Dating Others With Dissimilar Beliefs

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Hello All.

I recently developed quite a deep attraction to someone. She has ‘it’ (whatever it may be). As I have gotten to know her I’ve learned she is fairly liberal on the issues of the day (namely the issue of life). Of course this was deflating but, romantic that I am, I can’t help but think this is a moment to be an example (at the very least) to her.

So, has anyone ever dated a person with varying degrees of dissimilarity? How’d it go? I already know that the situation I described is incredibly hard and can lead to much heartache. I know God revealing what He did about her beliefs when He did is not coincidental. However, I live in NY and this may not be the last time this occurs.

Thanks in Advance!

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As I have gotten to know her I’ve learned she is fairly liberal on the issues of the day (namely the issue of life).
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To me, that would be a deal breaker. As a woman she gets the ‘choice’ and if you don’t persuade her she may kill one of your children.
 
I have dated women who were dissimilar to me. It never ended well as the dissimilarity invariably developed into something that led to breakups.

What you’re dealing with seems to be more than what I experienced, though. I could see her being liberal on gun control or something like that - that’s a small thing to disagree on. But being dissimilar on the issue of life is huge and could come back to haunt you in the future. There are a lot of women in NY, especially if you’re in NYC.

You don’t want to set yourself up for heartbreak, and that’s what this could lead to very easily.
 
People can be different, people can disagree. But when it comes to abortion… I just don’t get how you could “love” someone who is for something so ugly. I suppose no one would counsel you to date a person openly racist or pro genocide, or who wanted to harm children. But somehow this is ok with some. Go figure. I’d personally be repulsed by it.
 
I once seriously dated someone would not relent on abortion, let alone repent of that belief. I prayed for her to have the opportunity for a change of heart, but it became obvious I wasn’t going to be the one to lead her there so I ended it. I did not feel I had any other choice.
 
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Thank you to all who answered. Yes, it is pretty clear that someone who doesn’t stand with you on the life issue may very well not be someone you want to pursue. I was just looking for a story of someone who dated a person like that yet that person was open to dialogue/discussion. It is such a passionate issue (as it should be). Still, my situation is pretty clear. She’s a no go. Thanks.
 
Never date or marry thinking the other person will change. You have to be willing and happy to live with this person having the exact same set of beliefs and opinions in 50 years as they have now. Be sure this is the sort of opinions or beliefs you wish instilled in your children.

If you cannot do that, end the relationship and give her the earliest chance to find someone who shares her worldview.
 
Dissimilar beliefs regarding killing babies would be a deal breaker for me, not even taking into consideration the possibility that she might kill one of my very own children one day and it’s probably not even worth getting into whether or not she would agree to the Church’s teaching on birth control. That’s right up there with dissimilar beliefs about slavery, rape, child abuse, robbery, and killing people post-natally.
 
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