Covering hair at Mass

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If you sew, get a yard of lace and some lace tape/ribbon and make your own.
 
I go to an Orthodox parish. We have 24/7 adoration, Latin Mass…as well as other details that make our parish attractive for families to travel to and attend.

Approximately 0% of the parish veils. Maybe 1 or 2 of the older women do…but I truly think it’s a cultural detail and not a dedication to a specific aspect of tradition.
 
None of those lacy concoctions convince me that a layperson who “veils” is doing so out a sense of humility. If you forget your mantilla at home do you cover with a tissue? If not, it’s an affectation. If you think a lacy veil is somehow more reverant than a plain beanie, it’s a pretence. The fabric Our Lady wore was probably closer to the floursack towels I use to dry my dishes. I don’t see ladies wearing something like that.
 
I keep a mantilla in my purse just like I keep my rosary.
I used to wear hats but I began to feel like my hats caused more distraction than my mantilla did. Sure enough it seems people expect if you cover that you wear a mantilla or scarf.
That’s my experience. Your experience may be different entirely.
 
I don’t know how much people pay attention - half the time I’m randomly wearing a bat necklace or something anyway, so I kinda feel like what’s on my head is frequently the least unusual thing about my outfit.
 
Irishmom2 said:
(That’s what my car is for, I am not a purse carrier usually.😉 )
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I actually keep gloves in my glove compartment . . . but my hats would be far to large for a purse. Larger, in fact, than almost all purses . . .
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f not, it’s an affectation. If you think a lacy veil is somehow more reverant than a plain beanie, it’s a pretence.
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That’s as much a non sequitor as calling wearing dress clothes to Mass a pretense . . .

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Bruised_Reed said:
None of those lacy concoctions convince me that a layperson who “veils” is doing so out a sense of humility
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So all the muslim ladies who wear hijab do it out of pride, vanity, and are forced to? Nope…Modesty still exists, and the sense of modesty. The sight of a girl’s hair can be distracting at mass, as it shows beauty. I’ve know a few muslim ladies for years now and I honestly enjoy the fact of never having seen their hair - perhaps more than words can express, because they’re a living reminder of modesty. And I enjoy the trend of folks trying to rediscover tradition, it has plenty of historical value and experimental perspective.
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The fabric Our Lady wore was probably closer to the floursack towels
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The head covering is normally depicted in iconography as a cape over the head, depending on temperature I’d go with woven wool of varying weight. They had wool, linen, hemp, perhaps even silk. And they had these:

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Bruised_Reed said:
None of those lacy concoctions convince me that a layperson who “veils” is doing so out a sense of humility. If you forget your mantilla at home do you cover with a tissue? If not, it’s an affectation. If you think a lacy veil is somehow more reverant than a plain beanie, it’s a pretence. The fabric Our Lady wore was probably closer to the floursack towels I use to dry my dishes. I don’t see ladies wearing something like that.
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A friend once referred to beautiful, lacy veils as “lingerie for the hair”.
 
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Bruised_Reed said:
If you forget your mantilla at home do you cover with a tissue?
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I remember having to do that once as a child. We hadn’t planned on stopping at church as it was not a Sunday as I recall, but we did in fact have to put a tissue on our head, held on with a black Bobby pin.
 
adgloriam said:
The sight of a girl’s hair can be distracting at mass, as it shows beauty.
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So can a beautiful, lacy, shimmery veil. So can a bright red scarf, a fancy hat, a white veil in a sea of black, a pink veil, or a sole woman with her head covered in a church full of bare heads.
 
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adgloriam:
The sight of a girl’s hair can be distracting at mass, as it shows beauty.
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So can a beautiful, lacy, shimmery veil. So can a bright red scarf, a fancy hat, a white veil in a see of black, a pink veil, or a sole woman with her head covered in a church full of their heads.
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I agree. It is not the responsibility of the person with the “distracting hair” to make sure they aren’t distracting anyone.
 
Irishmom2 said:
I agree. It is not the responsibility of the person with the “distracting hair” to make sure they aren’t distracting anyone.
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Your definition is in the negative: “not”. Merit is of positive definition: “yes, and why?”
 
babochka said:
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adgloriam:
The sight of a girl’s hair can be distracting at mass, as it shows beauty.
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So can a beautiful, lacy, shimmery veil. So can a bright red scarf, a fancy hat, a white veil in a sea of black, a pink veil, or a sole woman with her head covered in a church full of bare heads.
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Nope. No substitute for natural beauty. God the Father made them beautiful in good reason.
 
adgloriam said:
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Irishmom2:
I agree. It is not the responsibility of the person with the “distracting hair” to make sure they aren’t distracting anyone.
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Your definition is in the negative: “not”. Merit is of positive definition: “yes, and why?”
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I’ll give you a positive. The person who is seriously distracted by a woman’s natural beauty during Mass should learn to practice custody of the eyes.

For the record, I do cover my head in church
 
Thank you @babochka. Not sure why it mattered whether my answer was in the negative or positive, but we both were getting at the same thing.
 
As usual this is disintergrating into those who wear veils, scarves, etc and those who think it is some kind of showing off. It isn’t. I do not expect anyone else to cover unless they feel moved to do it. I do not think it makes me holier and others not so much. I think, I feel it helps me concentrate on mass and my prayers.
Why does it have to be this way everytime this subject is broached? It appears some people are so offended they cannot accept others have other ways to show their love of God or need covers to help us become still, more focused on the Mass.
Wearing a cover is not designed to make anyone feel less or offended. It’s not about anyone but the woman wearing it. If you do not need one, do not wear one. I will never think less of you. IN fact I probably will be more attentive to my prayers and the Mass and not notice if you wear one or not.
Please can we not be charitable with one another?
 
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