Dating a divorced Catholic (who was civilly married)

[HomeschoolDad]

HomeschoolDad:

“What in the world was I thinking ?” could be a strong indication that this was never a real marriage.

Every married person I have ever known has this thought at one time or another, often many times. Since we do not marry saints, we marry humans who can be annoying at best.

After the rosy glasses of new have cleared one sees the warts. Does not have any impact on validity of the marriage.

I have known of people who never thought that. There are some people who see themselves as having been “made for each other”, and they never have doubts.

No, all by themselves, such misgivings and regrets don’t affect validity, but as I said, they can be symptomatic of underlying things so grave, that they could call into question the validity of the marriage. And people who are happy and contented in their marriages never question whether the marriage was valid or not.

 

[TheLittleLady]

A happy, long, bountiful marriage does not mean every day is bunnies and lollipops. Until I was widowed, we had such a marriage. There were times when we could not even look at each other, but, we came out the other side. If a marriage never had bad moments, I’d be suspicious. No person is perfect.