Dealing with a prideful person?

[ResoluteSheep]

I have issues with my anger and pride at the moment. So if someone is being obnoxiously proud like making a statement such as: ‘‘I hope you guys can actually do more than me this time, please don’t mess up’’ it just gets me really mad. I’m always tempted to say something like ‘‘cool I’m sure you’ll do a great job like all the time, buddy’’ (in a passive-aggressive way) because what I’m thinking right now is that a passive stance (just letting it be) is not gonna be helpful if an individual like this keeps spewing out prideful comments like this and it really sucks when I have to work with an individual like that all the time. What do you guys think I should do in this case? Would love to hear your feedback, thank you

 

[fhansen]

Weigh it all against love and humility. Very hard to do but somehow people don’t react well to accusations-and we often tend to take *everything *as an accusation whether it’s intended that way or not. So one over-sensitive ego gets slapped by another over-sensitive ego which then wants to slap back, and anger and hatred thrive, instead of resolution. So model love and humility. Treating someone well when they treat us bad is the only way to convict a person., the only way to bring real change to this world. St Francis de Sales: “A spoonful of honey attracts more flies than a barrelful of vinegar.”

I know, easy to say, but it also makes us feel better about ourselves when we don’t “play the game”. Love is gentle and kind and helpful, pride is petty and jealous, always trying to raise itself above the crowd; never succeeding in reality. Having said that, its good to be strong, to stand up against evil, but that can still be done with love and wisdom and humility.

 

[tweedlealice]

Salutations,
One could respond that,"We all have gifts. You have yours that you work so well and the team has individual gifts that we all share."If you can name some gifts of the group that may help. Isn’t there a saying that goes,“TEAM DOES NOT HAVE AN I IN IT!” ?
Don’t forget prayer every morning before you get to work. Dear Lord, help us to unite in harmony. Give us Your love in our hearts for each other to help us to grow. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sew love. Where there is injury, pardon. Where there is doubt, faith. Where there is despair, hope. Where there is darkness, light. Where there is sadness, joy. Oh, DeviNE Master, grant that I may not, so much seek to be consoled, as to console. To be understood, as to understand. To be loved, as to love. For it is in giving that we receive. It is in pardoning that we are pardoned and it is in dying, that we are born to eternal life.

St. Francis says it all.
in Christ’s love
Tweedlealice

 

[ShrodingersCat]

Passive aggression, IMO, is worse than calling out the person. Try and stay calm and just say, hey we did our best last time and there is no need for that kind of talk and move on instantly. Don’t say it in an emotive way, just matter of factly. A guy I work with is really good at letting people know when they are being tools without attacking them, so they can’t really make a come back. Even though his reaction is calm every one else present can appreciate his awesomeness

 

[St_Francis]

It’s not our job to teach someone unless we have authority over them, and then we must teach appropriately. The best way to handle a situation like the one you describe is to draw the person aside and say, peer-to-peer, something like, “It bothers me when you say things like that, because it seems to discount the effort I made to do it right,” rather than “Stop being a prideful jerk.”