Date after divorce?

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Come on… this isn’t a theological treatise on Catholic love. This is an informal forum thread. The vernacular use of the word “platonic” in this context is understood to mean friendship or love that is not romantic.
 
That’s not how “platonic” is used in everyday vernacular English in the 21st century. The poster clearly meant friendship love as opposed to romantic love.
 
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That’s not how “platonic” is used
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Platonic is used to express unfulfilled, uncompleted, unattainable love [as in love for a muse]. [Or the musings of entertaining feelings and emotions not supposed to be fulfilled].

Platonic, in everyday use, puts emphasis on feelings and emotions. Whereas love puts emphasis on action, and spirit - on the person. Love is clearly defined in what it is, and what it is not. [Whereas platonic are all fleeting states of mind and stats of feeling, that state in itself.]

True love, is not devoid of feelings and emotions, nevertheless the end of love is a person and not our feelings or emotions. Platonic takes a person as an object to its ends, there lies its difference to love.

[And you are bound to find not little confusion circulating in the usage of both terms - vernacular not applying, since most don’t know what either word means, in this day and age, regardless of the idiom.]
 
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I leave it to you, to separate platonic from love in this exercise.

 
Thank you to those who understood my question. I believe my marriage was valid and will not consider dating. Group friendships would be within Church guidelines (not sin.) I understand that God hates divorce, but what’s done is done and He forgives.
 
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I believe my marriage was valid and will not consider dating
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Instead of simply saying “I believe” you should see what the Church believes, then conform yourself to it.

I strongly suggest you talk to a Priest about an annulment. You may come to seriously regret not doing so. Especially if you meet a nice man.

Merry Christmas
 
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The tendency some people have of trying to convince anyone and everyone that their marriage is likely to be invalid (without any specific reason), is rather absurd. If you really believe that marital invalidity is sufficiently common that its presence can be presumed likely in the marriage of a random stranger on the internet, then your main focus should be on fixing such a catastrophic situation, rather than trying to take advantage of it.
 
To be fair, I think a lot of non-Catholic marriages are invalid because of modern non-Catholic understandings of divorce. But there’s not really a whole lot to do about that. It’s not like they’re going to listen.
 
Moreover marriage enjoys the favour of the law. A marriage is presumed valid until proven otherwise.
 
Can. 1099 Error concerning the unity or indissolubility or sacramental dignity of marriage does not vitiate matrimonial consent provided that it does not determine the will.

Even among the completely secular, I think that 90+% of people getting married intend to remain together for the rest of their lives, even if they believe that divorce is really possible.
 
That, however, is a question for the tribunal, not an issue to be debated here.
 
True as regards any individual case. My comment (and the one DarkLight was replying to) regarded generalities.
 
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