I don’t have the stamina to read this entire thread, but Floresco, your posts are excellent and I find it very refreshing to see someone using objective, rational arguments while also in line with the Church and seeking to be charitable about it all.
It is only our sadly emotional and relativistic society that supposes that objective arguments can be in themselves uncharitable - the same situation occurs with people who think it is uncharitable to say that homosexual acts are objectively immoral (I am not suggesting that those who attend the OF approve of homosexuality, - I also attend the OF - it is merely a comparison). “Charity” that denies the truth in order to protect others’ feelings is false charity. Similarly, non-Catholics often think it is arrogant of Catholics to claim that they possess the fullness of revelation and Truth, and that therefore they are lacking in humility. But if we know that the Catholic Church has the fullness of truth - which we have received through the grace of God along with the responsibility that accompanies truth-, then we cannot deny that this is so without telling falsehood; it is not an issue of humility, but integrity. Actually, humility and truth cannot be separated. If we discard truth, humility is impossible.
In the case of the OF/EF forms, where as you said, the Church has not ruled that the EF is theologically superior, and those of us who think it is do not have the Church’s support for our opinion - unlike the other issues I mentioned by way of comparison - we can still make the argument, but cannot insist on it in the same way, as you said. Other Catholics should recognize that the principles of objectivity and truthfulness still apply here. Even if we are mistaken in our views, until it is objectively proven that we are mistaken - whether by rational argument or an infallible declaration of the Church - those who accuse us of being arrogant or uncharitable merely for setting forth those views are falling into the same trap as non-Catholics who make the accusations outlined above.
Disclaimer: I go to daily Mass and attend both forms of the rite and I acknowledge what Pope Benedict said as true - both forms are valid, both are sacred. I still think, based on a comparison of the prayers of the two forms, that the difference cannot be reduced to one of “preference.” I am one human being and could be wrong.