Coworker spreading lies about me. How to face it with courage?

  • Thread starter Thread starter Believe_85
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
B

Believe_85

Guest
A co-worker has lied about me and I have to go to a meeting to face the accusations. While I know and can largely prove that none of his accusations are true, how can I be courageous and not defensive? This whole thing is ruining my weekend and affecting my ability to relax with my family. Any advice?
 
Good one. Visualizing my coworker “gnashing his teeth and melting away.”

😎
 
I am sorry your weekend is being ruined. It would ruin mine as well.
Simply stay calm and prove your case.
Pray for this vindictive person.
You might also want to start quietly looking for a new job as this sounds like a bad environment, if a coworker is going to make unfounded accusations of you.
 
Believe_85 said:
While I know and can largely prove that none of his accusations are true, how can I be courageous and not defensive? This whole thing is ruining my weekend and affecting my ability to relax with my family. Any advice?
Click to expand...
I’d make myself some notes before the meeting, to make sure I covered everything I wanted to say and didn’t get sidetracked. Also, don’t be afraid of a pause – if you feel yourself getting upset, take a breath or two before responding.
 
Thanks for the advice. Forgot about praying for him, since I’ve been feeling so betrayed and focusing on that.
 
Be calm, listen calmly, then demand proof.

State clearly why the accusations are false.

Remember, put the burden on the accuser. Put the accuser on the spot to prove what is being said.

False accusations are a form of workplace harassment which create a hostile work environment. Express your right to a peaceful work evironment where such harassment is not tolerated.

Ask your superior what he/she is going to do about this behavior so it doesn’t happen again.
 
Last edited:
Thanks for the reply, much appreciated. I’m good at staying calm. What I am most worried about is being tough. I am very caring and try to see the best in people. So I am struggling with how to depersonalize this and go into the meeting on the offense. How do I prep for verbal combat and stop being so sensitive?
 
A person seeking to destroy your career and repulsion through false accusation deserves no sensitivity. The person should be exposed as an aggressor and a workplace bully. There must be consequences for such wrong doing.
 
If there are any witnesses who might help disprove accusations, do not hesitate to call upon them for assistance. Likely, others have had bad dealings with the accuser as well.
 
That’s the problem. I called him out for doing a crappy job and he wrote me up for a bunch of stuff that is patently false. So I do the right thing, and now I’m getting attacked. I know it will work out in my favor. Just want to feel confident and brave. Never had anyone complain about me at work this way and it’s just sickening.
 
Simply trust God. Let Him handle it. “Be not anxious about your life…”
 
Having worked with someone like you’re describing, I understand how you must be feeling. Think about the tone in which you’ll present the facts, that is, in a non-judgmental way. And yes, pray for that person. Before you go into the meeting, ask Jesus to put his hand on your shoulder, and to stay with you through this. I am praying for you, too.
 
Let him spin his web and then entangle him in it. Sounds like a petty person. Likely, others already see this. Help him demonstrate it.
 
Last edited:
I really want to. I don’t trust myself not to say the wrong thing and get jumped on. Ive been watching Jordan Peterson slay interviews and studying how he manages to be in control. This is one time in my life I have wished I was a man because being assertive seems to come easier for most men. I just don’t even think that way.
 
Alright. I’ll focus on how he is the problem and I’m not. Thanks!
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top