It is understood in our Faith that if one is united to God, there is a transformation taking place. We take on the life of Christ, and more so when we co-operate with His graces. Human nature abhors suffering, but it a reality that is both natural and supernatural. When we are baptized, we are re-born into the life of Christ, made adopted children of God sharing His priestly, prophetic, and kingly ministries. This means you are a saint, whether you agree, or not agree with this truth of our Faith. We are temples of the Holy Spirit, members of the Mystical Body of Christ, and if we do not believe this, we make the Holy Spirit a liar, which tells me the devil is at work.
We are not meant to live lives of Angels, we are not pure spirits, but flesh, blood, and spirit. We were not meant in this life to live with a lot of spiritual and physical consolation. For how are we to advance in strength of virtue, and responsibility? There is a dark night of the senses, when we deny our flesh, and feelings for the greater good which is spiritual. Yes there is a dark night of the spirit when we suffer the temptations to abandon our faith, our holy vocation (if it is marriage) when we feel and think God is not there, especially when we do our very best to conform with His Holy Will and we see no answer, or understanding of what is happening to us, all avenues are closed to us. Our Faith, trust and love of God is being tried, not to push us down but to lift us up.
This happened to me, the problem was in me, and obstacle to a closer union with God which I desired. I was spiritually blind, and I didn’t know it. Jesus reserved this blindness just for me to let me know that He alone was my Saviour, and not anything that I with all my strength could do. I met Him because no one could solve my problem but Him, He had to enlighten me from within the very depths of my soul. When I look back I could see it so clearly, hindsight is so much better than foresight.
Obedience and trust are not to be downplayed, they are among some of the most important virtues, along with Charity, the cardinal virtues. The most important thing in our lives is to perform the will of God to the best of our abilities in our vocations, that is where God is perfecting us in virtue, and that vocation with the co-operation of the graces that come with it, is God’s will for us, it will sanctify us, and we will all be sanctified if we desire eternal union with God. Consolation will come as God deems to give them, but we do not hold our breadths until they come. We go about our vocations. Jesus said " Sufficient for the day is the evil thereof" so we must not go looking for evil, suffering and the such. Read the life of St. Theresa of Avilla to understand “spiritual consolations”, it is very enlightening. There is much to say, and I hope this helps you, God love you, and I pray for you that you will be granted peace of soul in Christ.