Cruel!!

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Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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JorduSpeaks said:
I don’t know why these people keep trying to give you “solutions”. I know they’re trying to help, but you and I know that you don’t need answers. You need understanding, and brother, I understand. I’m in the middle of a fourth career change. I’ve got a Masters level education and no job prospects, and I feel hopeless about that, just like I feel hopeless about my love life (or lack thereof). I wanted to be established by now, but I’m not. Sometimes, the only thing that keeps me going is the knowledge that my death will hurt the people I care about. I’m used to being the cause of my own pain, but I will not allow myself to be the cause of somebody else’s.

The jobs will come, or they won’t. They probably will, but nobody knows for sure. What I do know, what you know, is that you and I will endure. We will endure because we are strong. You and I have both contemplated suicide, and there are people out there who want to make you think that’s weakness, but it’s not. It’s strength, because at the end of the day, we’re still here. WE SURVIVED. We stared into the abyss, and the abyss blinked first. Other people will face that precipice one day and not know if they’ll make it, but you and I know. We’ve been there, and we came back, and even if we find ourselves out there again, we’ll know we can come back because we have.

So, let the world be cruel. The world is cruel, and that’s a fact. But people like you and I can take it, and that’s a fact, too. So, I’ll pray for you my brother, but I won’t pray for the world to be less cruel to you, because I know you can take it. I’ll pray that you always remember how strong you are.
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You write: “I don’t know why these people keep trying to give you “solutions”. I know they’re trying to help, but you and I know that you don’t need answers. You need understanding”

In one or more cases it could be that they have experienced the same thing and rather that burden you or he with that information they just give suggestions. Perhaps those suggestions worked for them. Perhaps they know that listening to a person poor out his heart is a kindness but if a person knows a remedy and shares it, that is a kindness as well not a put down.

The people who read yours or his posts have likely not met either one of you therefore they cannot give an exact remedy. My thought about you was the same as another person, it is possible that you look too anxious to meet someone but I don’t know.

Annie
 
MainBrain said:
No one will hire me! It’s YEARS NOW. Many years! No one will hire me! It’s the story of my life. Unbelievable. UNBELIEVABLE.
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I hope I’m not being offensive, it’s just that i suffer like you.

Sorry but… I fear the REAL Catholic answer to this would be:

-Stop being lazy; or

-Stop whining and suffer happily.

It gives me chills.
 
MainBrain said:
What a cruel existence! I have no purpose! How am I supposed to overcome my sins when I am at home every day? No work! YEARS NOW! Why must my mental state be brought to the verge of contemplating the unthinkable! THIS IS JUST ONE BIG STUPID JOKE! I am such a loser.
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Jeremiah 29: 11-12:
For surely I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for your welfare and not for harm, to give you a future with hope. Then when you call upon me and come and pray to me, I will hear you.

Hail, holy Queen, Mother of Mercy!
Our life, our sweetness, and our hope!
To thee do we cry, poor banished
children of Eve, to thee do we send
up our sighs, mourning and weeping
in this valley, of tears.
Turn, then, most gracious advocate,
thine eyes of mercy toward us; and
after this our exile show unto us the
blessed fruit of thy womb Jesus;
O clement, O loving, O sweet virgin Mary.
Pray for us, O holy Mother of God
That we may be made worthy of the
promises of Christ. Amen.
 
Cricket2 said:
You may need some professional assistance with re-doing a resume and interviewing. There are very little things that can keep someone from hiring a person. In today’s market the words used in a resume can get you in -or- keep you out of the draw all together. Not saying it is right, but it is true.

Also, are you willing to start at the bottom and work your way up? Some folks get really hung up on focusing on one type of work, and refuse to consider anything else. You can get in a real bind that way. I have worked some pretty menial jobs to get my foot in the door.

As others have said don’t give up. Keep trying the volunteer aspect, try entry level positions and see if someone can help you fine tune your interview skills. Local community colleges often have this type of service available.
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Maybe he doesn’t have the means. And no, unemployment is very high, many well-to families are now homeless. Sad but true.
 
anruari said:
What support is available in your country /state for supporting people in your situation?

I’m in the UK. I have a learning disability and suffer with depression

here there are several organisations that can offer specialised help for problems in looking for work and keeping a job when such problems cause workplace challenges.

In terms of the unwanted thoughts of doing the unthinkable it may be that your doctor can refer you to a councillor or phycologist to tackle your problems in that area and/or practice some antidepressants which might help. (If you have tried some and they don’t work as to try a didn’t one. I tried 4 that didn’t work in my 20s. With my current problems I asked to try a different class and that had been a huge help in reducing thoughts of self harm suicide and destructive behaviours)

I know what is like to be out of work though I’ve always managed to find something no matter how basic to keep some money coming in. I drove a taxi for 3 years between professional jobs.

One of my brothers had been unemployed for years though. And he has a PhD.

Trust me on this there is help available even if it’s hard to find.

Whether it’s a doctor or your priest to need to talk to someone about the unwanted thoughts.

May God bless and protect you.
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Mmmmm… A Catholic getting government help? Hell no.
 
cheezey said:
Dear Father in Heaven, giver of all good things. You know the needs and fears of the unemployed. We pray that You will comfort and strengthen them, and help them to maintain their hope and courage. Help them to find the work they need and seek. Help them to understand and overcome any impediments to their search. Lord, help them to surrender wholly to You for their needs; to help them see and take the opportunities to earn their living. Keep them from discouragement and bitterness. In Faith, O Lord, Our Father, help them to be trusting and patient. In this time, please care for them and their families according to Your promise. We trust You will do so for the sake of Your Son, our Savior, in Whom You have promised to give us all things.
Amen.
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AMEN

I am so sorry you are suffering and I feel for you and all who suffer in this way. My heart goes out to you.You are loved and cared about by Our Father in heaven…you are precious. I can feel your pain and send you warmest love
May Our Lord comfort you.
God bless you

Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
It sounds as if you are looking at the overwhelming big picture - and that’s certainly understandable if this has been going on for so long. The cumulative weight of all the dreary days has probably become like a big weight that sits on your shoulders. I’ve been there - waiting for a disability claim to come through, losing a home to foreclosure in the process - no fun, and sometimes it felt like those clouds would never lift.

Things need to change, but you are running on fumes when it comes to motivation and energy, am I right? Optimism probably went out the window a long time ago.

There is a way out. It involves taking baby steps. You need to break down the tasks of change until they’re so easy you can do them, then build upon that. First, pray. It doesn’t matter if your prayer is “Okay, God, here goes nothing.” He’ll multiply your efforts.

I did a Google search for what kind of thing I’m talking about and this B.J. Fogg is along those lines: bjfogg.com/ There are others - the point is, that “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

The other thing is we all need a sense of what gifts God has given us and what need in the world those gifts can fulfill. Because we all have the gifts - they may be buried under the accumulated dust and debris of the discouragement and “failures” (failure is only just knowing okay, that didn’t work - as Thomas Edison said goodreads.com/author/quotes/3091287.Thomas_Edison so that you can get on to the business of discovering what will work).

The conventional paradigm of careers in this world is often lacking - perhaps you’re really a visionary or an entrepreneur and just haven’t found that one niche where you’ll shine and make a difference! Break out of a rut - don’t keep doing what hasn’t worked - brainstorm.

Read inspirational stories of those who have made a difference starting with just faith and a shoestring. Mother Angelica, the founder of EWTN, would start what God wanted her to build, and there’d be a bill that needed to be paid, and everyone would be fretting about it. Mother would just know that God would come through - and a check would come in the exact amount needed.

Don’t give up right before the miracle! :yup: I’ll be praying for you. God’s got your back. Believe!
 
As I read through you previous post I conclude that you are a person of great self pity and self indulgence to your own pity party, blaming everyone and everything for your “failures.” Don’t tell me that you can’t find a job or something worthwhile to do. You do not say that you help your wife at home or help yourself. I know people with severe problems or handicaps that work…and do so with joy and thankfulness. Blaming God or the world in general is an easy way out. Yes, I know. This may seem harsh, but with reading your past postings I get the strong impression that you a difficult person to live with and deal with. These symptoms are hard to hide. You…not the rest of the world and God…need a drastic makeover. However, I will pray for you as I believe you need prayers and a spiritual awaking. Yes, you are going to come back and say that your right and that the rest of the world is wrong. So be it. Peace and prayers for you.
 
Every one of the OP’s posts is negative and self-absorbed. I’ ll pray for them, which is all we can do here. They definitely need professional help. Anyone who NEVER gets a job after years, NEVER hears back from volunteer organizations, and constantly seeks pity from anonymous internet posters, has serious problems. See a mental health professional, and a priest.
 
MainBrain said:
What a cruel existence! I have no purpose! How am I supposed to overcome my sins when I am at home every day? No work! YEARS NOW! Why must my mental state be brought to the verge of contemplating the unthinkable! THIS IS JUST ONE BIG STUPID JOKE! I am such a loser.
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Praying to the Holy Spirit to give you strength & fortitude & praying to St. Joseph for you to find employment.
 
Prayer to do God’s Will

Dear Lord God Almighty
We know that You are Jesus, and that You died for us.
Give us Your Holy Spirit, to live in us forever, and thus bless us with
Eternal Life. Let Your Holy Spirit testify through us and speak the Truth through us.
Let Your Holy Spirit love through us- a perfect unselfish Holy Love; so that we
lay down all worldly ambitions, give up our wills, and do Your Holy Will.
Take our thoughts away from making money, or finding business opportunities.
Take our desire away from seeking worldly wealth or fame. Take our eyes away from
looking on vain worldly appearances, which deceive and mislead us. Keep our thoughts
on doing Your Holy will, not on seeking worldly material things, or vain worldly status.

Let Your Holy Spirit give us our ONE desire and ONE purpose. To do Your Holy Will. If You desire us to walk paths of poverty, then so be it. If You desire us to lose everything, that we think is important or valuable, then so be it. If You desire us to sacrifice everything we have and our lives, then so be it. If You desire us to endure pain and seasons of harsh conditions, then so be it. If You desire us to live or die, then so be it. Let Your Holy Will be done in our lives. For, even our lives are not our own. We owe everything to You.

Keep us from looking in the mirror and admiring our own beauty, which is not beauty at all. Let the true beauty be in us Your Holy Spirit of Truth and Grace. Keep us from pride and love of self, which is our enemy. Bless us with absolute, total, unselfish love. Which is only possible through Your Holy Spirit.

We give You our lives. Do with us as You will. Make our lives useful to Your Service. The only ambition we have is to humbly, and honestly do Your Will. We want to lift up Your Name Jesus, not our names. We want to make known the power of Your Holy Spirit, Jesus. We want You to claim us for Yourself, and use us according to Your Divine purpose. And no matter the job or task that You assign to us, we will be contented, and full of Joy, to do Your Holy Will, Jesus.

Let Your Holy Spirit, Jesus, live in us forever, and give us purpose, hope, peace and joy, and Eternal Life. For without You, we perish.

In Your Holy Spirit, Jesus, we pray!
Amen.
 
**Holy Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful, strengthen the fearful,
mother the abused, neglected, unwanted or forgotten,
give aid to all needing help or healing,
assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering,
be with those needing peace, console the lonely,
comfort the lost or hopeless, guard the unborn,
pray for those who are dying or who have died,
soften those with hardened hearts,
enlighten those who do not yet see truth,
help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go,
show us the way to do the right thing,
protect those who are in danger,
and guide us from every evil.
May all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen :gopray: **
 
Dear friend

I hope that your situation has improved and that you are in good spirits. If you are still at home and have spare time, these teachings changed my life - no exaggeration!

awmi.net/extra/audio

For you, maybe ‘The Power of Faith-Filled Words’ is a good one to start with but they’re all great.

Prayers for a very blessed 2014 for you,
Charlotte
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Eternal God , in whom mercy is endless,
and the treasury of compassion inexhastible ,
look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us ,
that in difficult moments we might not despair
nor become despondent , but with great confidence ,
submit ourselves to Your Holy Will ,
which is love and mercy itself . Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Praying that the Lord may grant you strength and guidance for your situation. Also praying for all necessary graces for you.

O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
 
Charlotteartist said:
Dear friend

I hope that your situation has improved and that you are in good spirits. If you are still at home and have spare time, these teachings changed my life - no exaggeration!

awmi.net/extra/audio

For you, maybe ‘The Power of Faith-Filled Words’ is a good one to start with but they’re all great.

Prayers for a very blessed 2014 for you,
Charlotte
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Thank you but no thank you. I know you mean well. I have been through the protestant tv preacher route for 30 years. Some of them are very good. But I have seen this guy on tv and I don’t want to go there. Maybe I am wrong. Maybe I should gleen through some of his teachings. Right now I am too much hurting. I find the Catholic Mystics to be of most help to me right now. But thank you for the link.
 
drip! Drip! Drip! Day after day… The same old thing! A wife who doesn’t love me! A world that doesn’t want me! A life that is amounting to nothing!!! It’s all so cruel!!!
 
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