Crush on a girl I work with

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I have a crush on a girl I work with but she has just recently got out of a bad relationship. I want to ask her for her number but I don’t know if I should. What should I do?
 
Let her decide if she doesn’t want a relationship, you’re not a mind reader. I’d just ask. Unless by “just got out of a bad relationship” you mean a matter of days.
 
Ask her if she wants out to lunch, or coffee after work.

Once you get chatting with her, you’ll know more whether you like her or not and whether she wants a relationship with you
 
If you are confirmed locate your certificates in the meantime and ensure you are registered at the church where you attend Sunday mass. This will allow the world of spirituality to know you are discerning the holy sacrament of marriage as you are in pursuit of her.

Saint Valentine is helpful as a patron saint for this matter also!
 
First find out if your work permits coworkers TO date. Some do, some don’t.

Then, ask her for coffee after work. Start with friendship.
 
I would be wary with courting a non-Catholic; if she does not become Catholic before marriage, that will lead to many difficulties down the road.
 
There is vastly more to religion than one’s political stands!
 
OP, please don’t overthink this. Just talk to her like a friend. That’s where all good relationships start. Then, you can offer to get lunch together. See how that goes.

Don’t think so far ahead that you are worrying about if she is pro-life, or Catholic at this point. It sounds like you don’t know her very well at this point, so just get to know her first.
 
Irishmom2 said:
It sounds like you don’t know her very well at this point, so just get to know her first.
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What’s wrong with, “Hi, you don’t really know me but I’m considering courting you for the purposes of discerning future marriage to you.” 😄
 
Yes, ensure that you’ve properly completed the “Single Catholic Man Seeking Courtship” form and filed it with the Dicastery for the Proper Regulation of Catholic Marriage in Rome.
 
“A woman sometimes forgives a man who forces the opportunity, but never a man who misses one.” --Charles De Talleyrand-Perigord, a Catholic bishop (yay!) who was laicized in 1801 (…oh…🤐)
My wife tells me that she waited long enough for me to ask her out that she’d basically written me off and was ready to move on.

As the race car driver said, “When in doubt, hit the gas.”
 
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Don’t ask her for her number. Ask her if she would like to stop and have coffee after work instead.
 
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