Daughter getting married, only baptized no other sacraments

[tadams]

Hello all.

I am new to this forum and have, what I think is an important question.

My children have all been baptized the the Catholic Church, but for one reason or another, have never received any of the other Sacraments. We have moved quite a bit for our jobs and have always been registered in the parish that we lived in, but couldn’t afford the tuition to send our kids to Catholic school (not that we didn’t want to), nor could we afford the PSR classes.

My question is this. Our daughter is getting married in December of this year. Her fiance isn’t Catholic (fine with us, she is happy), he is Christian though however. They would like to get married in our local parish, but since our daughter hasn’t received all of the sacraments, we don’t know if this is possible. They don’t want a full mass just to be married in our parish in our church is what they want.

Any help or insight would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Karin]

Wouldnt it make sense for your daughter and her fiance to meet with the Parish Priest.
HE can tell them all that is needed or required and as a side note to be married in the Church they need to go through a Pre-Marriage class.

tadams:

Hello all.

I am new to this forum and have, what I think is an important question.

My children have all been baptized the the Catholic Church, but for one reason or another, have never received any of the other Sacraments. We have moved quite a bit for our jobs and have always been registered in the parish that we lived in, but couldn’t afford the tuition to send our kids to Catholic school (not that we didn’t want to), nor could we afford the PSR classes.

My question is this. Our daughter is getting married in December of this year. Her fiance isn’t Catholic (fine with us, she is happy), he is Christian though however. They would like to get married in our local parish, but since our daughter hasn’t received all of the sacraments, we don’t know if this is possible. They don’t want a full mass just to be married in our parish in our church is what they want.

Any help or insight would be greatly appreciated.

 

[tadams]

Hi Karen,

We have an appointment with our parish pastor week after next as he is out of town all of next week with Diocese business.

I do know about the pre-marriage classes, though when my husband and I got married 23 years ago, they were called “Evenings for the Engaged”. 7 Sundays in a row as he was in the service and couldn’t attend the Pre-Canna classes required.

I just would like to know if a simple ceremony can be preformed in our church since our daughter hasn’t received all of the sacraments except for baptisim. She is already planning on the RCIA classes and has been for a while.

Thank you for answering.

Tina

 

[asquared]

tadams:

Hello all.
), nor could we afford the PSR classes.

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you were badly served by your previous parishes, or misinformed, every parish I have ever been involved in waives PSR or CCD fees for need, and usually requires no “proof” of any kind. No child may be denied the sacraments for financial reasons or any other, that is canon law. If someone connected with the parish told you otherwise they were wrong. We spend a lot of time moaning about liturgical abuse on this forum, but this is one of the worst.

Your daughter must first make an appointment with the priest to begin pre-marriage counselling and preparation in any case, usually no less that 6 months before their planned date, in her case, the sooner the better. They also need to request a dispensation for her to marry a non-Catholic and that requires paperwork and time. She can tell the priest about her situation at that time and begin her preparation for the sacraments of reconciliation, Eucharist and Confirmation. If she has never received any formal religious education, it may take longer as she has more to learn, but in any case they will probably have a lot of questions and would both benefit from the classes.

They certainly want to be well informed on Catholic teaching because of course she will be required to promise to bring up her children as Catholics (and her fiance must be informed of her promise), and needs to know enough to make an informed promise.

the Confirmation class will not be required of the young man, but of course he would be welcome to sit in if he wishes.

Full initiation is strongly urged before marriage, because the sacramental graces of the sacraments are so essential to meeting the demands and challenges of marriage and raising a family. Her not being confirmed would not be an absolute barrier to getting married, but she should make every effort to complete her Christian initiation, for her own spiritual health and the health of her marriage.

Usually a nuptial Mass is not recommended for a mixed marriage, since at least half the guests will not be able to receive communion, and pastorally a shorter ceremony with readings, vows would be better.

The best thing to do is for the couple to make an appointment with the pastor right away and get things moving. Like everything else with planning a wedding, things take time. There will be a fee for use of the church and facilities, but if financial need is a concern, discuss it with the priest at that time. There is NEVER a fee for any sacrament of the Catholic Church, although donations of course are always accepted.

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

tadams:

Hello all.

I am new to this forum and have, what I think is an important question.

My children have all been baptized the the Catholic Church, but for one reason or another, have never received any of the other Sacraments. We have moved quite a bit for our jobs and have always been registered in the parish that we lived in, but couldn’t afford the tuition to send our kids to Catholic school (not that we didn’t want to), nor could we afford the PSR classes.

My question is this. Our daughter is getting married in December of this year. Her fiance isn’t Catholic (fine with us, she is happy), he is Christian though however. They would like to get married in our local parish, but since our daughter hasn’t received all of the sacraments, we don’t know if this is possible. They don’t want a full mass just to be married in our parish in our church is what they want.

Any help or insight would be greatly appreciated.

She should meet with the pastor. Since she has an entire year it is more than possible for her to receive adult instruction for Reconciliation, Holy Communion and Confirmation. Then receive those Sacraments before the Sacrament of Marriage. When she attends Sunday Mass does she go up and receive a blessing? Or does she remain in the pew?