Helpful!
Another very helpful post! Unfortunately the strongest and, potentially, clearest part seems to have become confused in the delivery.
What exactly do you mean by *I will never date a man with kids that are not off and on their own. *
You will never date a man with kids that are not his own?
You will never date a man with kids that are off-and-on his own?
I’d like to get this clear, because your “never” is very strong.