Denied reception on the tongue

[pianistclare]

Children are far more flexible than adults.
If the various ways of receiving were explained in a balanced way, they would not be that upset. It often happens that lay people are not comfortable with distributing on the tongue for whatever reason. Fear og dropping the host, most commonly. But you still receive Jesus.
The Extraordinary minister was way over the top in causing a scene, but there has to be a reason why this occurred in the first place.
We teach children both ways, and they choose (most often based on their parent’s preference/instruction).
In fact, the OP did not say anything about the children’s reaction
She only gave us her “livid” response.
Father gave excellent advice. Why would someone prefer to go against the wisdom of the clergy?

 

[pnewton]

I am reminded of this tidbit of folk wisdom:

Life is easier when you plow around the stump.

Good luck either way. God wants us to be at peace.

 

[Rosebud77]

I am reminded of this tidbit of folk wisdom:

Life is easier when you plow around the stump.

Good luck either way. God wants us to be at peace.

well, in one way but you waste a lot of growing space…

 

[ProdigiousN00b]

I would urge some members here to take a less cavalier attitude about this and instead embrace a more Christ like attitude. I really hope some of this tone would not be expressed in person.

I also am reminded of cardinal arinze’s words, and no one should be denied their preference to the reception of our Lord. On the tongue is the universal norm, and in America we are permitted to receive in the hand by indult but the universal norm still applies.

 

[7_Sorrows]

A non-Catholic would be fascinated this thread has lasted so many pages!

Probably confused also about the content.

 

[pnewton]

I would urge some members here to take a less cavalier attitude about this and instead embrace a more Christ like attitude.

“Christ-like” is not the opposite of “cavalier”. The two can be one and the same, or not.

No, one should not be denied reception of communion. In this case, one was not denied reception of communion, but only reception of communion on the tongue. While this still might have been wrong, it is a far less serious and issue than actually denying communion. The manner we receive is not not the source and summit of our faith.

 

[mommy_k]

Excuse me? I was referring to what happened at Mass of course. That you took this as you did is revealing,

The OP as a mother has acted and spoken in an exemplary maternal and Christian way

To be treated like that at mass would be very upsetting for the child and so far most here seem to be blaming and arguing and not thinking of the children

You have put a spin on my post and that is not very nice I think I may be a target on your posting radar..

I know parental response can either calm and bring peace and understanding, or upset…I am not a mind reader to know what part of this incident you were referring to that upset the children so that’s what puzzled me. Most children are not deeply hurt by someone’s mistake if explained in a caring way, and this would apply here too.

I stated in my last sentence that I did not think the op upset the children…-she asked how to respond to this… so thats why i put a question mark.

In the future it would be helpful if you asked what I meant without insinuation. Thank you in advance.