I read parts of 72 with regard to ‘reviling’ and noted that the matter can be mortal sin in some instances. However, wouldn’t the three conditions need to be present in order to make it mortal? … even though the ‘matter’ be grave? Doesn’t one need to be fully conscious, in addition to the matter being mortally sinful, together with the person’s willingness to do it anyway?
It seems that some motivation to lash out stems from extremely wounded anger that has not yet been dealt with. The culpability may be lessened, if person’s motive is to vent, or to obtain counsel to deal with the matter.
This is very interesting and timely, for I have encountered this situation personally last week and have been trying to determine how serious my detraction was. My husband died, and when I called to file the death claim with the insurance company, I learned that my daughter cashed in the policy four years ago and kept the money my husband had prepaid in order to cover his final expenses. The balance was intended to be divided with another daughter after these were paid.
Initially my anger and shock was great, and I did try to obtain counsel as to what my next step should be. The persons I disclosed this to were very trusted friends who would not judge her, and who would offer good spiritual advice.
However, in telling the other children what took place, one of them is so livid that she told me she would spread the news of that daughter’s actions to everyone she knew. So how culpable am I for disclosing this to the angry daughter? I have to go back on the three conditions and also examine my sense of reviling at the moment I disclosed it to her. I’m sure my anger came out in a not-so-nice expression!
I was pleased to read the part about “vengence is mine.”