Dating A Twice Divorved Man

[blueadept]

Jennie, I can relate to your circumstances and I fully appreciate you wanting to give this guy a chance. I would suggest investigating what led to the previous divorces and get more than one opinion. I would verify that he can get his marriages annulled if your relationship starts to get serious.

I married my 1st wife w/ 4 kids with the thought that we could work anything out. I was her 3rd marriage. Everything was fine while we were in the blissful stage of marriage. Once we moved past that and issues popped up, her hanging out in bars (with the girls) and such, I knew that we had issues to work out and I was willing to wait until she was ready to honestly work on the relationship. Needles to say, I never got the chance. It takes two people to work on a relationship. This guy has failed twice. I wish you the best in making your decision about dating him. Good Luck

 

[Sylvia22]

My sister is 26 and getting married for the 3rd time. She been divorced twice. The 2nd marrage probably should never have happened because she was sleeping with the guy’s best friend even before the marriage and then all thru the marriage. Then they got divorced and I dont even think that the 2nd husband even knew that was going on the whole time. Now she met some new guy 3 months ago and shes only been divorced about 6 months. She’s getting married again. I don’t agree with it. I dont think shes ready. But hey, like our mom used to say—if at first you don’t succeed try try again.

 

[chevalier]

If it involves other people, rather wait until you are ready to try again. Cheating means someone has a problem with himself or herself more than with the marriage, let alone the other person. If fidelity is such a problem, trying again immediately after failing once is perhaps not the best idea.