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A little about my situation. I had a year long affair starting in sept of 2009. In July of 2010, my wife found out. We have 3 kids, currently 9, 6, and 3. For the last 9 years, my wife had devoted herself 100% to our kids. At 1st, I was ok with it. But, then, I was annoyed. We have not been out alone or away alone as a couple for 9 years, despite friends urging us to get a sitter and go out.
About 6 years ago, she stopped sleeping in our bed. She breast fed all kids well beyond 2 years old and it became easier to sleep with them instead of walking across the house to breast feed them back to sleep. I joked that it wouldn’t take much for someone to show interest for me to respond.

Anyway, she gave me another chance this past aug and the other woman contacted me and I emailed back. She found out and asked me to leave move out in Jan. I’ve been out for 7 months.

I take full responsibility for my actions and tried to reconcile 3 months ago, but, she won’t listen. Says she has no interest. I said some hurtful things and continued the affair after Jan on a limited basis. Something made me want to reconcile and now I want her and my family back. I see my kids everyday. I do love her and want to be a family. I wasn’t really a practicing catholic. I’ve been praying a ton lately, going to confession and church and just stopping by in the middle of the day to pray. It’s been 3 months. I have anxiety and loneliness and I’m depressed.
I’m asking for prayers for my inner peace as well as God’s will to be done and for a second chance to be a good husband and father. I ask the Lord to break down the walls in her heart and to be open and willing to work on our marriage. I know God hates divorce and loves children and family and I pray for the opportunity to have another chance.

Sorry this is long, but, prayers are appreciated.
 
Thanks in advance.
I truly feel like I’ve had a conversion of heart and mind. I see my behavior and how I could have done things throughout our marriage. I have a tremendous amount of guilt and have yet to forgive myself, despite a few confessions and a meeting of spiritual guidance with our priest.
 
You talk about a very personal situation here that must not have been easy but good for you 🙂

I will pray for you and your wife, you both have responsibility in this matter and you both need to forgive to each other…I pray that God will help you in this and bring your family together 🙂

God bless you!

Hail Mary, full of grace, the LORD is with thee, blessed are you among all women and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus, Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners now and in the hour of our death.
 
For your intentions and for the needs of your family:

A PRAYER FOR A HUMBLE RELIANCE UPON GOD

Lord, if you withdraw your hand,
there is no grace.
If you cease to guide us,
we have no wisdom.
If you no longer defend us,
we have no courage.
If you do not strengthen us,
our chastity is vulnerable.
If you do not keep a holy watch over us,
our watchfulness cannot protect us.
By ourselves we sink, we perish;
when you are with us, we are uplifted, we live.
We are shaky, you make us firm.
We are lukewarm, you inflame us.

Amen.

[Author: Thomas A Kempis]
 
5XNC said:
Thanks in advance.
I truly feel like I’ve had a conversion of heart and mind. I see my behavior and how I could have done things throughout our marriage. I have a tremendous amount of guilt and have yet to forgive myself, despite a few confessions and a meeting of spiritual guidance with our priest.
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I swear I will keep you in my prayers. Stay strong, I commend you for your honesty and for your repentance. Things are going to get better, just trust in the Lord. If I may, I would also suggest praying the Rosary and the Divine Mercy Chaplet. These two are great for prayer, and it can bring you closer to Christ through our Lady. I will pray for you.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the LORD is with thee, blessed are you among all women and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus, Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners now and in the hour of our death.
Amen
 
I understand how when we are in a time of need when turn to the Lord, but, I truly do feel different.
It isn’t easy to talk about, but, I am truly humbled and shamed and embarrassed by my actions. I’m disgusted and want to throw up at the thought of my behavior and things I’ve said that I can’t take back.
It’s difficult yet I take full responsibility and can’t seem to forgive myself.
My wife will not speak regarding any matters of us working on our marriage. She cries and gets upset if I tell her I love her and would like another chance and she says she can’t wait to divorce me.
 
Again I ask for prayers for her heart to be open to reconciliation and maintaining our family.
 
Lord, both husband and wife are in need to deep spiritual healing. Please help them to be reconciled. Sincere repentance is pleasing to you. You have given us your son for the forgiveness of our sins. Do not look on our human weaknesses which cause us to err and turn away from your will, but help us to love those people in our life. Help us to make sacrifices for them and to show mercy. Lift up the lonely and the angry. Lift up the anxious and the scared. Clear the ills from their minds and fill them with love.

Betrayal is so difficult to bear, as is years of neglect. We were not meant to be alone lord. Please strengthen the whole family during this trying time.
 
Jesus, You said, “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be opened to you.” Through the intercession of Mary, Your holy Mother, I knock, I seek. I ask that my prayer be granted. (That this woman and man heal and find comfort in You so that thier hearts are softened and they come to know You intimately so that they will know Your will, Your way and Your truth)

Jesus, You said, “All that you ask of the Father in My name, He will grant you.” Through the intercession of Mary, Your holy Mother, I humbly and urgently ask Your Father in Your name that my prayer be granted. (That this man and woman receive and accept wisdom and knowledge and understanding of Your perfect will)

Jesus, You said. “Heaven and earth shall pass away, but My word shall not pass.” Through the intercession of Mary, Your holy Mother, I feel confident that my prayer will be granted. (That this couple reconciles their marriage and shares and exchanges a love that is centered in You our Lord Jesus Christ)

Amen

Remember that our Heavenly Father will act in his perfect timing.
 
Lord please continue in your work of softening hearts and bringing about reconciliation.
 
5XNC said:
A little about my situation. I had a year long affair starting in sept of 2009. In July of 2010, my wife found out. We have 3 kids, currently 9, 6, and 3. For the last 9 years, my wife had devoted herself 100% to our kids. At 1st, I was ok with it. But, then, I was annoyed. We have not been out alone or away alone as a couple for 9 years, despite friends urging us to get a sitter and go out.
About 6 years ago, she stopped sleeping in our bed. She breast fed all kids well beyond 2 years old and it became easier to sleep with them instead of walking across the house to breast feed them back to sleep. I joked that it wouldn’t take much for someone to show interest for me to respond.

Anyway, she gave me another chance this past aug and the other woman contacted me and I emailed back. She found out and asked me to leave move out in Jan. I’ve been out for 7 months.

I take full responsibility for my actions and tried to reconcile 3 months ago, but, she won’t listen. Says she has no interest. I said some hurtful things and continued the affair after Jan on a limited basis. Something made me want to reconcile and now I want her and my family back. I see my kids everyday. I do love her and want to be a family. I wasn’t really a practicing catholic. I’ve been praying a ton lately, going to confession and church and just stopping by in the middle of the day to pray. It’s been 3 months. I have anxiety and loneliness and I’m depressed.
I’m asking for prayers for my inner peace as well as God’s will to be done and for a second chance to be a good husband and father. I ask the Lord to break down the walls in her heart and to be open and willing to work on our marriage. I know God hates divorce and loves children and family and I pray for the opportunity to have another chance.

Sorry this is long, but, prayers are appreciated.
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Praying for your intentions….

Lord Jesus, You have said, “Learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart.” With confidence in Your loving heart which offers rest to weary souls, we come to You in this time of special need. In Your unfailing love, read the prayer that is written on our hearts, and grant the grace that we ask of You, in accordance with Your holy will. In Your name we pray. Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, and sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother, to thee I come, before thee I stand sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate! Despise not my petitions, but, in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.
 
Praying for your intentions….

Lord Jesus, You have said, “Learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart.” With confidence in Your loving heart which offers rest to weary souls, we come to You in this time of special need. In Your unfailing love, read the prayer that is written on our hearts, and grant the grace that we ask of You, in accordance with Your holy will. In Your name we pray. Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, and sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother, to thee I come, before thee I stand sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate! Despise not my petitions, but, in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.
 
I sincerely hope and pray that you and able to reconcile with your wife. Let us pray to Mother Mary that she hears us and has mercy on you and your wife. Peace be with you.

Hail, Holy Queen, Mother of Mercy,
our Life, our Sweetness, and our Hope.
To Thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve.
To Thee do we send up our sighs mourning
and weeping in this valley of tears.
Turn then, most gracious Advocate,
Thine Eyes of Mercy toward us,
and after this our exile show us the
Blessed Fruit of thy Womb, Jesus.
O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary.
Pray for us O Holy Mother of God
That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son,
and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning,
is now,
and ever shall be,
world without end.

Amen.
 
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