Nope. I really donât care what you think of my posts. It isnât my choice. I have had every single card I have sent, including school pictures of the girls, sent back refused.
To the restâŚ
This is a typical âmormon shunningâ. Although not quite as blatant as a JW would experience when leaving. Nevertheless, it always comes back to the apostate and their guilt.
One cannot possibly have left without being a sinner in the mormon sense⌠(we are all sinners and only Jesus can step in our place) , not being âgood enoughâ, not trying hard enough et al. Itâs not possible that one can leave and be shunned. It must be because the person themselves is defective.
in Christ
Steph
Ok, Iâve read your posts. Iâve read some of the things you have to say about Mormons, and your family.
While I am very sorry that your family seems to have thrown you out, you need to know that this is NOT what Mormons are counseled to do with those who leave the church. It is the opposite of what we are supposed to do. Human nature, of course, tends to rear its ugly head no matter what, but still.
Hereâs what I think happened, though, at least in part. You âfound religionâ elsewhere. You became so convinced that your new faith was the all in all, and that your old one was so heinous, and the people who still believed so doomed to hellfire and damnation that you wore your conversion on your sleeve, your neck, in your carâyou carried it in and about you everywhere you went. You went to family get togethers with a chip on your shoulder big enough to make a schooner mast, and every single conversation with you became about your new faith and how you were convinced that Mormonism was a cult and everybody in it either worthless or hellbound or stupid or brainwashed.
This is, of course, assuming that you actually did not do anything that would have gotten you excommunicatedâlike sleeping around or breaking Temple vows or something like that. This is simply assuming that you lost your faith in Mormonism and went elsewhere.
In fact, you behaved with your family and friends precisely the way you behave with Mormons right hereâŚand they got tired of it.
Your behavior, coupled with their heartbreak and disappointment, caused a family rift; partly their fault, partly yoursâŚand they simply cut their losses.
Can you tell me that if you went home, you could actually attend a family get together and NOT be obnoxiously âex Mormonâ and behave as if you are doing them a huge favor by showing up?
That you would respect their beliefs and keep your opinions about religion to yourself?
That you would simplyâŚenjoy the birthday party without making some snide remark about the absence of coffee, sayâŚor the rules about no dating until they were sixteen, or children âbearing testimoniesâ in church?
Could you actually attend Sacrament meeting without looking like you had eaten two lemons and a persimmon?
Iâll betâŚnot.
But that opinion is based only on the way you treat Mormons in here, so I could be wrong. You COULD be a long suffering, patient and sweet person who never insulted any member of her family because of the faith they still have, and keep. You COULD be the purest innocent victim who does her level best to keep bridges open with her family, apologizes for any offense, and is willing to allow them to be Mormon and still keep your respect for being your family.
It could happen. It would be interesting to hear what your familyâs side of this is.
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You need to go where God wants you.
