Deacon's wife

[Wendy_Jaye]

I am compiling a letter supporting my husband’s application for the deaconate and I don’t know how to go about it and what I need to include in this letter. Could someone assist me?

 

[Joannm]

It does not have to be complicated. I simply stated that after prayer and conversation with my husband that I am in full support of my husband’s decision. I also wrote that I am aware of the time commitment of formation and parish work once he is ordanined. I also stated that I am willing to participate in any sessions that wives are expected to attend and that his decision to be a deacon would, in my opinion, not have any adverse affects on our family. All they really want to know is that you are agreeing to this. Also, you will probably be called in for an interview at which you can elaborate more fully.

 

[ServusDomini]

I was thinking about this same thing. I am sure I will be asked to write a letter shortly now that my husband has been accepted to aspirancy.

 

[Joannm]

I was thinking about this same thing. I am sure I will be asked to write a letter shortly now that my husband has been accepted to aspirancy.

Congratulations. I was involved in formation of the aspirant class in my diocese for a few years. I loved working with them. They were so nervous but so anxious about being back in school after so long but they were so eager to learn. As a wife, remember that it is his vocation. So many wives feel the pressure, even from their pastors, to get involved in their husband’s ministry and that can cause problems if the wife really isn’t interested in doing that. I know a pastor who told the deacon he and his wife were going to do Pre-Cana and she really didn’t want to, but she felt obligated and it caused all kinds of problems. The wife has the right to say “no.” and hopefully her husband will support her. Again, it is his vocation, not hers.