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My husband accidentally let our dental insurance coverage lapse (he had a brain injury in 2007 and sometimes forgets things, and he forgot to do this even though I reminded him numerous times). Payment was due Tuesday, and my daughter is supposed to get a $1500 orthodontia appliance placed TODAY. Insurance would have paid 100% and we can’t pay it at all. I was out of work for 5 months this year - just started my new job in late July & am so busy I can’t do things like pay bills during business hours. My husband hasn’t worked since April and is in school for retraining. We CANNOT afford to pay this, and my daughter is only 8 years old with severe dental problems, so this is a mandatory thing for her.

I am sick to my stomach, I’m so worried that my husband won’t be able to convince the insurance company to have pity on us and let us pay the premium 2 days late. Please pray for us!
 
I don’t mean to be harsh but you should have paid the bill.
I’m sure he feels terrible about it. Knowing his problems
I think something of such importance should have been
taken care of by you.

Is she “your” daughter or “our” daughter?
 
**I may be in the same boat next week as my Medicaid is canceled.
I will pray for you at Lauds this Morning.

**
 
reindeer said:
I don’t mean to be harsh but you should have paid the bill.
I’m sure he feels terrible about it. Knowing his problems
I think something of such importance should have been
taken care of by you.
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As I said, he is perfectly capable of taking care of the bills now. It’s actually an important part of his brain injury recovery to assume responsibilities and follow through with them. I wouldn’t have let him pay the bills for the first two years after his injury, but he’s had no problems at all throughout 2010. I had been reminding him, and he had been assuring me that it would be taken care of as soon as we were off the phone. I had no reason to doubt him – I don’t know why this one thing didn’t stick into his brain. And as I said, I can’t handle business on the phone at work.
reindeer said:
Is she “your” daughter or “our” daughter?
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She’s my daughter and she’s our daughter (my husband is her biological father). How is that a relevant question?

So, I guess you won’t be praying for us. Thanks anyway.
 
We will be praying for you!
Sr Susan and Visitation Sisters
 
Thanks to all who are praying – I’m praying for each of you during my lunch hour right now.

–Sparki
 
Sparki777 said:
My husband accidentally let our dental insurance coverage lapse (he had a brain injury in 2007 and sometimes forgets things, and he forgot to do this even though I reminded him numerous times). Payment was due Tuesday, and my daughter is supposed to get a $1500 orthodontia appliance placed TODAY. Insurance would have paid 100% and we can’t pay it at all. I was out of work for 5 months this year - just started my new job in late July & am so busy I can’t do things like pay bills during business hours. My husband hasn’t worked since April and is in school for retraining. We CANNOT afford to pay this, and my daughter is only 8 years old with severe dental problems, so this is a mandatory thing for her.

I am sick to my stomach, I’m so worried that my husband won’t be able to convince the insurance company to have pity on us and let us pay the premium 2 days late. Please pray for us!
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We all make mistakes and we can all become disoriented when things suddenly change.

Ask and you shall receive
Seek and you shall find
Knock and it shall be opened to you.
For whoever asks shall receive
He that seeks shall find
To him that knock it shall be opened
For whom amongst you if your child asks for bread you would give him a stone
If he asks for a fish you would give him a serpent
If you know how to give good things to your children how much more will God give good things to those who ask Him

Ask God, have faith and He will give you what you need

Clare
 
reindeer said:
I don’t mean to be harsh but you should have paid the bill.
I’m sure he feels terrible about it. Knowing his problems
I think something of such importance should have been
taken care of by you.

Is she “your” daughter or “our” daughter?
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Ouch! :ouch:

Haven’t you ever made a mistake Reindeer?
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Sparki777 said:
As I said, he is perfectly capable of taking care of the bills now. It’s actually an important part of his brain injury recovery to assume responsibilities and follow through with them. I wouldn’t have let him pay the bills for the first two years after his injury, but he’s had no problems at all throughout 2010. I had been reminding him, and he had been assuring me that it would be taken care of as soon as we were off the phone. I had no reason to doubt him – I don’t know why this one thing didn’t stick into his brain. And as I said, I can’t handle business on the phone at work.

She’s my daughter and she’s our daughter (my husband is her biological father). How is that a relevant question?

So, I guess you won’t be praying for us. Thanks anyway.
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Please relax. I was replying to your request as stated. His memory problems
were the only thing mentioned. Your daughter was referred to as “your”
daughter and I wondered if he might be her stepfather which sometimes
makes a difference to the biological parent. I never said I wouldn’t pray.
I know you are under stress and I pray you get the money you need.
Also not being able to call from work was not mentioned.

Sometimes how a request is stated isn’t always clear to the respondent.
Please let us know how it turns out.
Lorraine
 
poor_clare said:
Ouch! :ouch:

Haven’t you ever made a mistake Reindeer?
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Hi Poor_Clare,
Yes I have made many, many mistakes and maybe my response was a mistake.
Being bipolar I’m sensitive to myself failing in responsibility. To me having to be
reminded over and over and then forgetting would make me feel very guilty.
Reminding him was the only thing mentioned and I felt the guilt I would have felt.
Can you understand that? If not, I know that God knows what I’ve gone through
to even be where I am in spite of sin, mistakes, suicide attempts,etc …
Lorraine
 
reindeer said:
Hi Poor_Clare,
Yes I have made many, many mistakes and maybe my response was a mistake.
Being bipolar I’m sensitive to myself failing in responsibility. To me having to be
reminded over and over and then forgetting would make me feel very guilty.
Reminding him was the only thing mentioned and I felt the guilt I would have felt.
Can you understand that? If not, I know that God knows what I’ve gone through
to even be where I am in spite of sin, mistakes, suicide attempts,etc …
Lorraine
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Hi Lorraine

We all have crosses to bear which is why this should be one of the places we can all go for support without being judged.

I’m genuinely sorry for your troubles and I will remember you in my prayers today.

God bless

Clare
 
Our father who art in heaven.

Hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done.

On Earth as it is in heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

Forgive us our tresspasses, as we forgive those who tresspass against us.

lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.
 
Update: Insurance company said we can file an appeal, so we’re going to do that. We should have a decision in 10-14 days.

Thanks for all who prayed and please know that I have also prayed for each of you and will make all of you my Mass intention on Sunday.

Now a little housekeeping:
reindeer said:
Please relax. I was replying to your request as stated.
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I requested prayer, not judgment, and certainly not suspicion that my family wasn’t “up to snuff” if there was a stepparent situation.
reindeer said:
His memory problems were the only thing mentioned.
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He very rarely has memory issues any more, and this one surprised both of us. But brain injuries can be like that. I don’t think this was anybody’s fault – it was an unfortunate blip.
reindeer said:
Your daughter was referred to as “your” daughter and I wondered if he might be her stepfather which sometimes makes a difference to the biological parent.
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She is my daughter. You were trying to read something into the situation, apparently to assess blame, which (a) I didn’t ask you to do and (b) nobody else felt the need to do and (c) isn’t your job.
reindeer said:
I never said I wouldn’t pray.
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You never said you would, either.
reindeer said:
I know you are under stress and I pray you get the money you need.
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Thanks. I have prayed for you also.
reindeer said:
Also not being able to call from work was not mentioned.
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I said I couldn’t do personal business while I am at the office, but it’s okay that you missed it.

My sister has bi-polar disorder, so I do understand the struggles that a person might face, and I also know how guilty feelings can be magnified, and I understand the temptation to look for negativity that comes with the disorder. It is a heavy cross to bear.

My husband felt awful about the situation yesterday, and despite my consternation, I gave him all the love and understanding and forgiveness that I could. We’ve been married 16 years and we’ve been through a lot of painful struggles, including temporary infertility and his brain injury, which changed his personality for a time and robbed my kids of their dad and me of my partner until he had time to heal. But “for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in heath,” we’re in this together and I know we will find a way through with the help of God’s grace, even if our appeal is denied.

Thanks again, everybody.
 
Sparki I am sure Lorraine meant no harm she is a lovely person who has suffered a great deal.I feel sure she did not mean to come across as critisising but simply trying to point out that perhaps there may have been alternatives to your predicament.In any case.My love and prayers for you all.Im sorry for you and your husband and for Lorraine.We all have our crosses to bear.May God bless your husband and may your situation be resolved.May God bless Lorraine and help her also.

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
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