Defining nagging

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A friend and I were talking about marital relationships in the abstract, and the subject of nagging came up. Neither of us could really come up with a good definition of what nagging is. When does “reminding” turn into “nagging”? Does it have to do with frequency of asking? Tone of voice? Other factors?

Just curious what others out there think…How do you define nagging?
 
Jamaro asks : "When does “reminding” turn into “nagging”?
Does it have to do with frequency of asking? Tone of voice? Other factors?"

The answer is very simple.
Reminding becomes Nagging at the exact moment that the person decides that it is Nagging.

So, to one person, mentioning the same thing twice in his Life … HEY, that’s Nagging.
And, to another, even if a thing is said 1000 times (or more) it is simply reminding.

Many people perceive Nagging WHENEVER they are told something they don’t care about doing.

And, as far as “Tone of Voice” being a factor in Nagging … it is if the recipient thinks that it is.

Finally, “other factors” are ALWAYS important to a person, and his openness (and closed-ness).
And most people have no idea that most of those “other factors” even exist.
We all have deeply-Hidden areas of our mind, which make decisions for us, and provide us with our prejudices, jealousy, etc.
So, the Nagging point is affected by the Subject, the Prejudices … and the Subconscious Mind.
 
So true. I can say a thing twice or three times and my hubby can say, “stop nagging me.” He can say tings more than once and it can irritate me but I don’t say stop nagging me.

I guess I need to say something to him but I lived with a mother who said things over and over again, she got dementia so I have a higher tolerance for it. I guess.
 
4love2God has given a great answer.

I never nag my wife. But I remind her a lot.

Sometimes she nags me. She calls it reminding.
 
4love2God said:
Jamaro asks : "When does “reminding” turn into “nagging”?
Does it have to do with frequency of asking? Tone of voice? Other factors?"

The answer is very simple.
Reminding becomes Nagging at the exact moment that the person decides that it is Nagging.

So, to one person, mentioning the same thing twice in his Life … HEY, that’s Nagging.
And, to another, even if a thing is said 1000 times (or more) it is simply reminding.

Many people perceive Nagging WHENEVER they are told something they don’t care about doing.

And, as far as “Tone of Voice” being a factor in Nagging … it is if the recipient thinks that it is.

Finally, “other factors” are ALWAYS important to a person, and his openness (and closed-ness).
And most people have no idea that most of those “other factors” even exist.
We all have deeply-Hidden areas of our mind, which make decisions for us, and provide us with our prejudices, jealousy, etc.
So, the Nagging point is affected by the Subject, the Prejudices … and the Subconscious Mind.
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Well thought out answer. 👍
Mary.
 
Nagging is a simple term defined entirely by the man, as to when his wife has crossed the line from being a supporting spouse to an overbearing mother. It is a dreadful vice contributing to discord and loss of respect. It has been found to develop where the man loses his hearing and changes his priorities from his wife’s perspective of importance to his own. This impertinence is often grounded in fatigue after a hard day. Solution is communication between the spouses as to expectations and agreed responsibilities. As these so often change in the wife depending on many factors, it is rare for a man to be able to maintain any communicated contract of expected behaviour for more than a few days. Rules seem to change overnight and guesswork becomes his only recourse.
Anyone wishing to read my small legal monograph on “Why divorce is wrong; murder can be forgiven by confession and keeping the house.” may obtain it after I complete it any time soon Darling!!
 
When they go on and on and on coupled with tone of voice.

I hate all that nagging, shouting and screaming but for me the worst is the silent treatment.
 
Best would be for me to introduce you to my EX. Wife,

Classic example of a nagging person… A nagging person is someone that continuously complains about your actions and inactions , without drawing breath they can complain non stop for 20 minutes …
 
Been married 34 years to my husband.

“Reminders” are requested by someone. My husband is grateful for my reminders because he ASKED me to remind him.

But nagging is not requested by the recipient. It is an assumption that the other person is too stupid to remember something.

My personal opinion, after all these years of marriage, is that nagging accomplishes nothing except to create resentment. Unless it involves the safety of a child, the best thing to do is allow the spouse to not do the thing that you want done. Just ignore it. If it’s really worth doing and necessary, eventually, perhaps after many years, the other spouse will sit up and say, “Wow, I really do need to paint the house!” Or perhaps the local authorities will send the other spouse a “reminder” that the house needs to be painted or a fine will be levied!
 
4love2God said:
Jamaro asks : "When does “reminding” turn into “nagging”?
Does it have to do with frequency of asking? Tone of voice? Other factors?"

The answer is very simple.
Reminding becomes Nagging at the exact moment that the person decides that it is Nagging.

So, to one person, mentioning the same thing twice in his Life … HEY, that’s Nagging.
And, to another, even if a thing is said 1000 times (or more) it is simply reminding.

Many people perceive Nagging WHENEVER they are told something they don’t care about doing.

And, as far as “Tone of Voice” being a factor in Nagging … it is if the recipient thinks that it is.

Finally, “other factors” are ALWAYS important to a person, and his openness (and closed-ness).
And most people have no idea that most of those “other factors” even exist.
We all have deeply-Hidden areas of our mind, which make decisions for us, and provide us with our prejudices, jealousy, etc.
So, the Nagging point is affected by the Subject, the Prejudices … and the Subconscious Mind.
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Many businesses these days require employees to attend training as a way of preventing sexual harassment on the job; presumably to help shield them from lawsuits.

A common theme of all the similar training sessions I’ve attended is that if the receiver *perceives *something as sexual harassment, then it *is *sexual harassment and the speaker has basically no defense. “I didn’t really mean it” or “I was only joking” is no excuse.

By the same token, if I feel my wife is nagging me, she IS nagging me. Period. She can deny she is nagging all she wants, but I feeling she is nagging then she is. :mad:

Besides, if a man say he’ll do something, he’ll do it. There is no need to remind him every six months. 😃
 
I just repeat things a lot anyway, It comes from living with someone who has dementia. They will ask the same question over and over and I had to answer over and over. Guess it has become a habit with me now.

My hubby is in for it whenever I get dementia. Poor guy. He will have to offer it up. His father had habits as well. I bet he gets like him. 😛
 
Lost_Sheep said:
By the same token, if I feel my wife is nagging me, she IS nagging me. Period. She can deny she is nagging all she wants, but I feeling she is nagging then she is. :mad:

Besides, if a man say he’ll do something, he’ll do it. There is no need to remind him every six months. 😃
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As long as my husband finishes the jobs he said he would do, there is no need to nag (ahem, remind)🤷

Seriously, I can choose to either remind my husband of certain household chores or I can do it my self or hire someone to do it. I have found showing my husband the bill from someone else’s work the fastest way to get my husband to check the “honey-do” list. I don’t like to nag and I don’t consider it my job to remind him of his job.
 
Yup, the cure to nagging is to just actually DO the requested task.

No one nags because they like it. Those that nag do so because the first request fell on deaf ears…
 
Excessive Verbal Propaganda (EVP) colloquially known as “nagging” is one of several practical applications of the Holistic Indoctrination Theory (HIT), developed circa 5000 BCE as an approach to psychological domination over the male sex:
In his heart, your husband wants nothing more than to make you happy, but because he is, sadly, stupid, he will forget things you ask him to do. A common law of learning is repetition, so you must constantly remind your husband to do the things you have asked him to do. Make sure to nag him every five minutes or so. This will help him to remember the things you need him to do, and in serving you, he will find happiness. He will love you more and more as you constantly nag him each day. Nagging might seem like a simple task, but it takes effort. Let me give you a few examples:

Your husband leaves the toilet seat up
Again, with this, the easy thing for you to do would be to flick your hand and lower the seat. It would take about half a second. But do not allow yourself to take the easy way out. Your husband needs you. Use your inherent self discipline to control your bladder, and go to where ever your husband may be. If he’s out in the yard, watching TV, asleep, or even at work, go to him, nag him about the toilet seat, drag him to the bathroom, and make him put the seat down for you so you can use the bathroom. Your example of self control in holding back the flow of nature while you brow-beat your spouse, will inspire him to greatness.
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(uncyclopedia.wikia.com/wiki/HowTo:Persuade_your_husband)
 
Nagging:

Verb. A. What wives do.
B. The principle form of communication employed by the fair sex.
 
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