No, no, NO!!! This. If they want to celebrate by putting on a show I can’t see how there could be anything wrong with it, but for the ceremony itself? Nope, not ok.
I love it. Yeah, I think it can be a really great way to help get the party going and make it your own.I’ve never heard of someone dancing during the ceremony, but my husband and I did that during the reception. Our first dance started off with a slow song, then cut to a rather outdated hip-hop song (from our teenage years, of course!) and we totally broke it down (“choreographed” and I use that term loosely, by yours truly). It was a small, family-only reception, and everyone was in stitches, especially since my husband is a heavy guy with two left feet. I can certainly understand why people would think it’s tacky, but it worked out well for us to set the tone and rest of the reception was a blast. It was a wonderful memory and I wish we had videotaped it.
I’m totally with you on this. I think a lot of our wedding reception “traditions” are crude and tasteless (the garter thing, the stuffing-cake-in-the-mouth thing). But at least those have been around for years. These weird dances and “impromptu” choreographed displays seemed more geared to making a splash on Facebook and YouTube than a legitimate way of celebrating a marriage. No one seems to invite good taste and classy behavior to their receptions anymore. Maybe the rule of thumb should be: if you think something would embarrass your future children, don’t do it.
If the rule of thumb was “never do something that would embarrass your future children,” we would all have to lock ourselves indoors, never to see the light of day.
I agree. We didn’t do any of those things at our reception. Didn’t introduce the wedding party, didn’t have speeches. Other than that, the only “traditional” thing we did was she tossed her bouquet.
