I don’t think this is rudeness. If the Priest who has authority in the parish has decided something then they are only being asked how to organize its implementation and give ideas etc. Many in such lay councils think that every decision should be put to a vote making the priest a mere figure head role who signs on the dotted line after a majority vote.
The old phrase “there is ore than one way to skin a ct” comes to mind.
I have absolutely no question in my mind but that he was not only really rude, but also very unwise.
The fact that he has the power to make the decision does not mean that simply making a decision which can have multiple years impact, and announcing it to the council/parish and etc. is an intelligent and well-though out way to approach the matter.
There has been more than one parish torn asunder both in terms of people leaving, and the financial impact that entails, because the priest decided he was going to tell everyone “how it is”.
In this specific instance, the priest is responsible for the spiritual welfare of all under his care. We simply do not know the facts of the parish, and there are a number of facts which would come into play in such a decision. There are any number of ways he could have approached the matter which would have encouraged collaboration. Instead, it appears he “ruled by fiat” and that has been shown throughout history to be a poor way of handling matters, at best.
My parish went through a major decision, and it was interesting to watch the process. In any major decision, getting as many people on board as possible is critical - critical for the parish as a whole, and potentially critical for the individuals involved.
The pastor (hint - a Jesuit) definitely wanted to build a grade school (and it is fairly clear that this was instigated by some parishioners). He fully backed it, but the mistake that was made was that one of the individuals who wanted the school was passionate about it, but didn’t have enough sense to understand how to go about getting everyone on board.
After a number of months of uproar (it will break us financially! It will destroy our social action work with migrant laborers! It will take money away from our work with the poor!), finally - finally - my brother managed to convince the pastor to let him address the parish. Math wise, it worked out to a commitment of an increase in the weekly collection of $5.00 per person (not family - per adult) per week over they years of the loan.
The school got built (and is doing extremely well) and is the first Catholic grade school to be opened in 40 years in our diocese.
Sadly, before the financial aspects could be worked out, a goodly number of parishioners left the parish.
The bottom line - this never would have seen daylight had the pastor imposed it. And it was floundering because the initial group did not have a clue as to how to present the matter financially. Neither the pastor nor the original group understood what the problem was initially, nor, once the problem manifested itself, how to deal with it.
Simply assuming that Father knows best presumes that Father knows everything, There is a tremendous amount of things going on in a parish that have nothing to do with sacraments or theology, and a number of things having to do with sacraments and theology all of which can benefit from the people in the pews. None of that implies a carte blanche approach to “parishioners rule”.
Back to the comment about the priest (and the OP); it appears the priest may now be in the chancery, which would imply that he is no longer in the parish. No mention of what chaos his decision making did to the parish; but if it did create problems , oh well, it is someone else’s difficulty. Let them figure it out.