Dealing with Loneliness

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and joined one of the social events. That was a year ago, well I was approached by one of the ladies that informed me that some like to gossip !
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That one group does not represent every group. Find a group at your or at a neighboring parish that “fits”. No, don’t expect perfection, every group of humans will have some flawed people.
 
If you had a painful appendix, you would trust a non-Catholic to operate on you, right?

Depression is first and foremost something to discuss with your GP/Family Care Physician. Then, get a referral to a therapist. A professional therapist is going to respect you faith. Not sure where this idea that any non-Catholic therapist is going to attack our faith comes from, and it is prevalent! If a licenced therapist does such, you need to report them to the licensing board because it is a violation of their ethics policy.
 
I am an introvert too. I found that the best way to make friends is to go out and do something you enjoy. I found new friends through taking language classes and one of them even grew up in the same city across the country that I did. So if you pursue your interests you meet people who like the same things you do and then you have something to talk about of mutual interest.
 
I get the loneliness part. Over the last few years, five people I consider pretty good friends have died. My friend whom I see the most has cancer and will probably be gone in a year or two. I am older, and these were people whose friendship and support I was counting on. I am beginning to feel somewhat adrift.
 
‘Whoever has God lacks nothing, only God suffices.’ - St Teresa of Avila
 
Thanks everyone for the responses both public and private. I appreciate the (name removed by moderator)ut.

Please continue to pray. I still have been having pretty intense “episodes” off and on. I don’t understand entirely right what is causing this, or why Jesus is allowing this, but I need the strength to continue to cling to Him, and to keep in mind that He is, in fact, clinging to me tighter than I am to Him, even if it feels sometimes as if He’s abandoned me.

I wondered, during my time in Adoration recently, why Christ, knowing full well how agonizing His passion was, that He would, at times, allow us to suffer through it with Him. Normally friends, when they go through something terrible, say to the one they love “I would never want you to go through that” and may even go to great lengths to prevent the other from experiencing said pain. But Jesus doesn’t seem to work this way. Then, I could’ve sworn I felt an inner whisper remind me, “Because afterwards, comes the Resurrection.”

Pax Christi.
 
I wanted to chime in too. I also deal with loneliness and I’m very introverted and extremely shy (although I’m working on this) so it’s hard to make friends. For the last 7 years I was a caregiver for my grandma then in February she passed away. I’m not going to lie to you this year has been really hard for me, first her passing away, then something happened and I had my dad really step up and help me out including letting me live with him and my stepmom and getting me a job and recently I’ve had health issues and I’ve been in doctor’s offices/hospitals trying to see what’s wrong with me, so this hasn’t exactly been an easy year for me either. That being said the changes that happened mostly have been positive, I made a new friend through work and although he moved 5 hours away we are still friends and he’s religious and prays for me often which I think is nice. I gained new stepsiblings and my stepbrother’s wife and I are really close and I’m reconnecting with my cousin and we are becoming closer again. I’m also going to church which I hadn’t in years. I still pray and ask God for friends. Now I don’t need a lot of friends but it doesn’t hurt to have a couple more. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety and there were times in my life when I thought about killing myself. I probably have a mental illness (it runs in my family) and I plan to find a therapist as soon as my medical work comes back positive and then I can start moving on with other things. I hope that things get better for you. I’m wondering if there is anything in your church you might consider joining to meet new people.
 
Same here. I don’t care for the idea of having a large “posse”. One or two really close friends is fine by me, which is one reason this has been hard on me, because she was one of my only ones. All of my other family members (with the exception of those of the household) are out of state. My family became really close to one particular family here and I sometimes hang out with them. None of them are my age though (middle aged parents and pre-teen/young teen kids. A great bunch, nonetheless).

I’m glad you are returning to church. Christ in the Eucharist in particular is a great comfort during my trials. I hope you find the right kind of help. That can make all the difference. I’ll remember you in my prayers <3
 
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