Daughter murdered by adopted step son

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I have been a part of CAF forums since joining the faith in 2012. I’ve mainly lurked, but have posted in the past for advise on certain matters. And now, three years after my beautiful Saint Brooklyn met our Lord, I’ve been really struggling with this cross. On June 25, 2014, my adopted step son murdered my 2 month old daughter (born April 25, 2014). Our lives were obviously turned upside down. We had been seeking help for that child for the many issues he had been struggling with, including sexual and physical abuse in his childhood from his maternal grandmother. I put so much time, love, and sacrifice into him when Brooke was alive that he took even that from me. I have so few memories of her at all. I do forgive him since I have no choice. Nothing can bring her back and yes I take comfort that she is with our Lord (thank God we had her baptized on June 1st of that year), but his actions poisoned our family and it has only been this past year I (we) have really started to heal after hitting rock bottom, using alcohol as an escape (so, so bad, but I stopped drinking April 26, 2016). All it allowed me to do was to distract myself from my grief in the most destructive way possible. It almost broke our family as my poisonous hatred was drowned by a poisonous substance, leading to even worse (if that’s even possible) quality of life for my five remaining children in the house, including my other adopted step son, his younger brother, who had also suffered the same abuses. I had been unknowingly taking out my grief, anger, and hatred on him, but thankfully God showed up, put an end to my drinking, and on the current path of healing and it truly is amazing the 180 we are just one year later. Only now, I’m forced to actually grieve, instead of hiding from it. And I know God is carrying us, and in some ways my faith has never been stronger. But it has also caused us the loss of so many friends and family members. We had to move to a new state for a fresh start, and as great as that move has been for us, it’s also been all the more isolating on our lonely island, as we call it. I’m asking you prayer warriors for continued perseverance, healing, and strength for the many many days this cross is so heavy, all I can do is just stare at it. For continued sobriety, and most especially, prayers of peace and healing for my spouse and children (ages 15, 9, 6, 4, 2). Thank you in advance.
 
I can’t find words to say what I feel for you and your family.
I hold up to the Lord each of you, asking His healing love to fill your lives.
I ask God to bless you for your courage and thank Him for the graces He has already given, and to which your family has so bravely responded.
With love and prayer
 
I am so sorry for your pain. I cannot imagine how I would respond; you are walking with the Lord who has you close to his heart, which is wonderful.
May our Lord and our Lady continue to help, strengthen and comfort you and your family and heal your wounds.
 
Mary, Gentle Woman, Queen of Heaven,

Please intercede on our behalf for this grieving Family. The pain they are suffering is beyond the pale, and the burden of this cross needs the healing of your Son, Jesus.

Saint Joseph, Patron of Families
Pray for this broken family, and may they find themselves comforted in the Presence of our God.

St. Thomas Aquinas, Patron of Students,
Intercede on our behalf, so that these students can attend school, and temporarily be freed from this burden that plagues their family. May they be given the strength to do well in school, so that they can succeed later on in life, in service to our Lord.

Amen.
 
I’m praying for you and your family. May God restrain you from getting back into the habit of drinking. May He also bring peace and reconciliation to you and your family.
 
For your suffering and pain, may God be with you…

Praying for you…
Our Father, Hail Mary x10,
Glory Be, Fatima, AMEN!
 
I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter and for the pain and suffering this has caused you and your family.

I’m praying for you to find healing and peace.
 
Hi jheckle81,

Prayers said for your intentions.

Prayers said that your family may find peace.

May God bless all of you.
 
Oh my. My heart is with you. I hope you are seeking therapy for healing and grief… praying for your whole situation.

Hail Mary, full of grace,
The Lord is with Thee;
Blessed art thou among women,
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Our Father,
who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Wow. I can’t even begin to imagine. 😭

Remembering you and your family in my daily prayers. May God bless you all. Take care.
 
I can’t find the words to tell you how sorry I am for all you and your family have suffered. God Bless you and keep you safe. May you feel the Holy Spirit covering you and know that Jesus is carrying you through this time.
 
That you may find the strength to deal with this…
Our Father, Hail Mary’s (10), Glory Be, Fatima Prayer, Amen
 
Heartfelt sorrow for your loss and continued challenges.
Praying for you and all those involved
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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the Fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.
 
Praying for you & your family to have physical, psychological, emotional & spiritual healing.
 
Continued prayers for your family, in coping with your lifelong loss.
 
So sorry for your loss … prayers for you and your family, that the wound may heal …

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!
O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

I believe in God, the Father almighty, Creator of heaven and earth, and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, our Lord, who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried; He descended into hell; on the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of God the Father almighty; from there He will come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and life everlasting. Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
 
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