Curling a baby/toddler/young girl’s hair

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The rag curls is how my sister in law does it too. I am going to try to learn how to do that. Thanks!
 
My daughter has curly hair too, and she has finally learned to just let it do what it’s gonna do. It’s really cute, not super long, not super short, past her shoulders. She loves the deva curl products!
 
From childhood, I remember that rag curls were easier to sleep on than foam/plastic rollers.
 
I am so glad to see this being restated by so many. I am definitely going to learn how to do this.
 
I think that what you already do to take care of your child’s hair is perfect and sounds like a lovely solution. I’m not a mother myself but as an outsider it sounds perfectly acceptable to me. Perhaps remind your friend that it is wrong to judge others 😉
 
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Still she was very offended.
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do you know why she was offended? Did she feel you were correcting her? Personally, I can’t imagine telling someone they can’t ‘beautify’ their child since what is and what isn’t beautifying is subjective.
 
She said I was teaching them to be materialistic and that it went against modesty. She mentioned that they should be taught that they aren’t objects or dolls that need to be dressed up and beautified. She was saying that I was teaching them that they were objects and weren’t beautiful enough without changing their looks that God gave them. I tried to explain that their hair is actually very curly and I only put the curlers in the top and front (which doesn’t curl on its own) to even out their hair texture, make it easier to work with, and also to keep it out of their face. Especially out of their eyes. I like seeing their faces instead of hair in front of it. My one year old also has a lazy eye and it is recommended to keep her hair back so she sees better. She won’t keep her hair back and she puts those things in her mouth. It’s a choking hazard. Curlers seem to fix that problem. However, my friend is certain that it goes against modesty. I don’t know. I think it has more to do with the fact she has five sons and no girls. Her boys all have the same haircut and that hair cut makes it easier for her. She doesn’t understand that this is similar. It makes it easier for me.
 
You do not have to justify it, sweet lady. It is in no way sinful to style your daughter’s hair. You can also dress her in cute outfits. When she is a teen you can give her makeup tips, that is the fun of a daughter!
 
The vehemence of her explanation suggests that it has more to do with her than with you. Some parents do go nuts with their children’s appearances and perhaps she was reminded of that, even though what you’re doing is not that. So I’d say a prayer for her and then do what works for your family.
 
TheLittleLady said:
You do not have to justify it, sweet lady. It is in no way sinful to style your daughter’s hair. You can also dress her in cute outfits. When she is a teen you can give her makeup tips, that is the fun of a daughter!
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Daughters are so FUN! (not that boys aren’t too, I just wouldn’t know because I only have a daughter).
 
13pollitos said:
I think it has more to do with the fact she has five sons and no girls.
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I think that’s a very astute observation.

My wife and I take modesty very seriously. With our daughter, we never—even as a baby—put her in outfits with spaghetti straps, or bikini-style bathing suits. (It’s worked well because now at 11 she has absolutely no desire to dress that way.) So I’m definitely sensitive to modesty issues.

But what your friend is saying is over the top. Taking care of ourselves (and our children) and presenting ourselves (and our children) well does not mean we are being immodest or worldly.

Just like we wear our “Sunday best” to Mass, and we brush our teeth, and bathe, and take care of our hygiene. Certainly, people can take things too far and become vain and immodest. But it’s not a zero sum game.

I’m impressed your children have so much hair. :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:Our children were all basically bald for at least 6-12 months. My brother’s kids were bald for 12-18 months. 😆
 
Joe_5859 said:
I’m impressed your children have so much hair. :laughing:Our children were all basically bald for at least 6-12 months. My brother’s kids were bald for 12-18 months. 😆
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Yes they do have tons of hair. Google babies born with full head of hair to see what I mean. My one year old’s curls are actually shoulder length now and if I pull one curl straight it will go over halfway down her back. It is genetic. But I guess it’s sort of always wishing for something you don’t have because I always dreamed of having a bald baby. I love their little heads! Maybe someday I’ll have bald grandbabies.
 
Have to laugh at the bald babies! Mine both were (boy and girl). The boy had big blue eyes and looooong eyelashes so everyone thought he was a girl (baldie or not) and the girl had tiny eyes and no hair so everyone thought she was a boy…even dressed in pink. They now have those stretchy headbands with a flower on it but back in the day, all I could do was use toothpaste to try and stick a now on her little bald head. You just can’t win for losing, I guess.
As long as the curlers don’t interfere with their sleep it is simply a great solution for you and the girls. Ignore the woman’s comments. She was being judgemental.
 
My daughter was three before she had enough hair to put a barrette in.
 
That would solve this problem for me! I love the peach fuzz look. Every time I see a bald baby I just want to rub their little heads. They look so soft
 
My mom used to put curlers in my hair. I enjoyed it as a little girl.

My boys were born with a bit of peach fuzz that eventually fell out, and then they were bald until almost a year or so.

My daughter was born with hair. It never fell out. It was pretty long by a year.
 
I’m with your friend. They’re babies. Leave their hair alone. Nothing needs to be “evened out.” Just cut the front hair into bangs.
 
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