Defending a Higher Law: Why We Must Resist Same-sex “Marriage”

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You cannot substantiate that. Now you have to claim that God created homosexuality going against His own natural law.

The great mysteries will indeed be answered.
You can’t substantiate that I wasn’t gay from the moment I was created either. We simply don’t know. I believe that God has a plan for everyone, and that neither I or any other created being has any clue as to what that plan is or how they fit into it. There may be a reason why I was created gay that somehow fits into that plan. It’s not my place to know, I just have to play the cards I’ve been dealt.

Since we don’t know, shouldn’t we err on the side of compassion?
 
You can’t substantiate that I wasn’t gay from the moment I was created either. We simply don’t know. I believe that God has a plan for everyone, and that neither I or any other created being has any clue as to what that plan is or how they fit into it. There may be a reason why I was created gay that somehow fits into that plan. It’s not my place to know, I just have to play the cards I’ve been dealt.

Since we don’t know, shouldn’t we err on the side of compassion?
The Church does. Love the sinner hate the sin. It cannot get any simpler than that.

We cannot have compassion for sin. We cannot have compassion for the choice one would make to an intrinsic evil.

Those that are SSA should listen to the Church. Hear what she is saying. But no. Most claim they know better and regardless want the license to act the way they want.

This is a fundamental issue.
 
You cannot substantiate that. Now you have to claim that God created homosexuality going against His own natural law.
For argument’s sake, if God didn’t, who did?

Also, I note that your understanding of God’s own natural law is not necessarily the same thing as God’s own natural law.
 
The Church does. Love the sinner hate the sin. It cannot get any simpler than that.

We cannot have compassion for sin. We cannot have compassion for the choice one would make to an intrinsic evil.

Those that are SSA should listen to the Church. Hear what she is saying. But no. Most claim they know better and regardless want the license to act the way they want.

This is a fundamental issue.
But the collective “you” does not “love the sinner and hate the sin”-they just aren’t skilled enough to do it. Gay people are not treated with love and compassion, they are told they are disordered, they are told that they have chosen lives that will lead them to burn in eternal hellfire, they are told that they are part of some evil agenda bent on destroying society, they are selfish, they are arrogant…and the slurs and insults go on. In reality they are no different than those who have used birth control, committed adultery, divorced or lived with their fiance before the wedding-and all those sins are quickly forgiven and not spoken of in the same terms.

My fundamental issue is that gay people will NEVER listen to anything the Church has to say to them if the language church members use about them doesn’t change. The example of church members is what will encourage a gay person to look closer at what the Church has to offer them. When you start the conversation with prejudice, with half truths and hurtful comparisons, nobody is going to hang around long enough to listen to anything else.
 
My fundamental issue is that gay people will NEVER listen to anything the Church has to say to them if the language church members use about them doesn’t change. The example of church members is what will encourage a gay person to look closer at what the Church has to offer them. When you start the conversation with prejudice, with half truths and hurtful comparisons, nobody is going to hang around long enough to listen to anything else.
And this doesn’t just apply to gay people. In the five years since my wife and I married, I went from thinking that the Catholic Church would be a generally positive influence in my children’s lives to thinking that it was on the whole a negative, harmful thing whose effects on my family should be minimized if not avoided altogether. The Church’s response to the issues of homosexuality and same-sex marriage were largely at the root of my change in feelings.
 
But the collective “you” does not “love the sinner and hate the sin”-they just aren’t skilled enough to do it. Gay people are not treated with love and compassion, they are told they are disordered, they are told that they have chosen lives that will lead them to burn in eternal hellfire, they are told that they are part of some evil agenda bent on destroying society, they are selfish, they are arrogant…and the slurs and insults go on. In reality they are no different than those who have used birth control, committed adultery, divorced or lived with their fiance before the wedding-and all those sins are quickly forgiven and not spoken of in the same terms.

My fundamental issue is that gay people will NEVER listen to anything the Church has to say to them if the language church members use about them doesn’t change. The example of church members is what will encourage a gay person to look closer at what the Church has to offer them. When you start the conversation with prejudice, with half truths and hurtful comparisons, nobody is going to hang around long enough to listen to anything else.
That is my point. It is very fundamental. Again, no matter the cause homosexuals want to engage in the act. They are not listening. At that point they lack the grace to open their hearts and minds to God.

What language here do not you not like?

Ministry to Persons with a Homosexual Inclination: Guidelines for Pastoral Care
 
For argument’s sake, if God didn’t, who did?

Also, I note that your understanding of God’s own natural law is not necessarily the same thing as God’s own natural law.
If the claim is that God created us with various weaknesses and that justifies our acting them out, it doesn’t fly. Remember, God permits evil. Humans are called to self mastery over their disordered passions. We all have them.
 
Parts of it sound quite nice. For example, this:
All people are created in the image and likeness of God and thus possess an innate human dignity that must be acknowledged and respected.
In keeping with this conviction, the Church teaches that persons with a homosexual
inclination “must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity."
However, there is no respect, compassion or sensitivity in, say, barring a woman from her partner’s hospital room as she lies dying. Yet the Church opposes the best way we have to prevent injustices like this.

It’s nice words wrapped around awful actions. When I look around the world and wonder what Jesus might’ve meant when he railed against “whitewashed tombs” in the Gospels, I see no clearer example than the Church’s stance on this issue.
 
Parts of it sound quite nice. For example, this:

However, there is no respect, compassion or sensitivity in, say, barring a woman from her partner’s hospital room as she lies dying. Yet the Church opposes the best way we have to prevent injustices like this.

It’s nice words wrapped around awful actions. When I look around the world and wonder what Jesus might’ve meant when he railed against “whitewashed tombs” in the Gospels, I see no clearer example than the Church’s stance on this issue.
Exactly-all the lovely writing in the world does not erase how gay people are actually treated by their Christian brothers and sisters.
 
Parts of it sound quite nice. For example, this:

However, there is no respect, compassion or sensitivity in, say, barring a woman from her partner’s hospital room as she lies dying. Yet the Church opposes the best way we have to prevent injustices like this.

It’s nice words wrapped around awful actions. When I look around the world and wonder what Jesus might’ve meant when he railed against “whitewashed tombs” in the Gospels, I see no clearer example than the Church’s stance on this issue.
Again, the point remains that the act cannot be championed or embraced. We cannot commit an evil action in order to do a good.
 
Exactly-all the lovely writing in the world does not erase how gay people are actually treated by their Christian brothers and sisters.
Why do you insist on using the word gay? Words have meanings.

Do you consider yourself gay or SSA?
 
Again, the point remains that the act cannot be championed or embraced. We cannot commit an evil action in order to do a good.
What is “evil” about NOT insulting people? What is “evil” about treating gay people like people instead of lepers?

Unless you’re standing in the bedroom and cheering while two gay people go at it, I have no idea what you mean by championing or embracing.

I wasn’t drawn back to the Church by those who lecture and rant against the evil gay people. I was drawn back by seeing the peace and love that Christians in my life had and knowing I wanted it too. I was drawn back by those people treating me like they would want to be treated. If it were not for those folks, I’d still be outside the Church.

If your REAL concern is the immortal souls of gay people, then get your head out of the bedroom and treat the people you encounter as if they were all Children of God. Who knows, you might actually lead someone to God that way.
 
Again, the point remains that the act cannot be championed or embraced. We cannot commit an evil action in order to do a good.
Apparently you can, since there are plenty of evil ramifications associated with banning same-sex marriage.

Edit: oh - wait. You said “in order to do a good”. Never mind.
 
What is “evil” about NOT insulting people? What is “evil” about treating gay people like people instead of lepers?

Unless you’re standing in the bedroom and cheering while two gay people go at it, I have no idea what you mean by championing or embracing.

I wasn’t drawn back to the Church by those who lecture and rant against the evil gay people. I was drawn back by seeing the peace and love that Christians in my life had and knowing I wanted it too. I was drawn back by those people treating me like they would want to be treated. If it were not for those folks, I’d still be outside the Church.

If your REAL concern is the immortal souls of gay people, then get your head out of the bedroom and treat the people you encounter as if they were all Children of God. Who knows, you might actually lead someone to God that way.
Fraternal Correction from Matthews Gospel:

15 But if thy brother shall offend against thee, go, and rebuke him between thee and him alone. If he shall hear thee, thou shalt gain thy brother. 16 And if he will not hear thee, take with thee one or two more: that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may stand. 17 And if he will not hear them: tell the church. And if he will not hear the church, let him be to thee as the heathen and publican. 18 Amen I say to you, whatsoever you shall bind upon earth, shall be bound also in heaven: and whatsoever you shall loose upon earth, shall be loosed also in heaven. 1

Fraternal Correction
 
Apparently you can, since there are plenty of evil ramifications associated with banning same-sex marriage.

Edit: oh - wait. You said “in order to do a good”. Never mind.
So you are still at the point of asking the Church to endorse and intrinsic evil? to give benefits? make homosexuals happy? give them license?
 
If the claim is that God created us with various weaknesses and that justifies our acting them out, it doesn’t fly. Remember, God permits evil. Humans are called to self mastery over their disordered passions. We all have them.
Homosexuality is no more a weakness than heterosexuality. Because of our fallen nature people of both orientations, or anywhere in between, are capable of disordered desires and actions. No matter who we find attractive or who we love, we are called to order our desires and passions to to the love and service of God and neighbor.

Edit: I am sure you will say that homosexuality is intrinsically disordered whereas heterosexuality is not. And here we will have to agree to disagree. 🙂
 
Gays won’t have to wait long A plurality of Americans now favor making gay marriage legal, with 49% favoring it, and 46% against.

46% of white Catholics favor gay marriage, including 27% who strongly favor it.

And 66% of those aged 18-29 favor it.

As Catholic support increases, opposition will probably settle in at the same level as opposition to birth control.

voices.washingtonpost.com/behind-the-numbers/2009/04/on_gay_marriage_an_even_split.html
Divine law is not something that is voted upon.
 
Grace & Peace!
That is my point. It is very fundamental. Again, no matter the cause homosexuals want to engage in the act. They are not listening. At that point they lack the grace to open their hearts and minds to God.

What language here do not you not like?

Ministry to Persons with a Homosexual Inclination: Guidelines for Pastoral Care
I think it’s time to really look at some points fundamental to this issue.

1–I’ve mentioned this before and I’ll mention it again–much of what’s at issue here has to do with power: the relationship of gender to power as well as how sex and sexuality perform or demonstrate power. The question ultimately is: what is the in-group and who should be fundamentally disenfranchised so that the in-group can remain powerful?

2–The question of desire–can any good come of desire, or is desire fundamentally corrupt. If we believe, as the Roman Church specifically and the Catholic Church generally has believed for centuries, that nature is wounded but not destroyed, we cannot then believe that our desires are fundamentally corrupt. The poison of sin cannot have totally destroyed our wills, otherwise grace could find no purchase there and we would be incapable even with grace to choose the good.

If our wills are not totally corrupt, we cannot readily assent to a language of objective or intrinsic disorder when speaking of desire. Because if it is possible for desire to be objectively disordered then it is impossible to trust *any *movement of a will so afflicted. An objectively disordered desire must indicate an irreparably broken will. An irreparably broken will is impervious to grace–for such a one, salvation is impossible.

If we insist, therefore, on using such language as objectively disordered to describe desire, we must be surprised to discover when such desire produces, by grace, the good fruit of the Spirit in a person in whom that desire is present.

In short, to say that a homosexual’s desire is objectively disordered is to say that they simply cannot will properly. Which is to say (with OtherEric on this thread, I believe) that any desire a homosexual has is improper. If the Roman Church can agree with this sentiment, then she is being consistent. If not, then she has a problem she must solve.

We can desire wrongly, yes, but our faculty of desire cannot be objectively disordered (see Ryan’s post above)–otherwise, we could not desire rightly. Homosexuality is disordered only insofar as one believes that sexuality is heterosexual by default–in which case conversion therapy should produce demonstrably consistent, frequent, abundant and permanent transformations. It does not. Homosexuality is not a defective heterosexuality. Heterosexuals and homosexuals must both learn to desire responsibly.

3–I think a study of the Roman Church’s laws regarding concubinage would be useful here when we discuss the reality of marriage today. Before Trent, a man was permitted a concubine or a wife–which is to say that the Roman Church allowed a man and woman to have sex who were not husband and wife. Why? The issue was largely social and/or romantic. A free man could not marry a slave, but he could have her as his concubine, for instance. What does this have to do with marriage? It re-enforces the point that marriage has, until recently, been a socially-oriented institution. Marriage was for the creation of dynasties, legacies, the maintenance and strengthening of inheritances. It was not so much for the breeding and care of children as much as it was for the maintenance of a legacy through those children. You could have a concubine and have children too, but those children inherited nothing. They were considered little more than bastards. But with a concubine, you could at least be with the one with whom you were in love, or at least to whom you were greatly attracted. Rarely did one marry for love or romance.

We cannot, therefore, claim with the same certainty of our ancestors that we know what traditional marriage is. We do not. A true defense of traditional marriage would be largely seen as appalling to most who, today, claim to defend it. I know an Anglican priest who would basically chuckle when candidates for marriage spoke to him about exchanging rings. Why, he would wonder, would a man in a traditional marriage accept a ring from his wife? The symbolism is all wrong–in traditional marriage, the ring is a reminder that the wife is the property of the man–the woman cannot claim her husband in the same way.

Which brings all of this back to the issue of power and gender–the issue that I continue to believe is at the heart of all of this.

Under the Mercy,
Mark

All is grace and mercy! Deo Gratias!
 
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