Dad at 13 , Mom at 15

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No, I don not think they should get married. It looks like their judgment needs to mature. They should give the baby up for adoption or have somebody else in the family take care of the baby.
 
Their marriage is illegal, so they cannot. What I think is that people should nnot have sex outside of marriage, and children should not be having sex at all.
 
I have to say this topic is very personal for me. I had my first child at sixteen. I sinned and I made so many mistakes, but HE is not a mistake he is a gift a wonderful blessing in my life. I don’t agree with sex outside of marriage but as a child I didn’t want to listen I wanted to do what I wanted. That is the unfortunate problem with teenagers and children (and some adults) these days they don’t want to answer to authority they do as they want. It’s not all to be blamed on the parents or family either, I grew up in a good catholic family, I chose to sin. I did it not them. We all sin we all have the promise of forgiveness. They need the full support of their family and positive support from the community, shaming them won’t help them to be good parents. They need mature adults to supervise and advise them. I wasn’t ready at sixteen but I had the support of my mother always and that was extremely important. She let me do my best and stepped in and helped when I needed her. And I would like to share that my mother wrote to Mother Theresa of Calcutta before my son was born and she wrote back and said she would pray for us for accepting Gods will(not choosing abortion) so maybe we should all just really pray for them and their family and not try to judge what would be best for them. Only God truly knows. God Bless.😉
 
nfabienne said:
I have to say this topic is very personal for me. I had my first child at sixteen. I sinned and I made so many mistakes, but HE is not a mistake he is a gift a wonderful blessing in my life. I don’t agree with sex outside of marriage but as a child I didn’t want to listen I wanted to do what I wanted. That is the unfortunate problem with teenagers and children (and some adults) these days they don’t want to answer to authority they do as they want. It’s not all to be blamed on the parents or family either, I grew up in a good catholic family, I chose to sin. I did it not them. We all sin we all have the promise of forgiveness. They need the full support of their family and positive support from the community, shaming them won’t help them to be good parents. They need mature adults to supervise and advise them. I wasn’t ready at sixteen but I had the support of my mother always and that was extremely important. She let me do my best and stepped in and helped when I needed her. And I would like to share that my mother wrote to Mother Theresa of Calcutta before my son was born and she wrote back and said she would pray for us for accepting Gods will(not choosing abortion) so maybe we should all just really pray for them and their family and not try to judge what would be best for them. Only God truly knows. God Bless.😉
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Hi friend nfabienne!

I think your real mother and Mother Teresa did a virtue to you; they were humanitarian, they did not share the sin, in my opinion. If you ask forgiveness from GodAllahYHWH; he having full authority might forgive you.

May GodAllahYHWH bless you!

I love Jesus and Mary

Thanks
 
When the father is only a year into being a teenager some judgment is needed. If these two just wanted to get married it would not concern me as much, but since a baby has been brought into the picture, it is more of a concern. I pray the baby is kept in the extended family but if that is not an option it should be put up for adoption. I am all for not judging people but when a person’s actions effect another, that is what judgment/law is for.
 
Too young to raise kids , but kid is born !!
So , are also gran-parents the one blame for this ??
Why do people wanna have sex before
they even can crawl on the floor ??

Anyway , what now is more important ,
the kid , hopefully this kid gonna get
a good life/education !!

Salute & Cheers from a NON BELIEVER:
– Laurent LUG (.@…), february 25, 2009
 
Yes, the grandparents are to blame. Letting a 13 year old boy sleep over in his 15 year old girl friends house is asking for trouble, however these children are not completely innocent either.
 
LDNCatholic said:
Their marriage is illegal, so they cannot. What I think is that people should nnot have sex outside of marriage, and children should not be having sex at all.
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Different countries have different legal ages of consent (I think it’s 15 in Japan). I think that’s from a British tabloid, and as I have no idea what the age of consent is there, I’m not going to comment on the legality of a couple from Britain marrying that young.

What I would question is their psychological and emotional fitness. I’ve met thirteen year olds who had a better idea of what a child needs, than some thirty year olds with kids of their own, but this certainly isn’t going to be the case across the boards.
 
Matrix_Refugee said:
Different countries have different legal ages of consent. I think that’s from a British tabloid, and as I have no idea what the age of consent is there, I’m not going to comment on the legality of a couple from Britain marrying that young.
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It is 16.
Muslim_Woman said:
In the name of Allah , Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Salaam/peace

What’s the minimum age for marriage in UK ?
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Salaam,

In England and Wales it is 18, or 16 in some circumstances, I believe in Scotland it is 16.
 
I believe they should get married when it is legal so the child will not end up becoming a bastard. But a marriage date should definalty be set up when they can legally get married. The child needs a mother and a father.
 
ClementRome said:
I believe they should get married when it is legal so the child will not end up becoming a bastard. But a marriage date should definalty be set up when they can legally get married. The child needs a mother and a father.
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Legitimacy really only comes into play where landed noblity and titles are involved. There’s really no such thing as an illegitimate birth, since we’re all God’s creation.
 
Muslim_Woman said:
In the name of Allah , Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Salaam/peace

Do u think they should get married ?

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2009/02/13/article-1144244-03809C4A000005DC-789_468x579.jpg

The Sun shows 13-year-old Alfie with daughter Maisie and the baby’s mother Chantelle Stedman, bottom right

Teenage sister of boy who became a father at 13 had baby when she was the same age

dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1144244/Teenage-sister-boy-father-13-baby-age.html
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  1. You can’t really believe this story because it comes from a tabloid and not legit sources
  2. Kids that age shouldn’t be having sex, but sometimes they do
  3. It would be illegal for them to get married, even with parental consent, due to age of consent and other local, state and federal laws.
  4. Why are you reading such garbage as the Sun anyway???
 
Matrix_Refugee said:
Legitimacy really only comes into play where landed noblity and titles are involved. There’s really no such thing as an illegitimate birth, since we’re all God’s creation.
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Hi friend **Matrix Refugee **!

Every child born of man and woman is innocent and legitimate; the sin if at all, is of the parents.

I love Jesus and Mary as mentioned in Quran.

Thanks
 
Muslim_Woman said:
In the name of Allah , Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Salaam/peace

Do u think they should get married ?
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Absolutely not!! CHILDREN are CHILDREN even if they are playing at being adults. I understand there is no legal limitations on a Muslim being married at a young age (The prophet married Aisha when she was 6yrs old) but marriage is too ADULT for children to be forced into it and MORALLY WRONG! Thank goodness they are not Muslims especially so for the girl.

Have you answered your own question? Peace
 
In the name of Allah , Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Salaam/peace
Matrix_Refugee said:
…There’s really no such thing as an illegitimate birth, since we’re all God’s creation.
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Is OT still a holy book to Christians ? If Yes , then it’s your holy book that says that 10th generations of a ba____ are not allowed to enter Lord’s house …something like that .

So , believers must get married first , then have babies. Also , they must teach their children to fear God , lower gazes & guard chastity.
 
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