn’t much better you can do for someone to spend the rest of your life with than your best friend.

 

[Eschato]

Hi.

Thanks for your replies.

It’s definitely not a feeling of “oh, this girl might just do”.

It’s me thinking all of a sudden , this girl is amazing, we’ve been friends for a while, I think she is wonderful and it would be super to start dating/courting. I love spending time with her and would love her to be my girlfriend. I definitely have strong feelings for her

Anyway, I doubt anything will happen, it never does with me. life is strange, it is so difficult to find someone.

I’ll contact her before she goes to college to wish her well.

Hey man… we might be riding in the same boat. A few suggestions. Myspace or any other form of email should be used minimally. It is fine for playing around, but if you get serious it is very easy to misconstrue meanings. If you can’t at very least get her phone number, or leave her yours, then there is probably no reason to pursue anything. The girl I am/was/(she has confused me greatly this weekend and I don’t know how I feel) is already away for college and things written on myspace could be taken two ways, if you catch my drift. If you do use email ALWAYS read over it. Without vocal tones, body language, or facial expressions it can be hard to correctly interpret the meaning of a sentence.

I understand your confusion. I was actually coming on here to get advice about my current woman problems, because I am so confused. It is like she has neither rejected or accepted me. I am just hanging here without knowing what to think. I wish that she would just call me a loser so that I could get on with it. It would be better than the constant rejections flowing through my imagination.

OK, so I guess that wasn’t very uplifting but I think that you shouldn’t beat around the bush. You should just tell her how you feel and leave the rest to her. The one thing that I have learned in all of this, is that as painful and embarrassing as rejection is, it is much better than not knowing. You should do what you have to do and accept her reply. Treat it like confession and don’t hold anything back. Expect her to be a little taken back too. I hope this helps you.I will pray for you.