Dating Help, Meeting a Girl for the First time?

[Nake]

Hello people, I really do need some help here! I’ve been talking to this wonderful lady for about 7 months now and we are due to meet in person for the first time. Why for so long? well I live in the UK and the she lives in the U.S. But she will be visiting this month for about a week and i’m very excited and nervous at the same time, therefore my brain has completely gone brank.

I need a few i deas of what and what not to do please. I’m hoping she might be my other half, but i really don’t want to screw things up.

I a revert to the Catholic church and try my best to lead a chaste life ever since and follow what the Mother Church teaches. And to avoid all kinds of temptations, she will be staying in the hotel when she visits. But again, what happens if we both feel the same way about each other? I will never engage in a prematital sex for sure. But does kissing fall within the bounds of acceptable behavious without commiting sin? It it right to propose on the first date?

Apologies ladies and gentlemen if it seems i have too many questions, but i really do, and they are burning inside me, therefore your contribution will be greatly appreciated.

 

[jsaldar]

This happened to me 2 weeks ago. I met a woman that I had been chatting with for 8 years. It was awsome. We went out for lunch, and to the pool. However, we treated each other only as friends, and it’s so easy to get along since we know our personalities from texting and chatting for such a long time. It is a great opportunity to make another friend. Who knows friendships can grow into romantic relationships if the bonds are so strong.

Enjoy, I was scared at first; but once you are there with that person all is simple. Be yourself as you are when chatting or texting or whatever you use to communicate.

 

[supertubos]

Hello people, I really do need some help here! I’ve been talking to this wonderful lady for about 7 months now and we are due to meet in person for the first time. Why for so long? well I live in the UK and the she lives in the U.S. But she will be visiting this month for about a week and i’m very excited and nervous at the same time, therefore my brain has completely gone brank.

I need a few i deas of what and what not to do please. I’m hoping she might be my other half, but i really don’t want to screw things up.

I a revert to the Catholic church and try my best to lead a chaste life ever since and follow what the Mother Church teaches. And to avoid all kinds of temptations, she will be staying in the hotel when she visits. But again, what happens if we both feel the same way about each other? I will never engage in a prematital sex for sure. But does kissing fall within the bounds of acceptable behavious without commiting sin? It it right to propose on the first date?

Apologies ladies and gentlemen if it seems i have too many questions, but i really do, and they are burning inside me, therefore your contribution will be greatly appreciated.

I would not forecasting what if, and what if.

The joy of falling in love is not going to be after 5 minutes as it happens in today’s movies.
Unfortunately, as a teacher, I have been seeing kids engaging each time earlier in sex and exiting from it frustrated, disappointed (mainly girls, they gave sex to have love and after, no love and frustration). Kids should start with romantic love, with dreams and frustrations, with the knowledge of various human types of persons of the opposite sex, the rituals of courting, from beginning to the end, not the opposite.

The joy of dating, in my opinion, is the joy of falling love like 2 human being, who have, besides what animal has, intelligence, feelings and upper goals. Sharing of dreams and experiences, dialogue, discussion, appreciation, mutual support, tenderness are more than enough to make one happy. “Carpe diem”- enjoy the “now and hear” and, as a Catholic, the beauty of knowing that your love is a mirror of the Holy Trinity’s Love.

God Bless You

 

[Bookcat]

ewtn.com/expert/answers/dating.htm from a writer at EWTN …it will be of great help!

(One note though on this reading…I would note that when they say “as soon as he begins to enjoy…” Under pure intent… it would mean that the kind of starting to enjoy that starts to happen…before consent…)

Happy Lords Day!

Keep Following Christ as his disciple!

 

[karow]

I need a few i deas of what and what not to do please. I’m hoping she might be my other half, but i really don’t want to screw things up.

1. Relax;
2. Plan a few outings so you can both show her your corner of the world and get to know each other better; don’t plan an exhausting, see-all-of-the-UK itinerary, however. You’ll be sick of the sight of each other by the end of the week if you do.
3. Relax;
4. Plan on having fun. If you look at this as a chance to get to know an online friend better, you won’t screw things up.

I will never engage in a prematital sex for sure. But does kissing fall within the bounds of acceptable behavious without commiting sin?

As long as you’re not pinning her against the wall and forcing your tongue down her throat, no - a kiss is a kiss, not a sin.

It it right to propose on the first date?

Okay, this is where the situation could go horribly awry. I’m a woman. I’ve never been proposed to on a first date, but twice in my dating life I did have gentlemen move towards exclusivity at what I deemed a break-neck speed. They were nice, moral, intelligent Catholic men, but after a date or two they stated talking engagements, meeting the rest of the family, and “the rest of our lives.” And great as they were, they also to me smelled of desperation.

Another great example of this is my brother-in-law. I’ve know Max for 12 years. He’s a fabulous man - well-educated, well-read, clever, good job, and funny - but he’s terribly insecure of himself around women. Several times I’ve watched this wonderful man meet and fall for a woman online, “date” her virtually for months, spend weeks agonizing over their face-to-face meeting, come on too strong, and scare her away.

The best example was from three or four years back. We live in California, and he’d met this woman who lives in New York City, who after talking with him for about a year, decided to fly out to meet him. I think she was out here for a week, and in that time he’d arranged to not only show her all of Los Angeles, take her up to Yosemite, introduce her to his parents, my husband and I, our kids, and his grandmother over drinks at his place, then he dragged her up to San Francisco and proposed to her on the Golden Gate Bridge. All in a span of five or six days. It would be like taking your friend from London, over to Bristol, and up to Edinburgh three times in five days. Exhausting.

While that all sounded terribly romantic in his mind, I tried to tell him that it was waaaaay too much, too fast, too soon. Unsurprisingly, she rejected his proposal, they had a bad falling out, and she stayed on in San Francisco on her own before flying home. As far as I know, they never spoke again.

Moral: no matter how long you’ve known someone online, don’t propose marriage during the first face-to-face meeting.

Just relax, enjoy getting to know this woman better, and if all goes well at the end of this jaunt, make plans to meet again for another visit. Perhaps next time you can fly to see her in America. Then, if all goes well, you can talk about marriage.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[Nake]

Moral: no matter how long you’ve known someone online, don’t propose marriage during the first face-to-face meeting.

Just relax, enjoy getting to know this woman better, and if all goes well at the end of this jaunt, make plans to meet again for another visit. Perhaps next time you can fly to see her in America. Then, if all goes well, you can talk about marriage.

Good luck and have fun!

Thanks for that, ladies always give an indepth opinion on such matter and i like that

 

[Nake]

Moral: no matter how long you’ve known someone online, don’t propose marriage during the first face-to-face meeting.

Just relax, enjoy getting to know this woman better, and if all goes well at the end of this jaunt, make plans to meet again for another visit. Perhaps next time you can fly to see her in America. Then, if all goes well, you can talk about marriage.

Good luck and have fun!

Thanks for that advice. Ladies are always wonderful with their comments

 

[supertubos]

Moral: no matter how long you’ve known someone online, don’t propose marriage during the first face-to-face meeting.

Just relax, enjoy getting to know this woman better, and if all goes well at the end of this jaunt, make plans to meet again for another visit. Perhaps next time you can fly to see her in America. Then, if all goes well, you can talk about marriage.

Good luck and have fun!

Thanks for that, ladies always give an indepth opinion on such matter and i like that

I am a teacher. When comes to sexual education I get along very well with girls. With boys, I feel awkward.

The same with my sons. It was their mother who taught them all. she always tells me that it is me who should speak about it but … no way.

I discussed with female teachers the subject, and I got surprised faces: that it should be female teacher teaching to the boys sex education and male teachers teaching boys sex education. I have not seen this written anywhere, But it is what my experience tells me.

An example: a girls asked me why do boys find girls attractive. The question is beatuful. She is a girls and she does not find girls attractive. Why should boys find them attractive. I make years ago the same question: If I dont find men attractive what do wamen find in men attractive. Now I have got a theory bout it.

I was at ease with my girl student question and she was pleases with my answer. I aould not be at ease with the same question made by a boy …