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Catholic247
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How can I ask her out how can I be sure if she would want to go out with me
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Augustinian
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You can’t be 100% sure, you have to be able to accept rejection. When you applied for this job in the first place, you didn’t know you were going to get it.
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Lee1
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Just ask, “would you like to go for coffee at …lunchtime/after work?”
You can’t be sure how she’ll answer, but how she interacts with you already at work may give you an idea. Sometimes we just can’t be sure of something, that is life I’m sorry to say.
Yes as @Augustinian points out be prepared for rejection. You’ll be fine either way I’m sure.
You can’t be sure how she’ll answer, but how she interacts with you already at work may give you an idea. Sometimes we just can’t be sure of something, that is life I’m sorry to say.
Yes as @Augustinian points out be prepared for rejection. You’ll be fine either way I’m sure.
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Theo2
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Do you have data that mixed religion marriages are more likely to divorce than same religion mariages. I think Catholics divorce at the same rate as the general public, so that is not a great statistic for catholic marriages.
It is more important that the couple have a commitment to the marriage that what religion they are.
It is more important that the couple have a commitment to the marriage that what religion they are.
Tis_Bearself
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OP, I don’t mean this to be harsh although it will likely sound that way, but at age 23 you need to be able to decide if you want to date a girl and then ask her out without it being a big deal.
The normal way for a guy to start out if it’s a girl he sees daily on the job, is first to make sure there isn’t a rule against workmates dating (usually at my workplaces there isn’t such a rule unless maybe person is dating their direct supervisor).
Then assuming it’s okay to date a person from work, the guy would start acting friendly to the girl when he saw her at work. Just little social contacts like stopping by her cube first thing in the morning or at break time to say hello and share a joke or talk about a mutual interest you both have, or maybe if there’s a coffee or tea break that you have together, strike up a conversation. In this way you can also get some idea of whether the girl likes you back.
Finally after you have had some contacts with the girl and she seems receptive, ask her if she’d like to get a coffee after work sometime and if she says yes then say, “Great! How about tomorrow?” Or whatever. If she says that day doesn’t work for her then suggest another, or ask her to tell you a day/ time when she’'s free.
If you ask and she’s not receptive, then move on to the next girl.
The normal way for a guy to start out if it’s a girl he sees daily on the job, is first to make sure there isn’t a rule against workmates dating (usually at my workplaces there isn’t such a rule unless maybe person is dating their direct supervisor).
Then assuming it’s okay to date a person from work, the guy would start acting friendly to the girl when he saw her at work. Just little social contacts like stopping by her cube first thing in the morning or at break time to say hello and share a joke or talk about a mutual interest you both have, or maybe if there’s a coffee or tea break that you have together, strike up a conversation. In this way you can also get some idea of whether the girl likes you back.
Finally after you have had some contacts with the girl and she seems receptive, ask her if she’d like to get a coffee after work sometime and if she says yes then say, “Great! How about tomorrow?” Or whatever. If she says that day doesn’t work for her then suggest another, or ask her to tell you a day/ time when she’'s free.
If you ask and she’s not receptive, then move on to the next girl.
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Catholic247
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I saw her today at work we talked a little bit she seemed she had something on her mind but I’m not sure
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LilyM
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Stop trying to play mind reader, get out there and ask already - as long as there is no workplace policy against it. The worst that can happen is she says no.
If she is a half decent person and says no she will say it in a nice way and you can still be good friends and colleagues. If she is nasty then she isn’t someone you’d want to be crushing on anyway.
Good luck!
If she is a half decent person and says no she will say it in a nice way and you can still be good friends and colleagues. If she is nasty then she isn’t someone you’d want to be crushing on anyway.
Good luck!
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Catholic247
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Thanks I’m going to try to ask her tomorrow
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on_the_hill
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Or that you actually had to use the numbers instead of just tapping on a contact name.
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YoungCatholicGuy
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Not a big difference. Most people still look like teenagers until they reach their 30s.
Become her friend, ask her to coffee/ cinema/ etc (don’t say it’s a date, go with a group if it would be better), become her friend, and on the 4th occasion of a social activity, then ask her out,
(If she has stopped meeting up with you, you will know she is not interested, if she continues to meet up with you, then you know she MIGHT be interested, as she is interested in you as a friend,
Don’t be over the top interested, be a normal co-worker friend who respects if the other person doesn’t want to be a friend. (Because you may discover that both of you are incompatible, or, she may not be interested, and also: someone with incorrectly comes across as having a desperate infatuation could cause the other person to cautiously close all doors of friendship).
Bible quote: ‘you do not, because you do not ask.’
‘Ask and the door will be opened to you.’
Become her friend, ask her to coffee/ cinema/ etc (don’t say it’s a date, go with a group if it would be better), become her friend, and on the 4th occasion of a social activity, then ask her out,
(If she has stopped meeting up with you, you will know she is not interested, if she continues to meet up with you, then you know she MIGHT be interested, as she is interested in you as a friend,
Don’t be over the top interested, be a normal co-worker friend who respects if the other person doesn’t want to be a friend. (Because you may discover that both of you are incompatible, or, she may not be interested, and also: someone with incorrectly comes across as having a desperate infatuation could cause the other person to cautiously close all doors of friendship).
Bible quote: ‘you do not, because you do not ask.’
‘Ask and the door will be opened to you.’
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Vonsalza
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Amen to that.“A woman sometimes forgives a man who forces the opportunity, but never a man who misses one.” --Charles De Talleyrand-Perigord, a Catholic bishop (yay!) who was laicized in 1801 (…oh…)
My wife tells me that she waited long enough for me to ask her out that she’d basically written me off and was ready to move on.
As the race car driver said, “When in doubt, hit the gas.”
The man that shoots and fails is a far superior creature to the man that talks himself out of talking the shot.
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Hope1960
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Don’t know if this is true or an urban legend, but a family with the actual number had to have their number changed because of all the calls for Jenny.
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modestobruce
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Do this with your eyes wide open. Dating someone you work with, as has been pointed out, can be difficult.
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nunsuch
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Um, Catholics are Christians.
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CatholicSpirit
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Chart:
Tis_Bearself
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This is fine except that it once again suggests Catholics aren’t “Christians”. It’s misleading in that respect.
Yes, I know it has the clarification in the “fine print”. Still misleading.
Yes, I know it has the clarification in the “fine print”. Still misleading.
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