Coworker too close or just friends?

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Hi, I’m really bad at trusting my instincts. I’ve always been told I overreact to things, so I feel like I have to run this past someone first before making it an issue. Is a female co-worker leaving “xoxoxo” on their sign off on a card for my husband appropriate or not? We are all young but it seems they are friends at work, so I am not sure what to think. I feel a bit queezy about it but I trust my husband completely, though he is a bit more casual about life than I am. Thoughts?
 
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XOXO means love & kisses so yes it is inappropriate for his female co-worker to leave that type of messages for your husband. I would let your husband know it bothers you and for him to ask the young woman to not do it again. If she continues or escalates her behavior, it may be an issue for HR.
 
Cecilia_Dympna said:
maybe she just signs every message like that, without really thinking about it.
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😮 Just autopilot!
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As a man, let me say that many women communicate like this because . . .that’s what women do. 🙃

Women are also very, very astute when it comes to relationships. If she were at all romantically interested in your husband there’s no way she’d give you a scintilla of a hint like signing xoxoxo.

She may very well be flirting with him. Women have the ability to flirt without ever intending it to mean anything more than a silly, momentary diversion. I’ve seen my wife do it. She says, “Yeah. 😐 I can turn it on and off at will.”
 
Put me down in the “let it go” camp with a side order of “you should calm down.” If my wife complained about this, I can tell you right now I’d roll my eyes 'till they fell out of my head.

Prudence will tell you, in time, where the line between protective and pugnacious is.
 
Why would you treat her so indifferently? women need to at least be heard. If I bring this up to my husband I won’t be scolding him. I would be cautioning him on the other person’s behavior. I know he wouldn’t do anything. I just feel like he is such a jolly guy sometimes he doesn’t see how others see him.
 
I had the same thought.
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I would tell him you feel not happy with this, and that it´s not something professional.
After his reaction, you can think about further reaction - maybe he didn´t noticed it and is glad you tld him the problem. Greetings 🙂
 
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