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Hi Richca I like your post#394, your explaination is right on!
I agree with you on every issue except marriage and divorce. There are no vows in the Orthodox wedding service. Therefore, we see marriage as a relationship not a legal relationship. We certainly do not encourage divorce, but recognize the reality that now man or woman can walk away from a marriage and get a no fault divorce. Some secular counsels have done a great deal of damage to traditional marriage, because the goal of counseling is to make the person feel fulfilled, and not to preserve a marriage. Radical feminism has also contributed to divorce through feminist counselers who have no commitment to the sanctity of marriage, look negatively at men and encourage women to express their independence. We also live in an age of selfish young men who are too self-centered to make a marriage work, so both men and women are responsible for the breakdown of traditional marriage.An outsider to Christianity might say that the Orthodox position on fornication as immoral is legalistic…it is all relative. A Catholic might argue that the Orthodox absolute limit on three marriages is legalistic, as a Catholic woman who is widowed, say, four times can marry four times. The Catholic Church considers valid sacramental marriages for life without exception. Separation is sometimes necessary, but the spiritual bond cannot be broken. We all have our crosses. If my future wife left me (heaven forbid), I could never personally feel comfortable taking another wife - my vows before God, made in good faith, remain vows regardless of whether she keeps hers. St. Paul teaches that husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the Church - my love must be unconditional no matter what. Christianity has always had rules. St. Paul lays out rules / guidelines for the early Church, and the bishops of both the Catholic and Orthodox Churches have continued to do so for the good of the faithful. We can argue over whether particular canons are necessary, but I think we both agree that the bishops have this right by virtue of the power of binding and loosing.
In regards to justification, we are certainly on the same page. This is one of the biggest issues between Catholicism and Protestantism. I often note that the propers of the mass and divine office according to the Roman Rite are full of references to deification…it comes up, implicitly or explicitly, as one of the most central themes of our liturgy. At every mass the priest prays “By the mystery of this water and wine may we come to share in the divinity of Christ who humbled himself to share in our humanity.”
It is for this reason that I am often shocked to hear from some Orthodox Christians that the West abandoned the patristic understanding of deification. To my mind, nothing could be farther from the truth. Protestants abandoned this teaching, not Catholics. When Latins speak of sanctifying grace, we are referring to the indwelling of the divine life within the soul…when we are baptized, we truly “put on Christ” and become holy at that very moment. I once attended a daily mass celebrated by a Dominican priest. During the homily the priest said to the congregation “You are gods.” To those outside of the Dominican spirituality this may sound shocking, even heretical, but it simply refers to the Church’s teaching that by virtue of the sacraments, especially baptism and the eucharist, we truly participate in the divine life in such a profound sense that we become “like gods”. This is especially true of the saints…our veneration of the saints would be madness (as Protestants think it is), if we did not have this understanding of deification. If we understand the Church to be the mystical extension of the Incarnation - the marriage of Man and God, everything else falls into place.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church says:
Father, bless.I agree with you on every issue except marriage and divorce. There are no vows in the Orthodox wedding service. Therefore, we see marriage as a relationship not a legal relationship. We certainly do not encourage divorce, but recognize the reality that now man or woman can walk away from a marriage and get a no fault divorce. Some secular counsels have done a great deal of damage to traditional marriage, because the goal of counseling is to make the person feel fulfilled, and not to preserve a marriage. Radical feminism has also contributed to divorce through feminist counselers who have no commitment to the sanctity of marriage, look negatively at men and encourage women to express their independence. We also live in an age of selfish young men who are too self-centered to make a marriage work, so both men and women are responsible for the breakdown of traditional marriage.
We believe that God forgives all sins, including the sins that lead to the breakdown of a marriage. Therefore, we also believe that He gives us another chance after a period of proper penance and counseling to get it right. A person should not have to live their whole life in pain because they made a mistake in their 20s or their husband or wife abused them, had drug or alcohol problems or was too immature and selfish to make the sacrifices to make a marriage work.
Archpriest John W. Morris
Of course I realize that the Roman Catholic Church has a long and venerable monastic tradition. Unfortunately, there are some Catholic nuns who have fallen under strong feminist influence. These seem to be the nuns that one encounters out in the world. I sent my son to a kindergarten at a local Catholic Church. You could feel the tension between the nun that ran the school and the pastor of the Church. I have already mentioned a couple of unpleasant encounters with feminist nuns. It is a real problem that Rome recognizes and is taking steps to resolve. So I am not criticizing the Catholic Church because I am merely writing about something that is well known and recognized by the leadership of the Catholic Church.Whoa.
Fr. John, you do realize that the Catholic Church has considerable monastic tradition of our own, right? The contemplative cloistered orders include the Carthusians, the Cistercians, the Carmelites, among others.
Surely Orthodox do not believe that Mt. Athos is the only place where monks and hermits live?
I believe the current Code of Canon Law is silent on the distinction, but there is a tradition of regarding as ‘religious’ all those who take simple vows, and as ‘nuns’ those who take solemn vows. Nuns are typically cloistered. So not all female religious (sisters) are nuns in the strict sense.What is the difference between a nun and a religious?
You are right there is a difference in sacramental theology in that in Eastern Orthodoxy, the Priest is the minister of the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony. I understand that a Deacon can preside at a Catholic wedding. A Deacon cannot preside over a wedding in the Orthodox Church, because the emphasis is on the blessing of the union between the man and woman and not on vows that do not exist in an Orthodox wedding.Father, bless.
I’ve highlighted the essential issue here. In the West the vows are all important. In the East, the blessing of the priest is all important. As far as I know, the West has always seen the exchange of vows as the essential element of marriage. In fact, prior to Trent, a marriage contracted between a man and woman without a priest was still seen as valid, by virtue of the vows they exchanged, even if illicit. At Trent, using the power of binding and loosing, the Church decreed that only marriages blessed by a priest would be considered valid, but the exchange of vows remains the essential element. The early Church, as far as I know, did not have a liturgical marriage ceremony at all.
In the case of young men and women who were too selfish or immature to truly make marriage work, an annulment is often a possibility in the Latin Church as those conditions may have presented a serious defect in the individual’s ability to exchange the marital vows. In the Roman Rite the couple confers the sacrament upon each other and thus must understand what they are doing (life-long commitment, desire to sacrifice for the other, open to children, etc). In the Byzantine Rite the priest confers the sacrament…so the situation is quite different. I don’t know if this particular issue can be reconciled but as I believe both positions are ancient we may be able to co-exist on this particular point.
I believe the biggest issue for Latins is the modern Orthodox belief that second or third marriages are sacramental. I have seen it argued that the ancient Byzantine Church, while allowing second and third marriages after a suitable period of penance, did not celebrate these marriages liturgically but simply tolerated a civil marriage after the original sacramental marriage fell apart. As a historian perhaps you have some insight on this issue. When and why did second/third marriages become true sacramental unions conferred by the Church? The West never has done this.
I think you are confused about what I wrote. I’m specifically denying that the Son is the Origin of the Procession of the Holy Spirit. The Father is.
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The Father and Son together are the origin of the Holy Spirit. The Father being the first origin as the CCC says.
Well, that’s what you keep stating, and I keep asking for a Church Council, Pope or ECF that supports your view. Can you cite to something, anything, a Magisterial document even, that describes the Holy Spirit as having its origin from the Father and the Son together?
Christ also gave His Apostles the authority to forgive sins. We believe that when a sin is forgiven, it is washed away by the blood of Christ. However, we take marriage and divorce seriously. Only the Metropolitan can give permission for remarriage and only after the person has shown repentance for whatever they did that led to the failure of their first marriage. We would not bless a marriage if a person got a divorce to marry someone else. We would only bless a marriage if a person is divorced and then later marries someone, falls in love and wants to get married. I know of a case where a young woman married a man who physically abused her. In fact, he beat her up in a public parking lot and someone called the police and he was arrested. He had already started dating another girl and filed for divorce. The woman is only 30. Should she remain unmarried for the rest of her life because her first husband beat her and filed for divorce? What about a woman who marries a man who drinks or uses drugs? What about a man who marries a woman who leaves him? I cannot believe that a loving Christ would require them to remain unmarried for the rest of their lives under such circumstances. However, I also believe that it is engaging in a legal fiction to declare that the first marriage was not a real marriage by requiring an annulment.I would like to comment on the posts concerning marriage: Matt. Chapter 19, VI First Steps in Establishing God’s Reign, the question of Divorce it says " Some Pharrisees came up to Him and said, to test Him, ‘May a man divorce his wife for any reason whatsoever?’ He replied, " Have you not read that at the beginning the Creator made male and female and declared, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife, and the two shall become as one?’ Thus they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, let no man separate what God has joined.” They said to Him, “Then why did Moses command divorce and the promulgation of a divorce decree?” “Because of your stubborness Moses let you divorce your wives.” He replied, but at the beginning it was not that way. I now say to you, whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." Jesus said “Not everyone can accept this teaching, only those to whom it is given to do so. Some men are incalable of sexual activity from birth; some have been deliberately made so; and some there are who have freely renounced sex for the sake of God’s reign.Let him accept this teaching who can.” So according to Jesus the teacher who taught the Apostles, it seems to me that no man has the right to grant a divorce. Since one makes the marriage vows to each other in marriage before God then God is the witness and to divorce makes God a lier or accepting a lie as valid. This is my opinion as to what the Scripture mans to me.
I suppose that we will just have to recognize that Eastern Orthodoxy and Roman Catholicism do not agree on this issue. I believe that Catholicism is too legalistic on this issue and that our policy shows God’s love and mercy on a repentant sinner.To frjohnmorris: your post #405 , While I agree that Jesus gave the Apostles the power to forgive, yet, it seems quite clear that what Jesus said let no man seperate what God has joined. I understand forgiveness as it is a sign of love and God does love all He created. But seems to me that Jesus is saying that no one has the right to seperate what God has joined. And if a man or woman should remarry after divorce it is quite clear that they are living in sin and therefore in order to be adsolved from the sin they would have to not be toghter as in a marriage till one or the other dies. At least that seems clear to me. Does not divorce go against the Spirit of God? I also think that Jesus was saying that just because someone divorces does not make it right or correct to remarry someone else.
Sadly, you are right. The active orders of nuns have been especially decimated by liberalism, and as you have seen in the press, the Vatican is taking some heat for stepping in. Interestingly, NPR interviewed a female religious who had studied the matter, and she agreed that BIG changes are needed to get many American orders back on track. Many of us ask: What took so long?Of course I realize that the Roman Catholic Church has a long and venerable monastic tradition. Unfortunately, there are some Catholic nuns who have fallen under strong feminist influence. These seem to be the nuns that one encounters out in the world. I sent my son to a kindergarten at a local Catholic Church. You could feel the tension between the nun that ran the school and the pastor of the Church. I have already mentioned a couple of unpleasant encounters with feminist nuns. It is a real problem that Rome recognizes and is taking steps to resolve. So I am not criticizing the Catholic Church because I am merely writing about something that is well known and recognized by the leadership of the Catholic Church.
What is the difference between a nun and a religious?
Archpriest John W. Morris
I am sorry that we disagree, but I believe that the Orthodox position is based on love, forgiveness and mercy. People make mistakes and if they repent God forgives them and gives them another chance.To frjohnmorris yur post #407, Yes I agree that there seems to be differences between Orthodox and Catholic teaching concerning marriage. It still my opinion based on Scripture that while one can forgive divorce that does not mean that the one divorced can remarry.
Father,I am sorry that we disagree, but I believe that the Orthodox position is based on love, forgiveness and mercy. People make mistakes and if they repent God forgives them and gives them another chance.
Archpriest John W. Morris
All marriages blessed by the Church are Sacramental. You are right. Second and third marriages are an exercise of economy, but the marriage is still Sacramental. However as I have already written, permission must be received from the Bishop for a second or third marriage. There is a difference in theology in that according to Orthodox theology the priest blessing the marriage, not the couple, is the minister of the Sacrament.Father,
Can you provide any evidence that the ancient Byzantine Church (say pre-9th century) considered second or third marriages sacramental? As I stated earlier, the Western Church has never allowed second or third sacramental marriages except in the event that one spouse passes from this life. I remember a debate on the Byzcath forum (a Ruthenian Greek Catholic forum) where the argument was made that the idea of second sacramental marriages was a post-9th century novelty…but I really don’t know the topic well enough to have an opinion. The second marriage was originally, I understood, simply an exercise in economy of tolerating a strictly civil marriage contract - not a Church conferred sacrament.
I will also state again that, to my knowledge, the West has always seen the exchange of vows as an essential element to marriage. In the event of reunion, we may have to tolerate a difference on this point. Even today, in the Catholic Church, it is only the Latin code of canon law that permits deacons to witness weddings. Both Eastern Catholic canon law and the Catechism are clearly that when marriage is celebrated according to the Eastern / Oriental Rites, the blessing of a priest is absolutely essential. The Catholic Church thus seems to recognize that the two understandings of marriage are both ancient and acceptable.
Father, bless.All marriages blessed by the Church are Sacramental. You are right. Second and third marriages are an exercise of economy, but the marriage is still Sacramental. However as I have already written, permission must be received from the Bishop for a second or third marriage. There is a difference in theology in that according to Orthodox theology the priest blessing the marriage, not the couple, is the minister of the Sacrament.
I know for a fact that the Roman Catholic Church recognizes the marriage of a Catholic to an Orthodox Christian presided over by an Orthodox Priest as a valid Sacramental marriage although there are no vows in the Orthodox marriage ceremony. I am doing one Saturday. The man’s Pastor, who is invited and will give a blessing after I finish the Orthodox Marriage Service, told me that the Catholic man did not even need permission from the Catholic Bishop to be married by an Eastern Orthodox Priest. In the past a Catholic being married by an Orthodox Priest had to receive what I believe was called A Dispensation from Form, but at least the local Catholic Diocese no longer requires that.
Archpriest John W. Morris