Defending Marriage Resources- Homosexuality

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Why Married Parents Are Important for Children
Some answers from the Social Sciences:

1. • Children raised in intact married families:
     are more likely to attend college
     are physically and emotionally healthier
     are less likely to be physically or sexually abused
     are less likely to use drugs or alcohol and to commit delinquent behaviors
     have a decreased risk of divorcing when they get married
     are less likely to become pregnant/impregnate someone as a teenager
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   • Children receive gender specific support from having a mother and a father. Research shows that particular roles of mothers (e.g., to nurture) and fathers (e.g., to discipline), as well as complex biologically rooted interactions, are important for the development of boys and girls (Marriage and the Public Good: Ten Principles, 2006).
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   • A child living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse than is a child living with married biological parents. A child whose mother cohabits with a man other than the childís father is 33 times more likely to suffer serious physical child abuse
     
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   We need to use language that reveals truth instead of vulnerable vague terms that allow others to reinforce their lies. We need to continue the fight till marriage once again becomes a privileged institution that unites children with their mothers and fathers.”
   
   To advance the conversation without making ourselves vulnerable to misinterpretation and slanderous attacks we will do better to avoid using the following terms;
   same-sex marriage
   gay marriage
   natural marriage
   traditional marriage
   
   Instead, we should use the term “Marriage Reality.” See below
   

   ***[We dare to be different and defiant in a positive way.](http://www.takebackmarriage.org/the-first-step-resistance/)***

   Here are a few examples of this approach:
   • **We define ourselves by being for marriage reality, not by being opposed to the lie of “same-sex marriage.” **The “gay rights” movement wanted the debate to be about them. Why cooperate by using their terminology that obscures reality? **Resist. Become defiant. **Being opposed to “same-sex marriage” made us come across as uncaring and insensitive in front of our children, and risk being stereotyped as bigots or full of hate. Instead, respectfully demand an answer to the truth revealing question, **“Do we need a civil institution that unites kids with their moms and dads?”
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   • We are for marriage reality, not “traditional marriage,” which portrays marriage as a construct based on the past and not about the future. We know that marriage is not a man-made institution but is an integral part of God’s plan for creation as the Church teaches. “Marriage reality” more precisely express how marriage is described in Scripture and in the Catechism. Let’s communicate this.
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   • We are for training and encouraging the formation of local support groups to educate people on how to spot tricks and lies that confuse our children, how to bring clarity to every conversation based on reality (truth). For example, a tactic opponents are teaching our children and friends is to shift the conversation to families with same-sex parents. That is subterfuge. In reality, that has nothing to do with marriage, the only institution that unites kids with their moms and dads.
     
     … This is not merely about learning how to win an argument, but witnessing the truth so our family members can understand it and repeat it.
     
     Fight harmful ideas with realities
     
     For example, the Church does not teach marriage is good for children or children deserve or need a mother and a father. These are ideas that lead to conflict over what a child needs and what is good rather than revealing truth about marriage. Instead, the Church teaches the child has a fundamental human right to be born into a family with mom and dad united in marriage because it is there that the child can discover his own identity. That is not just an idea, but a fact- a reality.
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The Catholics for the Common Good Way**
http://ccgaction.org/ccgway

4. Always be in solidarity with victims (never in opposition to perceived opponents or victimizers). (see Achieving Solidarity with Victims through Christ)

For example, in the work of evangelization of culture for marriage and family, who are the victims of the breakdown of marriage or the distorted view of love, marriage, and human sexuality?

• Children who are deprived of the right to be born into a family with a married mother and father,
• Children and young adults taught falsely about love, marriage, and human sexuality that negatively influence the choices they make in life.

  1. **Become love**, even to our detractors

http://ccgaction.org/spiritual_life/reality-basedthinking

Reality-Based Thinking, An Antidote for Relativism

Questions that Focus on Reality
Consequences that no one would desire.

Would you like for your children to be single parents?
Would you like for your grand-child to grow up in a single family home?

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