Here are my continuing thoughts from post 8.
The loving father bit is near impossible to refute so one should first figure out one’s own goals in the discussion. Even with the best argument, the other person can always present a world with loving fathers. So, does one seek a superior argument or does one plant seeds which could lead to a world with a real God?
Being young in college (public profile) you are in an environment of openness to new knowledge. Granted, by that time, many students have already set their minds in matters of faith and the natural world. Yet, there is still major curiosity.
Instead of getting into a conversation about the existence of God, shift to what assumption means. Assumptions do not require belief. Assumptions can either be valid, not valid, or somewhere in between. In science research, assumptions are used as a reasonable explanation for some bit of data which is not completely available.
Set the stage with your own scenery and props. Make sure that one of the conditions is that belief or acceptance is not required once one walks out the door of the theatre of the mind.
The personal goal of my brother, in any conversation, is to present the alternative or the opposite opinion. This can be very annoying as it seemed he was always attacking me. Finally, we learned to put the topic on the table and focus on it, rather than automatically thinking about how to refute each point.
What I am driving at (theatre or table approach) is to have an environment where both of you are freely learning as friends.
By shifting away from a human-human relationship, one is able to discuss the different natures of a transcendent Creator God and a human being. Of course, your friend could say that God had a selfish evil reason for creating humans. Then how did humans learn about love and experience it? The concept of love is part of our human species. Denying love and acting against love is very possible due to our free choices. However, the denial and evil actions cannot change what is in our human nature even though one buries love. You could ask --How does one see loving fathers, if there were no capability for love?
Even without belief in a real God, non-theists can recognize that love has a spirituality to it. Love is out of this world is one way to express one’s deepest feelings for her or his beloved. There is no hurry to conclude the discussion of love. Use the examples of love in other posts as a demonstration of the existence of love.
Here you could express your choice of Catholicism because it teaches about a God of love as the source, or creator of human nature. The reasoning is that because love on a human species level cannot ever be completely destroyed, its first existence had to come from some place other than a material/physical decomposing human anatomy. Since the assumption that God exists is already in place, and we know that love on a human species level cannot be completely destroyed, we can say that love originally came from a level different from that of the human species. This level is where God is.
At this point, I would suggest a break from the discussion. With both of you comfortable with a willing suspension of disbelief, give yourselves time to explore the idea that the love humans can experience came from a non-destroyable source on a different, really better level. One might throw in the idea that this better level has to be spiritual without the human personality which can bury love or restrict love according to one’s own personal expectations. Be politely careful not to get off the track of love itself. After all, love is the key in a “loving human father would do this or that”. Sometimes it is better to come back to a human species level because this shows the underlying unity of humankind even though there can be extreme differences between individuals.
I need to take a break. Will continue later, probably tomorrow.
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