You have expressed the matter very well, Deacon.
I compliment your formulation in both this response and the one that follows, which is not formatted in a way that allows me easily to quote it.
I will remark, from my own consternation which I share with you, that it is really not useful or well received when persons who are not Deacons endeavour to explain what is “reality” to one who actually is a Deacon and lives that vocation – and I can say the same thing as a priest relative to the priesthood.
And, what is worse, to dismiss what you say on the grounds that it is “idealistic” (!) is beyond the pale…just as it would be frankly nothing short of insulting for a lay person to dare to presume to explain to me “reality” about a vocation I have not only lived for decades but that I have formed seminarians to live, whether as secular clergy or as Religious.
You have addressed the various points raised but one…which is what I have read as a type of proposition that Deacons should receive a sort of honorarium per function they fulfill.
In fact, varying from diocese to diocese, it can happen that a Deacon, if he be the presiding minister of a baptism, funeral, or wedding, and he receives a gift from the family for the occasion that he has presided, he can be allowed to keep the gift…or not. This is governed by diocesan policy.
However, any concept that a Deacon receive a cash payment per Communion call made or Mass assisted at would be something abhorrent to every Deacon I have ever worked with…as though their sacred ministry could be reduced to a crass per-piece labour for money.
The nature of the vocation is understood by the man before he begins formation.
It does happen, in dioceses where there is a shortage of priests, that the Bishop may choose to name a Deacon as Parish Administrator. Depending upon the scope of his responsibilities, that can indeed be his full time employment (or it can be part-time) and remuneration would have to be examined in the light of the circumstance.
A Deacon, instead of a lay person, could be hired as a Director of Religious Education. He could be hired as a Family Life Minister or school principal or hospital chaplain or prison chaplain or administering a charitable agency or so forth.
In all other circumstances, a Deacon’s ministry in a parish is part-time, coming after his family and professional commitments, and he sees to his needs and those of his family from his profession’s salary.
Which brings me to how this is actually to be approached for all clergy…be they Deacon or Priest. It is well expressed by the Church in Australia. They articulate it as follows:
Australian taxation regulations regard clergy as ‘religious practitioners’ or ‘servants of God’ who receive a stipend and not a salary or wage in exchange for their labour, as an employee. This too is how the canons on the financial support of clergy interpret the matter. The financial support is not to be considered a wage for services provided or hours worked and in fact anything which would create the impression that clergy are employees is to be avoided.
In other words, the incardinating entity assumes an obligation that the incardinated cleric is not in penury and has his essential needs fulfilled regarding clothing, shelter, and food and that which is necessary to his maintenance…but “the labourer deserves his hire” is not the paradigm to be applied in regard to maintenance of the clergy.
*Can. 281§1. Since clerics dedicate themselves to ecclesiastical ministry, they deserve remuneration which is consistent with their condition, taking into account the nature of their function and the conditions of places and times, and by which they can provide for the necessities of their life as well as for the equitable payment of those whose services they need.
§2. Provision must also be made so that they possess that social assistance which provides for their needs suitably if they suffer from illness, incapacity, or old age.
**§3. Married deacons who devote themselves completely to ecclesiastical ministry deserve remuneration by which they are able to provide for the support of themselves and their families. Those who receive remuneration by reason of a civil profession which they exercise or have exercised, however, are to take care of the needs of themselves and their families from the income derived from it. ***
It is from this latter provision that the ministry of Deacons is largely non-stipendial.