Thank you. That is what I thought. I was just hoping that I was wrong. I think that my daughter will as her "sub"Godmom to be her God mother during her first communion. I think that it might mean more to my neighbor than me asking her in the first place!
Thank you again for helping.
Since there isn’t a particular role for godparents for First Holy Communion, there isn’t a reason to make any “official” change in godparents.
Still, you surely chose this aunt for a reason. I can imagine that not knowing about her marriage might have hurt, but don’t give up on her too easily. I know a lot of people who, with greater than a twinge of guilt, have lost track of family and friends that they used to be considerably closer to. Consider calling the wayward godmother and asking her if she and her new husband would be interested in joining you for a nice dinner to celebrate your daughter’s patron saint’s feast day.
You might first inquire with the parent who is your aunt’s sibling, though, and ask if there is anything going on in your aunt’s life that you are not aware of. I don’t mean an accusation, but along the lines of, “we just never really hear from her anymore, that’s all, and I wanted to make sure everything is OK with her. I mean, I didn’t even know she got married. Do you suppose she thought I knew, and maybe thinks that I purposefully ignored it or snubbed them?” Now, you might have information about that, so the inquiry you actually make might be different, but I mean just to ask about her. If the reply is frosty, keep it in mind when deciding whether and how to re-establish contact.
I’m assuming she is a blood relative, and not an aunt by marriage. If she is an aunt by marriage, you might consider that her new spouse might have issues with her ignoring her new family (namely his) in favor of the family of her former spouse, even if she was widowed. At any rate, there could be a lot going on in the “aunt” and “sister” department that could have distracted her from her duties as godmother.
Keeping that in mind, be as charitable as you can, as you proceed. A godmother has a special role, but most of what your daughter learns about how a Christian thinks and acts is going to come from watching you!
