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MarieVeronica
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I’ve had a friend of over 16 years turn on me. And I’m at a loss. I will call her Patty (not her real name). She is 40 years old, and married. I’m a bit older than her.
It all started when Patty called me, needing a ride to her mechanic. I wasn’t able to help her, as she wanted. I was within 30 minutes of going out, with another friend… who was en route in her car, and could NOT have been contacted. Had the other friend arrived, and found me not at home… she wouldn’t have known what had happened to me.
I tried to explain all of this to Patty… and told her that I would come and pick her up, and drop her at her place of employment (which happens to be across the street from my home). Where I was sure, she could get further assistance. She told me… “Don’t worry about it. I’ll find another way”. I apologized to her, profoundly and we hung up (that was apology #1). But all through dinner with my other friend (whose birthday we were celebrating)… I worried about Patty.
The next day, I tried to contact Patty… several ways. By text (she never answered). By phone (she never picked up) and by social media (ignored my message… for a couple of days; apology #2 occurred here). Then… I began to notice “meme’s” on Patty’s social media page… things about bad, disloyal friends (she actually used another word, which I can not post here because it is filthy). I had a deep down feeling, that she was aiming those horrible things my way.
And so, with deep remorse… I contacted her AGAIN. I told her that I was aware she was still very angry, because of what was being posted on social media. And I apologized to her AGAIN (apology #3). She responded this time… rather sheepishly… and said she was sorry as well, for (quote) “the way I’ve been treating you”. That was an admission that YES, she was STILL angry and had not forgiven me. However, I accepted her apology, immediately… and thought that she had accepted mine, at last… and that was the end of it. Wrong.
In the next few days… she deactivated her social media account; saying nothing to me, about it. Again… I had that sinking feeling. So I messaged her older sister… who was aware of what had happened between Patty and I (apology #4, took place here). Patty’s sister responded very graciously, telling me that “Patty will come around”. I took that as further proof… that Patty WAS INDEED still angry with me. And I was correct. One morning, I walked outside to find that my car had been “keyed”. Paint had been badly scratched off… near the back bumper. Immediately, the thought occurred to me… that she works just across the street and often works night hours. I tried so hard… to NOT believe that Patty could do this to me.
And I’m still trying to believe it was not her.
The next week… Patty reactivated her social media account, and immediately unfriended me. However, she left the rest of my family ACTIVE on her account. This went on for a number of weeks. And I took it (whether right or wrong) as a blatant attempt to further hurt and punish me… for not being available to help her.
Though my feelings were hurt badly, by now… I did not contact Patty on social media… out of respect for her feelings toward me. I had now apologized to her FOUR times. Yesterday… the final blow took place. After I had posted something on social media… about “forgiveness”… Patty (who had seen it) unleashed the full force of her rage on me.
My heart is crushed. This is a person who I had literally made a part of my family. I had asked her (and 2 other close friends) to sit in the front row with me at my mother’s funeral. That’s how highly I thought of her. I had cooked for her. She had sat at my table and eaten my food; and was made a part of family celebrations on many occasions. And to be “turned on” this way… for something over which I really had little to no control… is just beyond belief.
Some people may say… “You’re better off WITHOUT this friend”. But here’s the thing. I’m seeing a side of this friend that I have never seen in the over 16 years I’ve known her. I don’t know this “Patty” who has been treating me so badly. I don’t know her! I’m at a complete loss for what to think now.
Thank you for reading… and please, please keep me and Patty in your prayers. I must turn this over to God; because I’ve done all I feel I can humanly do… to fix this… to heal this… to get over this.
Thank you so much.
It all started when Patty called me, needing a ride to her mechanic. I wasn’t able to help her, as she wanted. I was within 30 minutes of going out, with another friend… who was en route in her car, and could NOT have been contacted. Had the other friend arrived, and found me not at home… she wouldn’t have known what had happened to me.
I tried to explain all of this to Patty… and told her that I would come and pick her up, and drop her at her place of employment (which happens to be across the street from my home). Where I was sure, she could get further assistance. She told me… “Don’t worry about it. I’ll find another way”. I apologized to her, profoundly and we hung up (that was apology #1). But all through dinner with my other friend (whose birthday we were celebrating)… I worried about Patty.
The next day, I tried to contact Patty… several ways. By text (she never answered). By phone (she never picked up) and by social media (ignored my message… for a couple of days; apology #2 occurred here). Then… I began to notice “meme’s” on Patty’s social media page… things about bad, disloyal friends (she actually used another word, which I can not post here because it is filthy). I had a deep down feeling, that she was aiming those horrible things my way.
And so, with deep remorse… I contacted her AGAIN. I told her that I was aware she was still very angry, because of what was being posted on social media. And I apologized to her AGAIN (apology #3). She responded this time… rather sheepishly… and said she was sorry as well, for (quote) “the way I’ve been treating you”. That was an admission that YES, she was STILL angry and had not forgiven me. However, I accepted her apology, immediately… and thought that she had accepted mine, at last… and that was the end of it. Wrong.
In the next few days… she deactivated her social media account; saying nothing to me, about it. Again… I had that sinking feeling. So I messaged her older sister… who was aware of what had happened between Patty and I (apology #4, took place here). Patty’s sister responded very graciously, telling me that “Patty will come around”. I took that as further proof… that Patty WAS INDEED still angry with me. And I was correct. One morning, I walked outside to find that my car had been “keyed”. Paint had been badly scratched off… near the back bumper. Immediately, the thought occurred to me… that she works just across the street and often works night hours. I tried so hard… to NOT believe that Patty could do this to me.
And I’m still trying to believe it was not her.The next week… Patty reactivated her social media account, and immediately unfriended me. However, she left the rest of my family ACTIVE on her account. This went on for a number of weeks. And I took it (whether right or wrong) as a blatant attempt to further hurt and punish me… for not being available to help her.
Though my feelings were hurt badly, by now… I did not contact Patty on social media… out of respect for her feelings toward me. I had now apologized to her FOUR times. Yesterday… the final blow took place. After I had posted something on social media… about “forgiveness”… Patty (who had seen it) unleashed the full force of her rage on me.
My heart is crushed. This is a person who I had literally made a part of my family. I had asked her (and 2 other close friends) to sit in the front row with me at my mother’s funeral. That’s how highly I thought of her. I had cooked for her. She had sat at my table and eaten my food; and was made a part of family celebrations on many occasions. And to be “turned on” this way… for something over which I really had little to no control… is just beyond belief.
Some people may say… “You’re better off WITHOUT this friend”. But here’s the thing. I’m seeing a side of this friend that I have never seen in the over 16 years I’ve known her. I don’t know this “Patty” who has been treating me so badly. I don’t know her!
I’m at a complete loss for what to think now.Thank you for reading… and please, please keep me and Patty in your prayers. I must turn this over to God; because I’ve done all I feel I can humanly do… to fix this… to heal this… to get over this.
Thank you so much.
which were over filled with tequila.